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once again my relationship has fallen to shit.

i posted on here about 2 weeks ago about my GF having a go at me about a work issue and she just hasnt stopped going on at me.

she has this strange problem with taking out stresses on those closest to her (me and her mum) but recently she has just got really bad, but when confronted over it she switches it on to me.

the thing is, in our area she's really loved cos she's so nice and that was the reason i started seeing her. I've known her 10 years and obviously have only just known the good side to her.

the bad thing is that when i try to explain to people (including family) about what she's like, they just take it with a pinch of salt and say it cant be that bad, but constant verbal abuse after a while starts to get you down. tongiht for instance, we had her bro's birthday in london so we had to kind of dress up, now considering i'm designated driver, have gone 15 miles out of the way to get her from her sis' house, the first thing she says when she gets in the car is "i dont like that shirt you've got on" no hi or thanks for coming to get me when i was meant to be at yours two hours ago or anything like that.

then when we get in there, baring in mind i dont know anyone, she disappears off talking to people, which i'm cool with but she never introduces me to anyone and i'm kinda just the spare tire thats tagged along and left in the corner.

so i went and sat out in the car cos my head was killing from how hot it was in there, she comes out to the car and says "you could at least make an effort". I was like WTF do i have to do to this girl to get her to see how she is. But in the end i explained how she is (for the millionth time) and i think i was just at the end of my tether and just said i cant do it anymore.

it just pisses me off that in my area, i'll now be looked at like a monster for dumping the nicest girl in the town. in reality its totally different because she is almost a bully to those around her with the stuff she comes out with.

this is just another fucking thing that has gone wrong already this year. I've had 2 supposed mates nearly run my company to the ground, had a fall out with a close mate because another (supposed) mate was a dick and robbed him (why, I dont fucking know) and now he thinks i'm involved. And on top of that at x mas last year, I had to have a paternity test because my ex thought she was pregnant with my child.

I'm fucking lost because i have to put on a face of normality to everyone, and act like nothing ever bothers me and things are just fine and dandy but because by day i have to do this, at night, behind closed doors, i'm just getting destroyed

 

[pesty4077]

once again my relationship has fallen to shit.

i posted on here about 2 weeks ago about my GF having a go at me about a work issue and she just hasnt stopped going on at me.

she has this strange problem with taking out stresses on those closest to her (me and her mum) but recently she has just got really bad, but when confronted over it she switches it on to me.

the thing is, in our area she's really loved cos she's so nice and that was the reason i started seeing her. I've known her 10 years and obviously have only just known the good side to her.

the bad thing is that when i try to explain to people (including family) about what she's like, they just take it with a pinch of salt and say it cant be that bad, but constant verbal abuse after a while starts to get you down. tongiht for instance, we had her bro's birthday in london so we had to kind of dress up, now considering i'm designated driver, have gone 15 miles out of the way to get her from her sis' house, the first thing she says when she gets in the car is "i dont like that shirt you've got on" no hi or thanks for coming to get me when i was meant to be at yours two hours ago or anything like that.

then when we get in there, baring in mind i dont know anyone, she disappears off talking to people, which i'm cool with but she never introduces me to anyone and i'm kinda just the spare tire thats tagged along and left in the corner.

so i went and sat out in the car cos my head was killing from how hot it was in there, she comes out to the car and says "you could at least make an effort". I was like WTF do i have to do to this girl to get her to see how she is. But in the end i explained how she is (for the millionth time) and i think i was just at the end of my tether and just said i cant do it anymore.

it just pisses me off that in my area, i'll now be looked at like a monster for dumping the nicest girl in the town. in reality its totally different because she is almost a bully to those around her with the stuff she comes out with.

this is just another fucking thing that has gone wrong already this year. I've had 2 supposed mates nearly run my company to the ground, had a fall out with a close mate because another (supposed) mate was a dick and robbed him (why, I dont fucking know) and now he thinks i'm involved. And on top of that at x mas last year, I had to have a paternity test because my ex thought she was pregnant with my child.

I'm fucking lost because i have to put on a face of normality to everyone, and act like nothing ever bothers me and things are just fine and dandy but because by day i have to do this, at night, behind closed doors, i'm just getting destroyed

Bro, put your head back on your shoulders, you are just going through average things in life. I guarantee you I can list things in my life, that would have most people giving up in life. I am not going to list everything, but just tell you, you have your health, family, friends, not starving, and a roof over your head, besides all that you have a God that shows concern. STOP focusing on negativity, look at everything as a learning experience, you will get through with support of others. I do feel for you Bro, and hope you will find a positive energy to focus your way to get through these things.

 

[madetolift]

Dude chill. learn a few things. Most of us here have gone through things that you see in the movies. Having an ex that is a bi-polar and leaving me with 2 kids and one was 3 weeks old and the other was 18 months. now live with a bi-polar for a while and it is like living in the insane asylum. It gets better.
learn answer techniques like saying I'm sorry and shutting up....my friend told me to do that when my other is anxious. When things are calm simply ask her "when you see me can you say hello and something nice?" Then drop it and remind her when things are calm..don't react. If she does not introduce you then introduce yourself. Don't put it on anyone else to live up to what you think are normal social standards. For example being polite and not aggressively assertive where I work gets you at the bottom of the pile...and that is a high tech company. deal with what is there and use your brain to find a solution.
Just my 2 cents and remember that things are good and you have things....and when you forget go to a third world country for a while.