great thread
j4...I wanted to leave you with this for now.....and it is important....read it over and over ......you can not change your past or control the future ......but you can choose to live right now in this very moment !!! Living in the presant is one of the keys to overcoming fear and anxiety......most people let worry and stress run their lives ......I would truely suggest ...before we go deeper into this .....to realise you must master your mind in order to heal ......have you tried meditation and yoga? If not you may really want to consider practicing both .....learning to breath and clear ones mind at will ....Will serve you well .....more than any drug or amount of muscle you can gain .....it is this control over breath and your thoughts that will offer you true power over your life .......happiness isn't gained from others[you can't control what someone else does, no matter how great you are ] ....it comes from within and it really is just a choice ....to remain presant ...you must gain control over your breath and thoughts .....live through thankful eyes ....truth is just ones prespective .....stay in the moment ....you aren't a victim.....live your life !!! So be the captin of your ship !!! We all have rough stuff happen to us ....people hurt or abuse us ....but how we deal with it is entirely up to us ....You are the captin of your ship so to speak ....." Life throws you lemons ....then make lemonaide"
Great advice Jason. I have a lot of work to do on myself, as this post
confirms and helps. Thanks my friend.
I have never considered myself a strong person, but living in the moment
as you say is the single most difficult thing I have ever attempted to do.
Mental stress / anxiety “kills,” and I am convinced that is harder on your
body than just about anything one can throw at it. I really feel for the
people that truly suffer; have lost a loved one, or are going through the
difficult times that personal relationship can and do bring, or financial
hardships that seem to be all too common during these difficult times
(when much of the forces are beyond our control). Human suffering is
not something that must be endured alone, but sadly, often is.
What find most interesting is that when one is feeling strong, in the moment
as you say, it is inconceivable to me that I could feel any other way, that the
dark cloud has passed, never to return and that I am healed. But when one is
not present for whatever reason and feeling the weight of the world upon ones
shoulders, it is equally inconceivable that one could ever feel “well” again,
that that dark skies that were once blue and streaming with warm and welcoming
sunlight, will ever return.
The mind is fickle beast, equally strong as it is both perplexing and bewildering.
To tame it sometimes seems to be a Herculean feat. But is can be done . . .
of that I am convinced.
I think the thing to remeber is things allways get better. It the ability to see the light at the end of the tunnel that will help see you through. The best thing about feeling your worst or beeing at you lowest point is that one day things will get better. Look for impovment be open to new posibilities. Only you can make things better for you. I know that we all have the ability to be who we want or lead what ever life we want.
Loosing loved ones is one of the hardest things to go though just remeber the love that was there and that although you miss that person they can be with you in your heart forever. I know the pain and can only imigine the fear of knowing some one will soon pass.
Trusting new people in our lives can be extreemly difficult, all you can do with this is hope for the best , the good ones will shine through. If you dont keep an open mind youll never have a chance to see what could be, but also remember that not everyone we hope will be the one for us is.
I would like to thank Jay for his post .It only takes one person doing one thing to make this world a better place. It nice to see someone making a difference in so many peoples lives. Its funny to me that one of the few tuff guys left in the world can be so caring, compasionent, and giving to so many people. Take a bow brother your a good man.
There are some real pearls of wisdom in this post Big C. Thanks for sharing.
Now . . . if I could only summon my fingers to write something helpful, useful
to add to this thread . . .
And not to forget BigChef (and others in need) . . . hang in there. Wish I had
a crystal ball or a magic wand, but since both seem to be in short supply now
a days, know that you have our, my support during this difficult time.
Sempre avanti.
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