One night stand, attachment ?

[musclemuscle]

I used to date a 34yo when I was 22-23...It started out like booty calls and then I started sleeping over and going on trips together..at first she didn't want to date becauseI was basicallyher rebound dick lol..

After awhile she started to get serious which was around the time I realized dating an older woman was not as fun as just fucking an older woman lol...she started feeling her biological clock and would mention that she wished she had gotten married and had kids and blah blah..so now that I am couple years removed from that relationship, I'm very happy I got out without an long term consequences like alimony or kids!

 

[tttlock]

I used to date a 34yo when I was 22-23...It started out like booty calls and then I started sleeping over and going on trips together..at first she didn't want to date becauseI was basicallyher rebound dick lol..

After awhile she started to get serious which was around the time I realized dating an older woman was not as fun as just fucking an older woman lol...she started feeling her biological clock and would mention that she wished she had gotten married and had kids and blah blah..so now that I am couple years removed from that relationship, I'm very happy I got out without an long term consequences like alimony or kids!

:yeahthat:

Great example of how everybody's situation is different and you cannot simply use a blanket statement and say, "due to variable A you will undoubtedly get variable B." Emotions and attachment are not bound by age differences or even initial intentions. My best advice would be to utilize the time it takes to post this topic and simply ask her out. Don't play waiting games or "I'm acting like I'm not interested games." Just save your time and energy and take a chance. Either way it won't be life or death and at least you'll have your answer rather than 20 different people's opinions that are primarily founded upon their own personal experience.

 

[ENJOYLIFE88]

I'm 24 and I met a hot 36 years old through a friend... long story short, the night I met her, was the night we had sex.... and the next day I was thinking about her the whole day, and so since she was out I went and met her again and bam had sex again. But for some reason I have some feelings for this girl and I'm very confused if she just wanted to have fun ?? or would she go out with someone who is this much younger ? The way she was acting, she didn't show interest in me except for sex, like the signs that I got she didn't like me but she liked to have sex with me, she thought I was very sexy but also said I'm too young lol... and I have heard it's the women who get attached after sex but this is working vice versa

so what's the deal ? and why have I started to have feelings for her ?

What is your life like at the moment? if you are going through a hard time emotionally that may be part of it. (women are the ultimate ego boost afterall), and so forth. Nobody is going to make fun of you for it, as long as you realize the feelings you have for her are not real.

You like her because she makes you feel good about yourself. I know this may be hard to accept, but realize

YOUR NOT SPECIAL. Guaranfuckingtee you she has done this one night stand thing 100 times. If you met this broad at a club or online, she has probably already fucked another guy by now. No man respects (should respect) a slut who puts out on the first date.

You had a great night with a hot chick, leave it at that. It's a dead end street with these kinds of women brother.

 

[ENJOYLIFE88]

Start treating her the same way. Bang her, but be aloof and good humored. Don't show much respect (in bed) or interest in her, generally.

One of two things will happen, both good. First, worst case, you get to bang her longer because she doesn't feel crowded. Second, better case, she MAY show more interest if she gets treated like she's treating you. Beautiful and experienced women don't like to be fawned over. Be funny, but don't appear to care.

She's well in control now, take a little back and see what happens.

Idk man. I slept some chick same situation as op first date
She told me that night she wanted to be my girl that night. spent the weekend together.

She ended up trying to contact me 2 days later and I kind of ignored her...was aloof with my texts etc Three days after not contacting me again (i guess she got the message) I decided to hit her up. I played the situation perfectly..

.Without going into a bunch of detail, the relationship was short lived. I later found out that during that 7 day window between the one night stand and the second date, that she had slept with another guy. When I asked her why/how she could go from telling me she wanted to be with me to fucking some other guy a week later she told me
"I barely know you and it didn't seem like you were trying to get to know me. You never asked me questions like how many siblings I had or what I wanted to do with my life 5 years down the road"
Of course I was pissed, my ego was bruised big time.... but could I really fault her? she put herself out there and I missed my shot.

ttlock has a good point.

 

[PKBadman]

Lust and Love are two very different things...

I had a buddy that tried to explain this to a girl and she didn't get it, she kept thinking he was saying he was in love with her.