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Being an introvert I do not have a large group of friends. I rely on this forum for a lot of "guy topic" advices.
I am 39 years old. I have never been married before. I pursued a girl I met at work and we have been dating for 3 years. She is 37 years old now. She wants a family and kids and all that. I have been given an ultimatum either get married or break up. Over the last 3 months I have gone back and forth on my word so much, I feel like a coward. I feel like I am not a man. I even gave her a ring only to tell her 24 hours later, I am not sure I still need some time to decide.
On one hand the thought of getting married scares me. How will i travel the world, other woman still appeal to me. What If i want to pursue another woman. etc. Bascially everything that you cant have once married, all of a sudden start sounds appealing. I never did those things to be honest, but now that they will be off limits all of sudden I want to do them. So maybe it is just an illusion.
On the other hand, when I break up, I have the deepest grief, of missing this person. She has been a good girlfriend and very supportive. It would be very hard to find someone else similar and the thought of losing her hurts a lot too. May be this hurt is temporary? I dont know.
Last 3 months have been mental hell for me. I do not know what to do? Guys that have been married or not marreid please chime in and help me.
The other issue complicating things is my use of cialis. I have never told her about this but I take 5 mg of cialis before having sex. I dont know if its from previous use of AAS or just perfomance anxiety but it is like a crutch now. I am afraid and embarassed about having this discussion. I did test out my sperm count, as I know having children is important to her and that tested normal. I wish I had addressed this issue before but now I feel stuck.
I am 39 years old. I have never been married before. I pursued a girl I met at work and we have been dating for 3 years. She is 37 years old now. She wants a family and kids and all that. I have been given an ultimatum either get married or break up. Over the last 3 months I have gone back and forth on my word so much, I feel like a coward. I feel like I am not a man. I even gave her a ring only to tell her 24 hours later, I am not sure I still need some time to decide.
On one hand the thought of getting married scares me. How will i travel the world, other woman still appeal to me. What If i want to pursue another woman. etc. Bascially everything that you cant have once married, all of a sudden start sounds appealing. I never did those things to be honest, but now that they will be off limits all of sudden I want to do them. So maybe it is just an illusion.
On the other hand, when I break up, I have the deepest grief, of missing this person. She has been a good girlfriend and very supportive. It would be very hard to find someone else similar and the thought of losing her hurts a lot too. May be this hurt is temporary? I dont know.
Last 3 months have been mental hell for me. I do not know what to do? Guys that have been married or not marreid please chime in and help me.
The other issue complicating things is my use of cialis. I have never told her about this but I take 5 mg of cialis before having sex. I dont know if its from previous use of AAS or just perfomance anxiety but it is like a crutch now. I am afraid and embarassed about having this discussion. I did test out my sperm count, as I know having children is important to her and that tested normal. I wish I had addressed this issue before but now I feel stuck.