OuchThatHurts
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First bolded portion is a cop-out. It's not important to this man's relationship as to what unhealthy people have on the economy. I don't believe she's morbidly obese. If she is, I missed that. Obesity should not be treated as a weakness but rather a health problem, both physical and mental.agree with essentially everything here.. but I just wanted to say...
I don't think the bolded parts are as simple as they appear... sure, on the face of things, fat people are simply "enjoying" their lives, and their culinary delights.
however, (not to get political), but the government has essentially made their lifestyle choices our business, by loading the costs of their obesity-related conditions onto our shoulders... my insurance costs have skyrocketed because of the Ponzi scheme/transfer of wealth/transfer of cost that is the ACA.
the NHS in the UK is getting crushed (pun intended) by fatties...
(and smokers.. but that's a different topic).
fat people literally drive up the cost of EVERYTHING for everyone else.
and not to throw in an anecdote or anything...but in my personal experience, fatties have always been the most awful and cruel people. just absolutely toxic.. not jolly or jovial in the slightest. (not really sure how that's relevant to this thread, but I thought it was worth mentioning)
As for OP's girlfriend.. wouldn't you agree that she has an obligation to stay fit and attractive for him (assuming of course, that he does the same)?
IMO, it's just common decency and respect for your partner.
sadly, I hear this same old story FAR too many times from my married guy friends.. they, being far more cynical than I, have come to the conclusion that their wives know that they (the men) would be committing financial suicide through divorce, so they are essentially stuck.
a rather insidious plot... definitely not characteristic of a loving and committed union.
but I digress.
The second bolded portion is selfishness on the man's part to expect her to be perfect for him. I don't know to what degree she tries to be sexy, available, and uninhibited in their personal life. I don't know how much of the relationship she is carrying in other ways. What you're saying is kind a 50/50 rule, which is fine to some degree but what is his 50 and what is her 50? We don't know that.
From past posts I've noticed that you are bitter regarding divorces and believe that men always get the shaft. Perhaps that has happened to you. I got divorced and it was the best thing I ever did. In fact, in my divorce, I was entitled to compensation but I never demanded it as I got full custody. Men are not nearly as bound today in fact I believe statistics will show that men in general survive far better as single men than women do as far as quality of living is concerned.
You need to try to remain positive. The negativity in your posts is very apparent. Perhaps with good reason or perhaps not, I don't know. But being positive and giving advice from a position of neutrality is far more effective than trying to help someone from a position of bitterness, anger, or resentment.