if yr chick "kinda" cheated...

[napaulm]

here's the deal. me and her had a rough patch. she didnt know if we'd work it out. to get over me, cuz she's in love, she finds a guy and basically fucks him everyday for a few weeks straight. now she wants me back, says boohoo, im so sorry, etc. in my mind, i consider it a co0mpliment. she degraded herself for some cock, but didnt know how else to handle it. would anyone here just drop her, or see it my way?

 

[Yohimbe33]

Where you together, even though you went through a rough patch or had you broken up or taken a definite break?

 

[EYE2EYE]

Drop HER. Peace.

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

here's the deal. me and her had a rough patch. she didnt know if we'd work it out. to get over me, cuz she's in love, she finds a guy and basically fucks him everyday for a few weeks straight. now she wants me back, says boohoo, im so sorry, etc. in my mind, i consider it a co0mpliment. she degraded herself for some cock, but didnt know how else to handle it. would anyone here just drop her, or see it my way?

If the two of you are (were) in a "commited" relationship and you find it to be a complient that she went out and fucked another guy for a week straight. Then it proves you're just as fucked up as she is!

If you find it 100% repulsive that she went and fucked someone else then that makes you the better person for dumping her. (at least you would have a good reason for dumping her) However it sounds like you're going to take her back no matter what advice anyone gives you. So just go ahead and take her back.

(just my .02)

 

[hemipower]

here's the deal. me and her had a rough patch. she didnt know if we'd work it out. to get over me, cuz she's in love, she finds a guy and basically fucks him everyday for a few weeks straight. now she wants me back, says boohoo, im so sorry, etc. in my mind, i consider it a co0mpliment. she degraded herself for some cock, but didnt know how else to handle it. would anyone here just drop her, or see it my way?

what she did is not ok and there is no justification...did you go out and do the same? Find some woman to tear up for a while to "heal your pain"? Probably not...be the bigger/better person, if this is what she does when things get rough...she most likely will again. Imagine being married to her and a bad fight ensues...so she goes out and bangs a couple guys to make her feel better?? Then comes home a few days later and is sorry and wants to patch things up. NO THANKS.

 

[pesty4077]

If someone trully loves someone, they will not go out and screw someone else right away. Sounds like she found the grass isn't always greener. Technically, either way is right for you to decide, since you were not together. I wouldn't because of my first statement.

 

[dabeast75]

here's the deal. me and her had a rough patch. she didnt know if we'd work it out. to get over me, cuz she's in love, she finds a guy and basically fucks him everyday for a few weeks straight. now she wants me back, says boohoo, im so sorry, etc. in my mind, i consider it a co0mpliment. she degraded herself for some cock, but didnt know how else to handle it. would anyone here just drop her, or see it my way?

Hard to answer bro. Things arent always black and white. I always said to myself that I would ditch any chick who ever cheated on me. But I am with a girl right now who I love, she loves me and we have a young son together. However, she cheated on me not too long along. It was a one time thing at a party. FInding out tore me into pieces man.

Now 99% of the people on this board would say DITCH THE BITCH. And I agree. If a person betrays your trust like that, its over. However, in this particular case SHE was the one who confessed, showed major remorse and made it up to me in the past few months. Yea it was a rough time, because that woman broke my heart and just the thought of her fucking somebody else hurt like hell. But she positively and without question PROVED to me that she loves me and would do anything to make it work again. In other words, she fought for me, and that my brother is the only thing that made a difference here. She wanted to make it up to me, as long as I was willing to accept her back, which I told her I couldnt guarantee but that I would try.
Turns out it was the right decision. Our relationship is now better than ever.

To cut a long story short, if the girl is not busting her ass in every possible way conceivable to man to win your trust and love back, I would not invest any more time in her. If she does, then I think she deserves a second chance, just like we all do if we make a mistake. But only if you can live with that.

Hope you make the right decision bro. Peace.

 

[napaulm]

technically, we werent together. still, if she really loves me,how could she just give her body to someone who's an asshole to her! every day!
hell, i was gonna use a woman to get past her, but couldnt. for the first time, i cared enuff about her that i didnt want anyone else. she on the other hand...im fuckin totally confused. i guess i needa drop her and just deal with the hurt. its better than prolonging it and wondering if he's fuckin her when im not around. this is the tip of the iceberg with her. u wouldnt believe the fucked up life she has. more reason to walk away i know. too bad my feelings are controlling my better judgement.

 

[napaulm]

Hard to answer bro. Things arent always black and white. I always said to myself that I would ditch any chick who ever cheated on me. But I am with a girl right now who I love, she loves me and we have a young son together. However, she cheated on me not too long along. It was a one time thing at a party. FInding out tore me into pieces man.

Now 99% of the people on this board would say DITCH THE BITCH. And I agree. If a person betrays your trust like that, its over. However, in this particular case SHE was the one who confessed, showed major remorse and made it up to me in the past few months. Yea it was a rough time, because that woman broke my heart and just the thought of her fucking somebody else hurt like hell. But she positively and without question PROVED to me that she loves me and would do anything to make it work again. In other words, she fought for me, and that my brother is the only thing that made a difference here. She wanted to make it up to me, as long as I was willing to accept her back, which I told her I couldnt guarantee but that I would try.
Turns out it was the right decision. Our relationship is now better than ever.

To cut a long story short, if the girl is not busting her ass in every possible way conceivable to man to win your trust and love back, I would not invest any more time in her. If she does, then I think she deserves a second chance, just like we all do if we make a mistake. But only if you can live with that.

Hope you make the right decision bro. Peace.

bro, yr a better person than me. i could never take woman back who cheated if we were committed. i know lots of women who cheated on their husbands, and they took em back. wtf??
and she has never shown me, in words or deeds, anything other than complete devotion and love. until we split for awhile, then she went slut city.

 

[Yohimbe33]

technically, we werent together. still, if she really loves me,how could she just give her body to someone who's an asshole to her! every day!
hell, i was gonna use a woman to get past her, but couldnt. for the first time, i cared enuff about her that i didnt want anyone else. she on the other hand...im fuckin totally confused. i guess i needa drop her and just deal with the hurt. its better than prolonging it and wondering if he's fuckin her when im not around. this is the tip of the iceberg with her. u wouldnt believe the fucked up life she has. more reason to walk away i know. too bad my feelings are controlling my better judgement.

Baggage always comes back to bite you.
Sounds to me like she's got security and self image issues, and as soon as the going gets tough she has to bang the shit out of someone to validate herself-make herself feel as if she's wanted.
That's not going to change until she gets over her security and self image issues, which probably won't happen.
That fact she went and banged the shit out of some dude when things went tits up isn't a compliment to you, it's indicative of her state of mind.
And it will happen again-things are not going to be peachy forever, and as soon as the going gets a bit tough she goes out and picks up random strangers to make herself feel wanted.

Sorry to say-and it probably isn't her fault if you say she's had issues, but it is what it is. Get out while you can

 

[napaulm]

Baggage always comes back to bite you.
Sounds to me like she's got security and self image issues, and as soon as the going gets tough she has to bang the shit out of someone to validate herself-make herself feel as if she's wanted.
That's not going to change until she gets over her security and self image issues, which probably won't happen.
That fact she went and banged the shit out of some dude when things went tits up isn't a compliment to you, it's indicative of her state of mind.
And it will happen again-things are not going to be peachy forever, and as soon as the going gets a bit tough she goes out and picks up random strangers to make herself feel wanted.

Sorry to say-and it probably isn't her fault if you say she's had issues, but it is what it is. Get out while you can

bud, i'd say you got it right. i feel a fool. to me, im degrading myself by keeping her around. goddam it. gonna hurt. time heals...

 

[hemipower]

technically, we werent together. still, if she really loves me,how could she just give her body to someone who's an asshole to her! every day!
hell, i was gonna use a woman to get past her, but couldnt. for the first time, i cared enuff about her that i didnt want anyone else. she on the other hand...im fuckin totally confused. i guess i needa drop her and just deal with the hurt. its better than prolonging it and wondering if he's fuckin her when im not around. this is the tip of the iceberg with her. u wouldnt believe the fucked up life she has. more reason to walk away i know. too bad my feelings are controlling my better judgement.

If her life is that bad she will bring you down...she obviously makes bad decisions. You wont trust her again and that will be misery...trust me. been in similar situation. It is hard, but think about the FACTS even just the ones you put here..."fucked up life she has" and "gave her body to someone..." there has to be better out there...even if you have to make a list of pros and cons to see there are WAY more cons...do it. Spend time with close friends and meet some new ones...men and women.

 

[SIB88]

agreed! thats no compliment...haha "she loves me so much she bangs other dudes"...um..ok..im glad my girl doesnt love me then..

If the two of you are (were) in a "commited" relationship and you find it to be a complient that she went out and fucked another guy for a week straight. Then it proves you're just as fucked up as she is!

If you find it 100% repulsive that she went and fucked someone else then that makes you the better person for dumping her. (at least you would have a good reason for dumping her) However it sounds like you're going to take her back no matter what advice anyone gives you. So just go ahead and take her back.

(just my .02)

 

[Ehren]

Two sides to this, IMO., but one outcome, unfortunately.
What she did is "normal" to many people, if you had truly broken up/taken a break. Not good, but normal.

Id be giving you different advice here, if she'd said she wanted to have some fun and that's that. But making excuses is bad. You were likely far from her mind at that time, Bro.

Bottom line is, you're hurt by it and it will cause many many questions in your head and heart for a long time.

Good luck, Bro. That sucks. But you sound young and know enough to let her go if it's gonna eat you up. If you can let it go, really and truly, you are a rare man indeed. But unless you can TRULY clear it from your head, I'd say move on.

 

[highoutput]

I would get rid of her. she went out and ruined anything special that was there.

 

[caveman]

I dont know, when i love someone, just the thought of some goof dumpin his load in er, i could never take her back and pretend its going to be the same.

 

[scrapper13]

no disrespect but that is a whore move. she couldn't go a few weeks without dick??? you deserve better than that man u gotta get rid of her. love takes a long time to go away even after breaking up with someone. if she is able to just turn it on and off like that then i don't think its true love.

 

[richiec]

bud, i'd say you got it right. i feel a fool. to me, im degrading myself by keeping her around. goddam it. gonna hurt. time heals...

don't feel a fool, it has happened to many men. the same exact situation happened with me a few yrs back, to the T. trust me from experience, let it go. Dabeast75 had a reason to get back with his chick, they have a kid together. like it's been said already, she had to go nail someone when the going got tough, it WILL happen again. I tried to hang on, it will only get worse. she will see/think that she's got you whooped and will walk all over you. take time and move on

 

[superbeast22]

it happens, i took my ex back after we broke up and she literally replaced me with another random guy, was sucking his dick, fucking him, cooking for him, driving him around and shit...

i fucked some other girls after we broke up (i kinda went man whore... no pride there) and one day she emailed me saying she loved me and shit, i emailed her back asking what exactly she wanted, and she said she wanted to be with me, i stopped hanging with the girl i was hanging with and went back with her like a dumbass

everytime i looked at her, i thought of her fucking him, and i couldnt get over it, what kinda sucks is i knew she was serious in wanting me back and made a mistake, but i just couldnt get over that she got mad at me and gave herself to another guy, some ugly fucking loser, she used him as a tissue... and that to me shows no class.

 

[napaulm]

it happens, i took my ex back after we broke up and she literally replaced me with another random guy, was sucking his dick, fucking him, cooking for him, driving him around and shit...

i fucked some other girls after we broke up (i kinda went man whore... no pride there) and one day she emailed me saying she loved me and shit, i emailed her back asking what exactly she wanted, and she said she wanted to be with me, i stopped hanging with the girl i was hanging with and went back with her like a dumbass

everytime i looked at her, i thought of her fucking him, and i couldnt get over it, what kinda sucks is i knew she was serious in wanting me back and made a mistake, but i just couldnt get over that she got mad at me and gave herself to another guy, some ugly fucking loser, she used him as a tissue... and that to me shows no class.

bro, i feel you! tho i couldnt fuck anyone. had too many feelings for her. she said the same shit. oh i want u wanna make love to you, blah blah.while she was at the guys house with him. she was texting me this shit. so i ended up back with her. then, this friday and saturday, i find shes been fuckin her drug dealer all weekend. cuz she's a pain pill head. jesus fuckin christ!!!
so now! im done. tho i feel more for her than anyone i ever did, i will not have my heart used as a doormat. im done with woman. my hand will always be by my side!