The guy seems solid.
Run downs - all verified
- Professionally - He directs music videos for hard rock/metal bands
- Side Hustle - Organizes cage and open water diving with Great Whites
- Traveled the world
- In a good place financially it seems
- He was actually adopted so sort of understands what is going on and found his birth mother about a decade ago
Cons
- Not a fan of how he lives his life - frequently visits strip clubs etc
- Multiple struggles in the past with chemical and alcohol dependency
- Seems to still have an infatuation with my biological mother (sent me gobs of old photos he still has of her/me as a child - It may just be me, but I do not have a single photo of an ex)
I think I would like to meet him face to face but schedule won't allow that until January.
Skinny on the situation - from what I have pieced together
Biological mother and biological father were dating 1985-1987. She meets the individual I thought was my father (lets call him weasel for ease of flow). Weasel's father (individual I still consider my grandfather, a good and ethical man I will add) was at a tech firm that went public (1986). Needless to say a fair amount of wealth was generated nearly overnight. Biological mother saw this and began sleeping with both of them. Biological father gets her pregnant. She lies and tells weasel it is his. They shotgun a wedding in January of 1987. She vanishes on him. I'm born. She starts going behind weasels back with second thoughts, thinking weasel would have also have personal wealth from his father's success, seeing my biological father and bringing me along with her. Grandfather winds up setting Weasel up with a trust, biological mother makes her decision.
I'm a white dude - but I swear I live in a tela-novela.