Is there any way to satisfy women? Someone please give me some insight!!

[abolish the weak]

They're mad when your home all the time sitting on your ass. But when your gone busting your ass to make money TO PROVIDE FOR THEM, then they're mad your never home. So what the fuck!! Seems like a no win situation sometimes. Can I please have 3 God damn hours a week to workout anymore? That's all I'm asking for!!! That's the only ME TIME I get, besides for when I'm asleep, which no longer happens much anymore. I'll be damned if I ever give up working out and sit at home on my ass with a case of beer like everyone else. Oh wait, but then your just an alcoholic who needs help and is worthless, even though you stay home all of the time. Single guys, here is some free advice. Find a chick who is into the gym like you are, then you can both go together.

 

[Phidias]

Title of the thread made me think we were gonna talk sex...

 

[Ness]

Youre unhappy. Change something so youre not.

 

[Big Bapper]

They're mad when your home all the time sitting on your ass. But when your gone busting your ass to make money TO PROVIDE FOR THEM, then they're mad your never home. So what the fuck!! Seems like a no win situation sometimes. Can I please have 3 God damn hours a week to workout anymore? That's all I'm asking for!!! That's the only ME TIME I get, besides for when I'm asleep, which no longer happens much anymore. I'll be damned if I ever give up working out and sit at home on my ass with a case of beer like everyone else. Oh wait, but then your just an alcoholic who needs help and is worthless, even though you stay home all of the time. Single guys, here is some free advice. Find a chick who is into the gym like you are, then you can both go together.

Congralutions, so you just got married then.

 

[Thor]

THIS IS

EXACTLY WHY I WILL NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN> divorced, and my brothers wife was the same way no matter what he did she was NEVER HAPPY, so he said SEE YA , single life is so much easier for me and more fun.

 

[EVERLAST]

guys.............

when you find the RIGHT WOMAN all of this crap falls into place!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was like you, feeling trapped in a no win relationship.
Nothing was good enough.
After the blast and fallout (nuclear winter) the single life was fun.
Taking out all of my frustrations and living like some kind of gypsy.
One woman to the next, never getting anything close to serious...
Then, in the nost unexpected way....
I met Sassy!
Life has never been the same.

Find a girl who has similar interests, similar taste in foods, similar tastes in sex and entertainment, in short find somebody you could live with without having to get your needs met somewhere else.
Dont settle, or you be sorry later.
Once you find her.....life is soooooo much easier.
Not easy, but easier.

Wish I knew at 18 what I know now.

 

[abadseal]

Ya know, at first hearing don't ever get married always seemed like a joke or just sarcasm but after you hear something for the 5000th time from people who I imagine were very happy and in love at the beginning and to see all the problems it could possibly bring later in life. I honestly will try my best to never give in and get married due to all the advice I've been given. For every 1 man that says he's happy and couldn't imagine his life without his wife there are 45 others that deep down regret it or at least a part of it.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

Ya know, at first hearing don't ever get married always seemed like a joke or just sarcasm but after you hear something for the 5000th time from people who I imagine were very happy and in love at the beginning and to see all the problems it could possibly bring later in life. I honestly will try my best to never give in and get married due to all the advice I've been given. For every 1 man that says he's happy and couldn't imagine his life without his wife there are 45 others that deep down regret it or at least a part of it.

Yes. And there is a very good reason for that. People are whores today. People jump into a sexual relationship before they have even gotten to know the person. Then they are emotionally entangled and invested and discover one day when it finally dawns on them, "HEY! This girl is not for me!" Which wouldn't normally be a problem but by then they are married, have kids, are living together, etc., etc., etc.

From my experience, which I believe to be at least somewhat extensive, it's best to either date around and let it be what it is, or look for a relationship and keep it zipped up until you get to know someone well enough and it develops into a relationship.

Don't let someone jump into your bed and into your life until you know exactly who that person is and what they are like.

 

[Tom]

my next wife.....

EXACTLY WHY I WILL NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN> divorced, and my brothers wife was the same way no matter what he did she was NEVER HAPPY, so he said SEE YA , single life is so much easier for me and more fun.

my feelings exactly....my next wife will be somebody else's!!!

 

[meanjoebean]

To make women happy:
Either give them everything they want or be so badass that you don't have to.
Na seriously, all women are different (some more so than others), it sounds like you're just with one that you have conflicting views with, or maybe you're doing something else that makes her unhappy and she's taking it out on your free time.

 

[Blenderate]

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[OuchThatHurts]

I agree 100%. My wife and I talked about every single possible issue while we were dating and resolved just about everything ahead of time, so that when problems came up they didn't blindside us. We saved sex until after we got married, and then we learned together how to make it work and make it awesome. We've been together 9 years and our relationship gets better all the time. We're best friends.

We've both been through some rough stuff during our marriage. Family issues, serious illness, job problems, etc. But we just always try to act in the other's best interest and things work out. If there's multiple ways we can interpret a statement the other makes, we always assume the least venomous one.

I think a lot of relationships end up badly because people are trying to find conflict for some perverse reason. If you try to find resolution instead, most of these problems just go away. It requires humility and willingness to sacrifice, but it's totally worth it.

Humility and willingness to sacrifice for others are not exactly strong points among couples (or people in general) today which I'm certain you've already noticed. Those two qualities may be the two most important qualities a person should possess before attempting to successfully navigate a relationship. Usually, it's gimme, gimme, gimme, and me, me, me. And when that's all gone? Then it's, "We just lost feelings for each other."

Good post!

 

[aeliop]

Excellent point

Humility and willingness to sacrifice for others are not exactly strong points among couples (or people in general) today which I'm certain you've already noticed. Those two qualities may be the two most important qualities a person should possess before attempting to successfully navigate a relationship. Usually, it's gimme, gimme, gimme, and me, me, me. And when that's all gone? Then it's, "We just lost feelings for each other."

Good post!

Ouch you are right on the money with this one. In marriage and relationships you will often find people doing what Abolish is complaining about. "My gym time, poker time, girls night out etc.." The overwhelming theme is often mine, me, and I. Well that is not really the intention of marriage and families. Marriage is we, us, and our. Marriage is together, for each other, we provide something that we could never have as individuals. Once one gets married they must stop ever putting themselves first.

They're mad when your home all the time sitting on your ass. But when your gone busting your ass to make money TO PROVIDE FOR THEM, then they're mad your never home. So what the fuck!! Seems like a no win situation sometimes. Can I please have 3 God damn hours a week to workout anymore? That's all I'm asking for!!! That's the only ME TIME I get, besides for when I'm asleep, which no longer happens much anymore. I'll be damned if I ever give up working out and sit at home on my ass with a case of beer like everyone else. Oh wait, but then your just an alcoholic who needs help and is worthless, even though you stay home all of the time. Single guys, here is some free advice. Find a chick who is into the gym like you are, then you can both go together.!

abolish here is my advice to you and a key for you're marriage to be the happiest and best thing going in you're life.
You are thinking that you need to find the right girl you know the one with similar interests, goes to the gym, etc... Right now dude you aren't the right guy for her either. (I'm not ripping you, just hang with me) Everyday you have to think about how can I first and foremost fulfill my spouses needs, okay know how can I fulfill my kids needs. Once you learn to do that the world is you're oyster. What does that mean, well it means if you're kid likes comic books and you don't, well as long as he is good, respectful kid you might go to a comic book store with him. Talk to him about why they like comic books, whatever. When it comes to you're wife, well how can I make you happy today dear. You into gardening well lets plant something together today. Don't like gardening or cooking who cares you're doing something together. Abolish I promise you, once you start doing this you are going to feel better about yourself, you're family will appreciate you, and ultimately the giving and fulfilling each other will become contagious. Before you know it you're wife might be joining you on the couch just hanging out or maybe she might even start going to the gym. Good luck my man and let us know how things work out. You can have anything you want in this world, anything. Not by fulfilling your own needs, but by fulfilling the needs of someone else.

 

[oldfella]

Relationships/marriage is all about give and take. Anthony while I agree with you on most points I will disagree that you no longer have any "ME, MINE" or "I" time. Everyone needs their space. Yes family first, spouse first but there is also the critical me first as well. In small amounts me first is very important to maintain one's identity of self. I am not talking about being selfish, I am talking about preservation of sanity. This door swings both ways of course. This is where the art of compromise and negotiation come in. You have wants, she has wants. Rarely will both of your wants ever be indentical. SO it is then time to define the "ME FIRST" time. As long as each is willing to accomodate the "ME FIRST" for each other then there is your happy medium.

"I" need to go to the gym. "I" need some space and time for "ME". (male)

"I" want to go out with my girlfriend. "I" need some time to do things for "ME" (female). See how this works?

I know what I have here is avery simple example but it is still in the idea of "SELF". It helps to maintain a healthy charcater and benefits the relationship and family in the long run. It is all centered around communication with each other and clarifying your individual needs. If that exists then I really do not see any rational thinking human denying the right to have some "ME" time. Just as you said Anthony, find some "WE" time in there that holds interest to both and do these things on a regular basis. Scheduling gym time in around the family or work is not that difficult. if it hold importance in your life then your partner had better know about this and you both work out a schedule together. If she has a girls luncheon every wdnesday afternoon, then you had better know about that and plan around it. Not that hard really. Just communicate..................it does work!!

 

[Designbuilt]

Yes. And there is a very good reason for that. People are whores today. People jump into a sexual relationship before they have even gotten to know the person. Then they are emotionally entangled and invested and discover one day when it finally dawns on them, "HEY! This girl is not for me!" Which wouldn't normally be a problem but by then they are married, have kids, are living together, etc., etc., etc.

From my experience, which I believe to be at least somewhat extensive, it's best to either date around and let it be what it is, or look for a relationship and keep it zipped up until you get to know someone well enough and it develops into a relationship.

Don't let someone jump into your bed and into your life until you know exactly who that person is and what they are like.

That has to be the best advice I've ever read on this subject.

 

[Sigmund Roid]

It doesn't get much clearer than this message posted by OuchThatHurts.

Yes. And there is a very good reason for that. People are whores today. People jump into a sexual relationship before they have even gotten to know the person. Then they are emotionally entangled and invested and discover one day when it finally dawns on them, "HEY! This girl is not for me!" Which wouldn't normally be a problem but by then they are married, have kids, are living together, etc., etc., etc.

From my experience, which I believe to be at least somewhat extensive, it's best to either date around and let it be what it is, or look for a relationship and keep it zipped up until you get to know someone well enough and it develops into a relationship.

Don't let someone jump into your bed and into your life until you know exactly who that person is and what they are like.

Perfect.

 

[lilkoreangirl]

through a girl's eyes...

So many times people confuse infatuation [because something is new and exciting] with love and inadvertantly rush their way into very fallable relationships only to say later, "he/she definitely wasn't 'the one.'" It's sad/frustrating because so many people live in a paradigm where everything goes a million miles an hour [and they genuinely feel like it's SUPPOSED to be that way] all the while never stopping to think, to feel, to TRULY appreciate and RESPECT [each other]. Whether it be at work, on the street, or at home. Everything is go, go, go. How quickly can I make a buck? How quickly can I shed this weight? How quickly can I get into his/her pants? It's refreshing to see/hear someone who takes their time to enjoy/experience/benefit and learn from all that life has to offer. I often joke with Luc about how long he takes at EVERYTHING, but the truth is I wish I could slow down a bit and really take it all in, too. We balance each other out like that. I'm take the fast lane. He's take the scenic route. Opposites can attract. We are living proof. We differ in so many ways, but find that it compliments one another. There have been terrible times, there are tough patches and I'll bet the worst hasn't hit us, but for the right person, it's all worth it--and he is. No matter what's going on in the world, at work, or at home we always stop to ask each other how our days were. To kiss as soon as we walk through the door. And lately, to fantasize about what food we're going to eat after the show...

Anyway, my point is, find someone who balances you out. Someone who makes you thank [insert your favorite thing here] for the chance to have another day with them. If you haven't found that yet, WAIT. It will come. But you have to be patient. And you have to realize that the best relationships require the most work. Not always hard, not always easy. But always work-like a career you love with it's natural ups and downs. Also like a career, you don't just fall into it, you work your way up...no quick fixes!

Hope you find peace in your life and strength/patience to hold out for a investment-worthy love.

LKG

 

[abolish the weak]

good advice everyone. I forgot to mention she's pregnant too, so that's probably 80% of the reason she's acting like a nutcase. I'm going to have to change the way I train b/ 2 jobs and a kid on the way. 2-3x/wk w/ weights, and focus on more cardio now. Cardio is easier for me to find time to do. It'll be a long time before I ever compete again. But first things first, I know that much. I've seen alot of guys in this sport miss out on a family, job opportunities, and even retirement because they were so hung up on the gym. Not going to be me, I'm just the guy trying to find a way to stay in the gym, buy some supplements here and there, and stay muscular. Again, thanks everyone, I took much of what people said into consideration. I'm not leaving my wife or anything, just need to change a few things, starting with me I suppose

 

[OuchThatHurts]

good advice everyone. I forgot to mention she's pregnant too, so that's probably 80% of the reason she's acting like a nutcase.

Is this your first child?

 

[OuchThatHurts]

So many times people confuse infatuation [because something is new and exciting] with love and inadvertantly rush their way into very fallable relationships only to say later, "he/she definitely wasn't 'the one.'" It's sad/frustrating because so many people live in a paradigm where everything goes a million miles an hour [and they genuinely feel like it's SUPPOSED to be that way] all the while never stopping to think, to feel, to TRULY appreciate and RESPECT [each other]. Whether it be at work, on the street, or at home. Everything is go, go, go. How quickly can I make a buck? How quickly can I shed this weight? How quickly can I get into his/her pants? It's refreshing to see/hear someone who takes their time to enjoy/experience/benefit and learn from all that life has to offer. I often joke with Luc about how long he takes at EVERYTHING, but the truth is I wish I could slow down a bit and really take it all in, too. We balance each other out like that. I'm take the fast lane. He's take the scenic route. Opposites can attract. We are living proof. We differ in so many ways, but find that it compliments one another. There have been terrible times, there are tough patches and I'll bet the worst hasn't hit us, but for the right person, it's all worth it--and he is. No matter what's going on in the world, at work, or at home we always stop to ask each other how our days were. To kiss as soon as we walk through the door. And lately, to fantasize about what food we're going to eat after the show...

Anyway, my point is, find someone who balances you out. Someone who makes you thank [insert your favorite thing here] for the chance to have another day with them. If you haven't found that yet, WAIT. It will come. But you have to be patient. And you have to realize that the best relationships require the most work. Not always hard, not always easy. But always work-like a career you love with it's natural ups and downs. Also like a career, you don't just fall into it, you work your way up...no quick fixes!

Hope you find peace in your life and strength/patience to hold out for a investment-worthy love.

LKG

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Normally I hate the smileys but I love your posts. Do you have any sisters that think like you?