Sorry...need to vent...some women are pure evil!!

[brandonjpowell]

Over the past three years I have watched my marriage totally
disintegrate from a loving, happy relationship to one of
hate and anger. My wife was my best friend for over 14
years and now it's gone.

She flew off to England with her boss this Friday to visit
her brother who is in the US Air Force stationed just out
side of London. She told me for the past few weeks that she
would like to reconcile with me and try and make our
marriage work. Well Friday she said she was filing for
divorce when she gets back.

Apparently her boss, whom she had an affair with off and on
over the past three and a half years is taking her to visit
her brother and is going to ask her for her hand in marriage.

Friday I find out that the only reason she was talking about
reconciling with me is because she though she was pregnant
with his child and wanted me back in the picture long enough
for it to look like the child was mine.

How fucked up is that?

My wife and I separated officially on June 1 of last year,
and for the better part of that year I have been fighting
to win her back. Finally I give up and let go only for her
to start talking about reconciling.

Now this...

To make matters worse, I have very strong feelings for
another woman with whom I have been talking to over the
past year and a half. She has been going through the same
thing with her husband (so she said) and we really clicked
from the first time we talked.

Unlike all of my other relationships, my wife included, we
did not have feelings for each other from the start. There
was no chemistry between us, just great conversation and
allot of laughs.

Well after like the 15th time my wife said we would get
together for dinner to discuss our relationship and having
her very rudely turn me away at the last second I decided to
give this other girl a shot at a relationship.

Seemed logical at the time. We could talk about everything,
and we never fought about anything.

Turns out, now that I have gotten to know her, she's a
total fucking psycho whore.

Everything she said to me was a total and complete lie. And
to make matters worse, I slept with her! I actually went
against my vows because of the feelings I have for her and
the finality of my marriage.

Only to find out that over the past three weeks she has
been with four men while I have been at work..wtf.

Over the course of the past year I have had my best
friend for the last 14 years betray me and try to get me
to take responsibility for a child that is not mine.

I have broken my marriage vows with a woman I though I knew
and though loved me.

Don't even wanna think about what she may have crawling
around because of her promiscuity.

How in the hell do you trust anyone anymore?

Wow...ok..thanks for listening. I'm done now..lol

Peace,
Brandon

 

[pesty4077]

Over the past three years I have watched my marriage totally
disintegrate from a loving, happy relationship to one of
hate and anger. My wife was my best friend for over 14
years and now it's gone.

She flew off to England with her boss this Friday to visit
her brother who is in the US Air Force stationed just out
side of London. She told me for the past few weeks that she
would like to reconcile with me and try and make our
marriage work. Well Friday she said she was filing for
divorce when she gets back.

Apparently her boss, whom she had an affair with off and on
over the past three and a half years is taking her to visit
her brother and is going to ask her for her hand in marriage.

Friday I find out that the only reason she was talking about
reconciling with me is because she though she was pregnant
with his child and wanted me back in the picture long enough
for it to look like the child was mine.

How fucked up is that?

My wife and I separated officially on June 1 of last year,
and for the better part of that year I have been fighting
to win her back. Finally I give up and let go only for her
to start talking about reconciling.

Now this...

To make matters worse, I have very strong feelings for
another woman with whom I have been talking to over the
past year and a half. She has been going through the same
thing with her husband (so she said) and we really clicked
from the first time we talked.

Unlike all of my other relationships, my wife included, we
did not have feelings for each other from the start. There
was no chemistry between us, just great conversation and
allot of laughs.

Well after like the 15th time my wife said we would get
together for dinner to discuss our relationship and having
her very rudely turn me away at the last second I decided to
give this other girl a shot at a relationship.

Seemed logical at the time. We could talk about everything,
and we never fought about anything.

Turns out, now that I have gotten to know her, she's a
total fucking psycho whore.

Everything she said to me was a total and complete lie. And
to make matters worse, I slept with her! I actually went
against my vows because of the feelings I have for her and
the finality of my marriage.

Only to find out that over the past three weeks she has
been with four men while I have been at work..wtf.

Over the course of the past year I have had my best
friend for the last 14 years betray me and try to get me
to take responsibility for a child that is not mine.

I have broken my marriage vows with a woman I though I knew
and though loved me.

Don't even wanna think about what she may have crawling
around because of her promiscuity.

How in the hell do you trust anyone anymore?

Wow...ok..thanks for listening. I'm done now..lol

Peace,
Brandon

See FOR THE GUYS, a post by Ouch that hurts.

 

[confuzed_guy2000]

Turns out, now that I have gotten to know her, she's a
total fucking psycho whore.

Everything she said to me was a total and complete lie. And
to make matters worse, I slept with her! I actually went
against my vows because of the feelings I have for her and
the finality of my marriage.

Only to find out that over the past three weeks she has
been with four men while I have been at work..wtf.

Over the course of the past year I have had my best
friend for the last 14 years betray me and try to get me
to take responsibility for a child that is not mine.

I have broken my marriage vows with a woman I though I knew
and though loved me.

Don't even wanna think about what she may have crawling
around because of her promiscuity.

How in the hell do you trust anyone anymore?

Wow...ok..thanks for listening. I'm done now..lol

Peace,
Brandon

Wow, Brandon... Sorry to hear about this shit. The second part of your troubles hits home for me 'cause I too recently got involved with someone that wasn't what she pretended to be.

IMO, she was beneath my standards but we hung out and over time we just "clicked". I started to see her "inner" beauty (sorry, I know that sounds totally ghey) and kinda fell for her.

Make a long story short, she was the same "total fucking psycho" as you described.

Don't fret my brother. You really did nothing wrong, IMO, 'cause your marriage is basically over anyways - just waiting on the paperwork, so to speak.

I would guess you threw caution to the wind 'cause this psycho bitch told you what you wanted to hear - you said there was no initial attraction, right? There are chick players as well; they ain't so innocent. You are probably a good person - too good and people play you. You gotta focus on you now.

Cut out the bitches, get in the gym, and when your ready, go out and start dating again. You'll find someone out there. But for now, work on you. Don't let these degenerates bring you down.

Good luck bro.

 

[GymDudeVA]

I am SO glad I'm gay.

 

[Tom]

FWB

Sorry to hear what has happened to you. I've been divorced 7 years now and I will never get involved in a relationship again. All I want is friends with benefits. If things change and she talks relationship I just walk away and find another FWB.

 

[drob29]

Sorry to hear what has happened to you. I've been divorced 7 years now and I will never get involved in a relationship again. All I want is friends with benefits. If things change and she talks relationship I just walk away and find another FWB.

what a lonely way to go through life. Relationships are alot of work and with that they still fail sometimes, but to just not be willing to even entertain the thought of having another relationship would be foreign to me.

Sex is one thing. Having someone who I care about and to share life with is another, and when the two are put together, thats true "benefits" bro. Sucks for you that you wont have that again.

And brandon hopefully you wore a condom bro, sorry to hear about what your going through.

"my two cents"

 

[OuchThatHurts]

I am SO glad I'm gay.

HAHAHAHA!!! Yeah right! And you gay fellas have ZERO relationship probs. Believe me, my gay and lesbian friends are more drama than I can even keep up with! Not stereotyping at all. I just see that all the time. But still, I wish some of the girls I've dated were as sensitive and as good of listeners as some of my gay friends.

Course... it is saturday night... I may find her yet! (now just imagine you're listening to the song "Jungle Boogie")

 

[OuchThatHurts]

what a lonely way to go through life. Relationships are alot of work and with that they still fail sometimes, but to just not be willing to even entertain the thought of having another relationship would be foreign to me.

Sex is one thing. Having someone who I care about and to share life with is another, and when the two are put together, thats true "benefits" bro. Sucks for you that you wont have that again.

And brandon hopefully you wore a condom bro, sorry to hear about what your going through.

"my two cents"

Tom, he's right ya know? Not laying anything heavy on you dude. But yeah. If you're happy the way you are then cool and the gang but if you are the way you are because of a bad experience, then you're still captive to the bad experience. On the other hand, minus the bad experience, if you just make a free will choice to live your life with the FWB's, then that's a whole nuther ball 'o wax.

 

[Tom]

Kind of a choice....

Tom, he's right ya know? Not laying anything heavy on you dude. But yeah. If you're happy the way you are then cool and the gang but if you are the way you are because of a bad experience, then you're still captive to the bad experience. On the other hand, minus the bad experience, if you just make a free will choice to live your life with the FWB's, then that's a whole nuther ball 'o wax.

OTH... I have a 10 year old boy and I've had him almost every weekend and some days during the week since he was 3. I have never put him off on a sitter so I can date. I have no regrets about that and it would probably crush him if I were to tell him he couldn't come over because I want to start dating somebody. My ex (his mom) is recovering from her 3rd back surgery and because of her disabality she is not able to take him to the park, fishing, hiking, amusement parks etc. All he does at home is play computer games. If I hadn't been there to do the action adventure things over the years the poor kid would not know what it is to play outside. It is just about impossible to find a woman who is willing to be in a relationship when you offer her every other tuesday(a bit of an exageration but not by much). My son at 10 still needs me and that is my place for now. So for me an occaisonal FWB is the best I can do for now. My son comes first and alot of women just don't seem to accept that.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

OTH... I have a 10 year old boy and I've had him almost every weekend and some days during the week since he was 3. I have never put him off on a sitter so I can date. I have no regrets about that and it would probably crush him if I were to tell him he couldn't come over because I want to start dating somebody. My ex (his mom) is recovering from her 3rd back surgery and because of her disabality she is not able to take him to the park, fishing, hiking, amusement parks etc. All he does at home is play computer games. If I hadn't been there to do the action adventure things over the years the poor kid would not know what it is to play outside. It is just about impossible to find a woman who is willing to be in a relationship when you offer her every other tuesday(a bit of an exageration but not by much). My son at 10 still needs me and that is my place for now. So for me an occaisonal FWB is the best I can do for now. My son comes first and alot of women just don't seem to accept that.

This is what I hate about forums. It's impossible to see all angles to a situation. Now that I read this, I feel like a complete heel. I'm in a family of two myself. Except mine is getting hair on his legs. I understand where you're coming from and if I met you I'd shake your hand. Nevermind what I said before. God bless you and your family.

 

[VanR__]

what a lonely way to go through life. Relationships are alot of work and with that they still fail sometimes, but to just not be willing to even entertain the thought of having another relationship would be foreign to me.

It's really not that bad. Definitely not for everyone though.

 

[abolish the weak]

sounds like the bitch never had her head on straight to begin with. How many times have we heard of women leaving someone for they're boss. Reconcile what? The bitch tore your heart out and stepped on it, there should be nothing to reconcile man, I wouldn't even give her a 5 minute conversation, ESPECIALLY WITH THE WHOLE BABY THING SHE PUT OFF ON YOU!!

 

[Tom]

No need to feel like like that OTH...

This is what I hate about forums. It's impossible to see all angles to a situation. Now that I read this, I feel like a complete heel. I'm in a family of two myself. Except mine is getting hair on his legs. I understand where you're coming from and if I met you I'd shake your hand. Nevermind what I said before. God bless you and your family.

I never took offense to anything you said. On the contrary, I very much appreciate your feedback and wisdom. I could not be happier with how things are between me and my son and wish everyone could have the kind of relationship we have despite the divorce. He is as happy with me as he is with his mom. Some dad's will never experience these moments and I feel for them......My apologies to Brandon for somewhat hijacking his thread.

 

[drob29]

This is what I hate about forums. It's impossible to see all angles to a situation. Now that I read this, I feel like a complete heel. I'm in a family of two myself. Except mine is getting hair on his legs. I understand where you're coming from and if I met you I'd shake your hand. Nevermind what I said before. God bless you and your family.

same here.

Tom, sounds like you have your priorities in order and on track...keep it up. Sorry if the way I came across was "off target", because now that I know your situation, it was.

later

 

[Tom]

No need to apologize

same here.

Tom, sounds like you have your priorities in order and on track...keep it up. Sorry if the way I came across was "off target", because now that I know your situation, it was.

later

Drob29....I was not clear in my original post .....what I meant when a woman wants to talk relationship it often consists of me not seeing my son as often to spend more alone time with her. I won't do that and prefer to walk away and find another. So no need to apologize at all.

Tom

 

[GymDudeVA]

HAHAHAHA!!! Yeah right! And you gay fellas have ZERO relationship probs. Believe me, my gay and lesbian friends are more drama than I can even keep up with! Not stereotyping at all. I just see that all the time. But still, I wish some of the girls I've dated were as sensitive and as good of listeners as some of my gay friends.

Busted! You're right, it's a lot of the same crap, gay or straight. However (and you can call me mysoginist), I still think dudes are generally easier to deal with than women. My straight brother agrees.

Anyway, on a more serious note, I see people in a constant state of needing a relationship, no matter what, and that leads to many mistakes. It's *OK* to go for long periods being happy alone and without complications. I think 99% of people's problems comes from putting too much of their happiness in the hands of other people. I think this relationship stuff (and ultimately marriage for you straights) is the ultimate social pressure. Just do whatever you enjoy and don't feel like you have to WORK on something because someone ELSE says it's what life is about.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

Busted! You're right, it's a lot of the same crap, gay or straight. However (and you can call me mysoginist), I still think dudes are generally easier to deal with than women. My straight brother agrees.

Anyway, on a more serious note, I see people in a constant state of needing a relationship, no matter what, and that leads to many mistakes. It's *OK* to go for long periods being happy alone and without complications. I think 99% of people's problems comes from putting too much of their happiness in the hands of other people. I think this relationship stuff (and ultimately marriage for you straights) is the ultimate social pressure. Just do whatever you enjoy and don't feel like you have to WORK on something because someone ELSE says it's what life is about.

I agree but that's the problem. The feeling that you NEED to be in a relationship at all times. You don't! Rather than take time to reflect on the failed relationship and what you can do personally to make yourself better, you immediately pop yourself back into another relationship which then again, your time is devoted to him/her.

I'm writing congress to pass a bill that requires a mandatory 6-month refractory after any relationship longer than 3 months.

 

[oldfella]

I agree but that's the problem. The feeling that you NEED to be in a relationship at all times. You don't! Rather than take time to reflect on the failed relationship and what you can do personally to make yourself better, you immediately pop yourself back into another relationship which then again, your time is devoted to him/her.

I'm writing congress to pass a bill that requires a mandatory 6-month refractory after any relationship longer than 3 months.

I tend to agree here with you Ouch and With gymdude! There is not really a need to be in a relationship. IMO this places the person needing a relationship at great risk of being manipulated and lead around on a leash. Sorry it was the only way I could think of it. Now being in a relationship of choice is the prefered option, well for me anyway. I enjoy the company of a good woman and like having her around. I have gone long periods of no relationship and am quite happy with my own company most times. But I think if the relationship is contrived out of desire rather than need it becomes a fulfilling experience for both. It is all about the chemistry. Sure there is nothing wrong with playing the field if you wish, just make sure you are single when you do. If being in multiple casual relationships is your thing then go for it. Me I prefer one woman at a time thank you. NEXT!!!! LOL.

Tom, I admire you and your dedication to your son. He is one very fortunate kid to have a father as devoted as you are to his well being. I have no doubt he will grow into a fine man some day and be quite well rounded for the experience you have give him. Great job!!

Not all women are evil. We often bring a lot of this shit down upon oursleves with our attitudes and ways. Like women we have our own idiosyncrasies (sp) and are often just as hard to live with. Once in a while we (men) should take a step outside our own little world and look in, you may be surprised at what you see. But be objective when you do. No point is fooling yourself because it will show big time.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

I tend to agree here with you Ouch and With gymdude! There is not really a need to be in a relationship. IMO this places the person needing a relationship at great risk of being manipulated and lead around on a leash. Sorry it was the only way I could think of it. Now being in a relationship of choice is the prefered option, well for me anyway. I enjoy the company of a good woman and like having her around. I have gone long periods of no relationship and am quite happy with my own company most times. But I think if the relationship is contrived out of desire rather than need it becomes a fulfilling experience for both. It is all about the chemistry. Sure there is nothing wrong with playing the field if you wish, just make sure you are single when you do. If being in multiple casual relationships is your thing then go for it. Me I prefer one woman at a time thank you. NEXT!!!! LOL.

Tom, I admire you and your dedication to your son. He is one very fortunate kid to have a father as devoted as you are to his well being. I have no doubt he will grow into a fine man some day and be quite well rounded for the experience you have give him. Great job!!

Not all women are evil. We often bring a lot of this shit down upon oursleves with our attitudes and ways. Like women we have our own idiosyncrasies (sp) and are often just as hard to live with. Once in a while we (men) should take a step outside our own little world and look in, you may be surprised at what you see. But be objective when you do. No point is fooling yourself because it will show big time.

This post rocks. Oldfella needs to write a book!

...and I want 10% of the royalties because I first suggested it.