So this was spurred out of a convo with my guy friends the other night as we usually get together for games and steaks a couple times per month for a guys night.
A lot seemed to be motivated out of some frustration that jokes about male genethliac is common place to a point where commercials or billboards with subliminal messaging is not uncommon but very rarely does anyone ever touch on female genitalia size differences and when they do - it seems like they are quickly shamed which is sort of interesting from a sociology perspective.
There are a lot of variables here but here's my experience and was curious to hear other dudes thoughts after our convo -
Me: 6'1 male, age 30, very average dick size 6in, sexual partners (not exactly sure) around 35 maybe slightly higher. Female sexual partners that I would rank as very tight (one finger is a notably tight fit) around ~20-25% of partners so maybe around 7 people. Average fit (one finger not notably tight but good fit) about 60% of partners. Larger diameter genitals (easy fit 2 fingers no warm up) probably 15-20% of partners.
My experiences:
1. Tightest: Female partners that were significantly tighter (famous gorilla grip memes on IG) the sex was always better. Those females were (generally) more sensitive, orgasmed more easily, and orgasmed more frequently per encounter. Definite trend of needing less direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Those partners always (verbally) noted the mutual experience of "excellent, or similar descriptor, sex" in some way. Interestingly, these females always tended to be less 'sore' after prolonged sex and were generally ready to go again sooner. I regularly had 2-5 hour encounters with most of these partners. Also interesting, these females were pretty much across the board larger people (taller, usually above 5'5-5'6, and maybe larger boned. The tightest girls were almost always not the 5'1 110-20lb female like I first expected before I had more partners. These females tend to 'know' and have female equivalent "BDE" - as an aside, the last partner I was with in this category was watching to see my expression (although I did not know it at first) when I first put a finger in her. When I did, and looked up at her immediately, she got this I'm-going-to-fuck-up-your-life smile and said "yeah, right?"
2. Average: Female partners that were average - about what you would expect. Good sex generally, more variable. Tended to orgasm less easily or frequently but did not always hold true. Tended to need more clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Intensity and pleasure tended to vary more but was generally always good. Interestingly, there was a trend to be more 'sore' after sex or prolonged sexual encounters but this was still the minority of partners. These girls tended to be smaller in stature but not always.
3. Larger than average: Female partners who were above average in vaginal diameter were the smallest number of partners but still about ~15-20%. These were typically "okay" sexual encounters but most of them were also one-time encounters and, from my evaluation as it was never stated outright, less satisfactory experiences for both parties. There was actually one very attractive female I went out with. I ended up giver her oral and, per her words when I finished, that it was a far above average experience but then was mad when I didn't have sex with her - my reasoning was due to the fact she did have much larger genitalia than average and I knew I was personally not very interested but obviously did not tell her (until later when she insisted I give her more info when she asked why I didn't have sex with her and did not want to continue seeing her).
Now, clearly there are a lot of variables here. If you are an above average guy, then this will likely never be an issue for you and it won't come up/won't matter although I would still guess that (within reason) tighter is still better for those guys. There were a handful of females out of those 35-40 partners where getting a single finger in her without discomfort took a significant amount of warm up. Those females/experiences were hands down some of the best sex (generally) but I cannot imagine how hung guys are having sex with those partners without a lot of discomfort on the females part. I've had a couple encounters where the female ended up with a bruised cervix and significant discomfort for several days and, like I said, I am a very average guy.
So - agree, disagree, indifferent?
Bonus - has anyone had relationship issues because of this? I'm in the middle of similar issue right now with a partner as she is a little above average and it generally makes me less interested unless we are doing anal lol. After my previous partner that was tighter its been an unspoken issue for me that I obviously cannot communicate.
A lot seemed to be motivated out of some frustration that jokes about male genethliac is common place to a point where commercials or billboards with subliminal messaging is not uncommon but very rarely does anyone ever touch on female genitalia size differences and when they do - it seems like they are quickly shamed which is sort of interesting from a sociology perspective.
There are a lot of variables here but here's my experience and was curious to hear other dudes thoughts after our convo -
Me: 6'1 male, age 30, very average dick size 6in, sexual partners (not exactly sure) around 35 maybe slightly higher. Female sexual partners that I would rank as very tight (one finger is a notably tight fit) around ~20-25% of partners so maybe around 7 people. Average fit (one finger not notably tight but good fit) about 60% of partners. Larger diameter genitals (easy fit 2 fingers no warm up) probably 15-20% of partners.
My experiences:
1. Tightest: Female partners that were significantly tighter (famous gorilla grip memes on IG) the sex was always better. Those females were (generally) more sensitive, orgasmed more easily, and orgasmed more frequently per encounter. Definite trend of needing less direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Those partners always (verbally) noted the mutual experience of "excellent, or similar descriptor, sex" in some way. Interestingly, these females always tended to be less 'sore' after prolonged sex and were generally ready to go again sooner. I regularly had 2-5 hour encounters with most of these partners. Also interesting, these females were pretty much across the board larger people (taller, usually above 5'5-5'6, and maybe larger boned. The tightest girls were almost always not the 5'1 110-20lb female like I first expected before I had more partners. These females tend to 'know' and have female equivalent "BDE" - as an aside, the last partner I was with in this category was watching to see my expression (although I did not know it at first) when I first put a finger in her. When I did, and looked up at her immediately, she got this I'm-going-to-fuck-up-your-life smile and said "yeah, right?"
2. Average: Female partners that were average - about what you would expect. Good sex generally, more variable. Tended to orgasm less easily or frequently but did not always hold true. Tended to need more clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Intensity and pleasure tended to vary more but was generally always good. Interestingly, there was a trend to be more 'sore' after sex or prolonged sexual encounters but this was still the minority of partners. These girls tended to be smaller in stature but not always.
3. Larger than average: Female partners who were above average in vaginal diameter were the smallest number of partners but still about ~15-20%. These were typically "okay" sexual encounters but most of them were also one-time encounters and, from my evaluation as it was never stated outright, less satisfactory experiences for both parties. There was actually one very attractive female I went out with. I ended up giver her oral and, per her words when I finished, that it was a far above average experience but then was mad when I didn't have sex with her - my reasoning was due to the fact she did have much larger genitalia than average and I knew I was personally not very interested but obviously did not tell her (until later when she insisted I give her more info when she asked why I didn't have sex with her and did not want to continue seeing her).
Now, clearly there are a lot of variables here. If you are an above average guy, then this will likely never be an issue for you and it won't come up/won't matter although I would still guess that (within reason) tighter is still better for those guys. There were a handful of females out of those 35-40 partners where getting a single finger in her without discomfort took a significant amount of warm up. Those females/experiences were hands down some of the best sex (generally) but I cannot imagine how hung guys are having sex with those partners without a lot of discomfort on the females part. I've had a couple encounters where the female ended up with a bruised cervix and significant discomfort for several days and, like I said, I am a very average guy.
So - agree, disagree, indifferent?
Bonus - has anyone had relationship issues because of this? I'm in the middle of similar issue right now with a partner as she is a little above average and it generally makes me less interested unless we are doing anal lol. After my previous partner that was tighter its been an unspoken issue for me that I obviously cannot communicate.