my woman's had 20 guys

[biggreenstacks]

Exactly

lol......your the ONLY one getting once a month bro

she gettin it somewhere

i'll almost bet my life on it

Same thing I was thinking

 

[Big Dave Smith]

20 different guys? But how many times each guy? How many unprotected? How many of them live locally? Many variables.

I played baseball. NOBODY was allowed to put their hand in my glove.... PERDIOD. I like to think of my women the same way.

If I know that a girl has been with (x) number of guys... and I was a single guy looking for a relationship... she'd either be above the appropriate comfort level for me, which would only give her the option of being a no-strings attached fling. If she's been under a certain number of guys, then she's dating material.

There's also a time issue. If was was 20 guys, then married for a decade, then you got her without any guys between the ex-husband and you... then enough time has elapsed for it to be okay.

This is a good Larry David/Seinfeld argument.

 

[Emery]

Ive been married 7 years and have no clue how many & dont want that to change. She doesnt know my # either. If it happened before, it doesnt matter. Best just tro let this one go Bro.

I've been with my wife for 9 years and she has asked me many times what my number is... My answer is the same every time, I say "you and only you baby!" then she says "come on" and I say "NO FUCKIN WAY!" I have never asked her to give up her number either.

I don't think she has a high number but will never know. Really, why would it matter if your relationship is solid and you trust your spouse? Now if I thought she was cheating, I'd be finding out more than just her number!

 

[tenny]

I've been with my wife for 9 years and she has asked me many times what my number is... My answer is the same every time, I say "you and only you baby!" then she says "come on" and I say "NO FUCKIN WAY!" I have never asked her to give up her number either.

I don't think she has a high number but will never know. Really, why would it matter if your relationship is solid and you trust your spouse? Now if I thought she was cheating, I'd be finding out more than just her number!

same here.......dont wanna know shit

to me........she was a virgin

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

man, i didnt ask her. she asked me how many, then just came out and told me that before i told her mine. and yeah, its a question of knowing 20 guys had their cocks in all her holes. and believe me, she is a sexual nasty bitch.
loves it perverted. good for me, but still. imagining her doin what she does with all them others gives me the creeps.

Seems to me you got out of this relationship exactly what you were looking for!

 

[Designbuilt]

you know, i really cant say. i agree with you tho.
i do know she loves sex. she's a 3 input woman, so me and her get along extremely well. i was feeling better about this after getting it out and reading all these replies. til i met her most recent ex today. now? i can't get images of them out of my mind, particularly cuz i know what she loves doing and makes me ill knowing she did that with him! i think it's not worth the hassle anymore. i dig her the most, but having these childish sickening feelings just doesnt work for me. i know it'll hurt her, but fuck it. i gotta look out for my own piece of mind. i wonder, would a counselor or shrink be able to help me?
im tired of these thoughts keepin me from love!

Well... If you do decide to end it, PM me her number...

I'm kidding...

When I first started dating my ex-wife, she knew that I've been with a lot of girls, (she knew about 10 of them) She did ask me my number and to me at the time (26) it didn't really matter so I told her the aprox image number which was a bit high, I have to admit... I used to keep track (childish I know)

Then she told me that she was with 6 or 7 guys, and went over them, the first guy who was her h.s. sweetheart was going to marry her, but he was killed by some punks who ran into his car... Then her ex-husband at the time...

Married for 13 years... As of the time I met her she was divorced for about 4 years and had been with about 3-4 other guys... One time each, because she was somewhat of a drinker...

As it turns it, once I got serious with her, it bothered me a little because I was starting to develop stronger feelings towards her... But not really since I wasn't exactly celibate myself, before we met...

Turns out after years that she was only really with her first and her ex-husband, so I only made three... I was puzzled as to why she lied to me... It upset me a bit, but this came out after about 10 years of marriage! She said that she didn't want to feel that she was too inexperienced for me and it pissed her off that I had been with so many women...

I just didn't get it, since men at least most that I know usually want a wife to have as few partners as possible if any...

She told me that once I got older it wouldn't matter at all anymore... Know what? She was 100% right about that...


The problems, when we first met, she was great in bed, did everything I wanted and had a killer body... After about 8 years of marriage, she only wanted to have sex maybe 1 time per week if I was lucky... (I can go twice per day) She went on to tell everyone and it even got back to me from my younger brother that she was gossiping to my sister's friends about my overly active sex drive... By the end of our marriage, I got it maybe once every two weeks and practically had to beg...

The point is that, maybe if she did have more experience and a healthier sex drive throughout and not just in the beginning, we'd possibly still be together, but we just grew further apart because of her lack of interest in sex... Some of it though, I believe was caused by menopause, since she is approaching 50 now, although she looks maybe 37 or 38 and still has a great body...

On a sidenote my younger brother was dating an Asian porn star... The funny part is that she would call him jealous as hell, asking where in the hell he is!!! Once we were all in the car, a few girls waived at him from the street and she wanted to go back to the airport to go home! (she lives in LA)
This pissed him off and he made a comment to her, "well, I know what you're doing and you have the nerve to check what I'm doing?" Then she went on to mention how it's only work for her and she doesn't enjoy it... Bla, bla, bla...

The point in the above is that it's all about how you perceive sex, do you perceive it as sacred or is it just something physical? Or is it different things with different people? How does she view it?

Why did she even ask you? Your question should have been "why do you want to know?" Sometimes women just like to piss a guy off, or make him jealous, they seem to get a thrill out of it... Good luck, but don't let it bother you too much, you'll end up regretting the time you wasted making yourself miserable, lifes too short for that...

 

[xmoo]

man, i didnt ask her. she asked me how many, then just came out and told me that before i told her mine. and yeah, its a question of knowing 20 guys had their cocks in all her holes. and believe me, she is a sexual nasty bitch.
loves it perverted. good for me, but still. imagining her doin what she does with all them others gives me the creeps.

the rule of thumb is triple the number she cops to, and add 1 for roundinglol.

so 20 = 61.

 

[JUICEDUP3]

at least sounds like she being honest.. that counts for something i guess

 

[ericraven2003]

the rule of thumb is triple the number she cops to, and add 1 for roundinglol.

so 20 = 61.

Funny but could kinda of be true.
If she admits to that number, crap, how many could it really be. Scary.

 

[jack98]

20s not that much. i suck with girls and im in the high teens.

though, i would never date a girl who had too slutty of a past.

 

[phreak]

I don't think 20 is that much in total, but you have to consider the circumstances.. You mentioned that she did this in a relatively short time frame (not such a big deal IMO) and that she had been with 2 guys at the same time. That combined with the other is a red flag. Most of the time I can guarantee you that when a woman fucks 2 men at once, there is little to no respect present at the time of the act. And, when a woman either doesn't have or relinquishes he self respect like that, it is often associated with trauma of some sort.. Like sexual abuse.

This does not make her a bad person or make the act all that bad, but can be indicative of personal issues that will make a relationship challenging.

If you, or anyone gets into that conversation and these things come up you will want to be very cautious as these things cannot be fixed by you... Only professional help combined with willing participation on her part can resolve this.

If there is a reason not to get involved, THIS my friend is it.. Not the amount of partners she has had.

LOL this thread is old.. Wonder what happened with Brutus?

 

[razorsedge]

You said shes a sex monster..loves it and good at it..how do you think she got good at it..its like baseball, you wanna be good ya gotta practice

 

[VinNJ]

does that 20 include you in the total?

 

[minister]

hey. my woman, she's 35. she was married for 13 years of her life.
had 2 boyfriends in highschool. since then shes had 20 guys. 20 guys, even tho she was married for 13 years. so my question is, does that seem like a lot? is that a sign of a slut? cuz 35 minus 13 years of marriage is 22 years.
minus highschool years makes it 4 years. so 4 years of sexual activity and she had 18 guys. sounds like alot to me.

Well, I am a bit shocked that she would admit to being with all those guys, but if she is committed to you now and she is completely faithful to you that's a mute point, I agree with the guys, her past is her past and cannot be changed, so build a life with her and look forward to the future, she is yours and you are hers and that is all that matters. God bless you and your marriage. Minister.

 

[Mr.Sinister]

The number matters.
My girl has been with enough guys, but freaks out when some stripper or bartender I have banged before says hello or stares me down.
She always assumes I will cheat on her...

 

[taz]

so 18 in 4 yrs means that just about every 2.5 months she gobbled up a new piece of man meat for 4 years.

hmmmmmmm

yeah i dont think i could deal with knowing a girl is that sexually active. unfortunately bro you arent in uncharted waters here. so all the wild shit she does now has been taught to her or pressured on her until she figured out she loved it. the problem is it was probably numerous dudes who taught her that shit.
of course that being said if you were to have married a girl who only had been with a few guys (like my first wife), you would probably not be very sexually happy (i was fucking miserable and it didnt last the first year before i left).

so i say it is what it is and its too late to deal with it now. accept it and try not to think about it. just hope that she never says to you "you know honey, i love having sex with you because my ex-bf was just so big it always hurt. but yours is just right". LOLOLOLOLOL

 

[turbobusa]

I have had a few buddies that worried about shit like that. Never knew why a man would care about how many before he got there. I can honestly say
that just never mattered to me. This is my 3rd wife and if numbers from the past were a gauge I would be the "dirty one". Who gives a shit?

 

[brutus69]

hey all. i like yr responses! its been awhile, she's history. but get this.
my head is all fucked up. i met another one, turns out she's the same fuckiin way. maybe worse. i only attract skanks. im so sick if it.
i cant have feelings for women now, cuz i cant respect them. and every time im with them, i just keep thinkin about how they've done this with dozens of other guys. it's messed up my head. i cant/dont even wanna have sex anymore. i jerkoff all the time, but even porn, i watch it, and think about the woman i like doing all that shit im watchin with other guys.
jesus christ. i dont know how to stop this thinking pattern. its makin life really
shitty, lemme tell you.

 

[Amazon Doll]

This will help you:

Rational emotive behavior therapy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[ShortStop]

i dont think shes a slut maybe she just likes dick. maybe she couldnt find the right partner you know how hard that is for some of us. it is what it is if u really like her and have feelings for her..........her past shouldnt matter i would think