Give it to me straight

Chuckblonde · Oct 29, 2009

So this summer I went home from the University I'm at now to take extra classes at a University near my mom's place. I took Chem 2 and Statistics and aced them both, got an A+ on both finals. That night (after finals) I got arrested for a gram of pot. Lost all the money I made working over summer to pay for legal bullshit so I couldn't take my car back to my full-time university. Ten days after I was arrested I got certified as a personal trainer through ACE. I've been back at school since August 21st and still don't have a job, my parents are supporting me 75%. I feel like shit because I was more independent when I was 17 making 400 a week working construction, now I'm a sophomore in college with almost zero income. I apply for a new job every couple days and I barely even get callbacks. My options are limited without transportation. I was planning on working for the University but they won't give me federal work study since my parents have alot of money, I also doubt they want to hire someone with drug charges. I don't want to be under anyone wing, I hate being a parasite that someone has to support. Tell me am I being a crybaby? is there even a reason for me to be upset? I know its all my fault. I'm serving my sentence, which is a drug treatment program and I'll be done in 5 weeks. My main issue is with the car though, its in my name I just can't afford insurance. It feels like a catch 22, I need a job to pay for the car but I need a car to get a job. I feel like half the man I was.

juicy j · Oct 29, 2009

Was this a felony in your state??

Anyway, I understand bro and yes you have a right to be upset just don't let that consume you and make you feel even worse. I am the kind of guy that will continue to beat myself up over a mistake, that is no good.

I hope things work out for you bro, good luck!

Chuckblonde · Oct 29, 2009

Nah just a 2 misdemeanors. They'll be expunged in 8 months. I'm like that too, can't believe I fucked up so bad after working so hard since I got into college.

Ehren · Oct 30, 2009

It's just hard now Brother, but you're still the guy who's in school, ACED two exams, HAS a car, HAS a training cert, HAS supportive parents and most of all HAS the ability to support himself with his mind. Good on ya, mate. You will bounce back. This will pass.

Been there, for a different issue at your age. A little fight almost cost me a scholarship, college, my girlfriend and did cost some court time, stress and massive parental disapproval. Feels shitty, but it'll all work out. Good luck.

OuchThatHurts · Oct 31, 2009

Do you know for a fact that the lack of callbacks are drug related? In regards to misdemeanors, a DWI is a misdemeanor usually. Half the country has a misdemeanor lying around somewhere.

Straight up? Be a good little boy and do your 8 months and don't violate proby and this will all be a bad memory.

Remember, statistically speaking, most of the people looking at your resume or app have tried or even regularly use marijuana.

Like someone else said, be cool, relax, and let time fix all.