Mooodyyyy!!!

[swol]

My wife told me she is ready to leave me lol! No fuc that is not funny! I am verry moody and snappy at her. i tell her sorry almost every night but fuc i just dont wanna talk right now. I am taking less shit than normal but am twice as moody! Does any one have any tricks of the trade to help the mood. Let me tell you i am so moody i fight with her even when fucking her and for those of you who have seen her. WHAT THE FUCK AM I THINKING! I knwo you pros have soemthing up ur sleeves!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[JonnyO]

You must be dieting. You just have to get used to it, but learn how to control your emotions. Whats more important to you, taking the juice and being cranky or your girl? If being on makes you so damn moody maybe its just not for you bro.

 

[Southern Comfort]

Try some 5-HTP it will make you a little more lax, give you some better sleep at night, and free you from stress.
THOUGH, you must remember, there isnt a pill for everything, this is simple, be nice to your old lady! LOL!

 

[swol]

JO na it isnt the juice my temp was 10 times worse b4 i even did any juice. The gear does not really mess wit me at all. i thought i was used to the dieting because have done it many time but....this time around feels like i am strarving maybe because i cut out my PB.....Cool i will try the 5 what eva.. But all in all good advice, be nice. Thanks guys!!

 

[JonnyO]

I get quiet when I diet for a show, and irritable as well. But never take it out on my girl, they go through enough sticking with us through our diets let alone have to take our shit being grumpy and that, just be happy and spend time with her as much as you can, do things to take your mind off dieting like go out for walks or see movies, get out of the house and stay busy. I like to take her to the mall, we can spend hours there and I dont have to talk much because I let her shop while I wait outside the stores on a bench or something and let her do her thing, you'll never hear them complain then, lol.

 

[Ivan]

Proper communication

Swol this is a classic example of whats called the displacement theory. The diet along with other stressors has strained your way of life, and it is common to take out the frustration on your spouse, (like when people have a bad day at work, they may yell at their kids waaaay easier) and then she feels attacked....pretty soon her defenses are up all the time and instead of good solid communication between the two, you are both fighting to save face and be right. Gotta swallow your pride and remind yourself of how great of a gal she truly is. And she is very beautuful, it sucks to be alone man. Imagine being alone when you dieted....she can be there to support you, but you must also be aware of her needs and priorites also... The next time you feel a silly fight coming on, step out and empathize a little, realize the situation and calmly tell her #1: I love you babe and lets not fight. Express your needs without attacking, and also reassure her that you are well aware of her needs. Sometimes conflict can be very constructive if used properly. You can define and identify the real problems, and with good communication you two will refind your love for each other. THe more you learn to do this, the easier it will get, and pretty soon you both will feel fresh in the relationship, due to this growth.

 

[swol]

Damn Ivan that was some deep shit.. Thanks alot to all of you!

 

[Steak Helmet]

remember she is there for you through anything that happens in life...do not punish her for it...no matter how you feel, just look and her and tell yourself this is the woman I love and I am not going to treat her like this...she does not deserve it.

I feel your pain...try getting more sleep and take some of the stressors out of your life...even if it means sacrificing somethings.

Just remember she would do anything for you to make sure you are happy...and stop hate f**king make love HAHAH!

 

[terryd5150]

Swol this is a classic example of whats called the displacement theory. The diet along with other stressors has strained your way of life, and it is common to take out the frustration on your spouse, (like when people have a bad day at work, they may yell at their kids waaaay easier) and then she feels attacked....pretty soon her defenses are up all the time and instead of good solid communication between the two, you are both fighting to save face and be right. Gotta swallow your pride and remind yourself of how great of a gal she truly is. And she is very beautuful, it sucks to be alone man. Imagine being alone when you dieted....she can be there to support you, but you must also be aware of her needs and priorites also... The next time you feel a silly fight coming on, step out and empathize a little, realize the situation and calmly tell her #1: I love you babe and lets not fight. Express your needs without attacking, and also reassure her that you are well aware of her needs. Sometimes conflict can be very constructive if used properly. You can define and identify the real problems, and with good communication you two will refind your love for each other. THe more you learn to do this, the easier it will get, and pretty soon you both will feel fresh in the relationship, due to this growth.

That was one of the best posts I've ever read on a message board. I'm gonna print this out and share it with my g/f. She's been moody as hell lately and it's causing a lot of tension betweeen us. Maybe it will help us out. Thanks, Ivan.

 

[1badboy]

Great post Ivan

Ivan,

I your post just was so on-target and made me step back and think a lot- and I will share with my g/f. I love this board because there are so many quality people on here that have great advice, but I never thought I'd get "relationship advice" from a bb board Ivan, I wish the best for you, because I've read about the other problems you've had lately.

Regards,

1BB

 

[Ivan]

well thanks!

Hey no sweat fellas. The women in our life are so much a part of who we are, so we must remember who they are and what lucky guys we are to have them. A simple test would be to travel somewhere for a month w/o her, and have ZERO contact. You could go out and meet others, some may cheat, but in the end, the one person, that one special person, your best friend, your lover, you will miss endlessly. What happens a lot of the time in relationships is we take for granted that which we have already "conquered" or lack of a better word. So then we have certain expectations that we form for that person, and often men are more selfish, so we expect our needs to be more of a priority and theirs second. IT must be balanced, because usually a woman will nag and whine when they have tried to communicate with us only to feel it pointless as men and women communicate and operate on different levels. So then it begins a cycle and pretty soon they have given up on us and simply vent their frustrations because it is the only way they can come even remotely close to having their needs not even met but just heard. That is all it is brothers, needs.
Something else of interest....
I was reading a study done on relationships and objects. Specifically how couples use objects and various markers to identify and characterize thier relationship. The objects were obtained together, and it was very interesting to see how the couples used these particular objects in their house (the placements) to represent them as a couple.

Also remember fellas, WHY we even form relationships...
The # 1 factor is appearance, we must be physically attracted to them. Then similarities and how these compliment each other. Differences strengthen a relationship when they are complementary -- when each partner's characteristics satisfy the other's needs. Individuals, for instance, are often likely to be attracted to each other when one partner is dominant and the other is passive. And relationships also work well when the partners agree that one will exercise control in certain areas, (" You make the final decisions about money") and the other will exercise control in different areas, ("I'll decide how we ought to decorate this place"). And vice-versa, as long as thier is still some input from each so each has trust in another in the areas. Strains occur when control issues are disputed. Gotta give the ladies respect just like we demand it from them.
Then there is reciprocal attraction, we generally like people who like us--usually. We also like competence -- we like to be around talented people, probably because we hope thier skills and abilites will rub off on us. On the other hand some of us can be uncomfortable around those that are too competent -- prolly cuz look bad by comparison. The best way to gain the liking of others is to be good at what you do, but to admit your mistakes.
Next is disclosure. I can go way into this, but self disclosure aids us in learning how we are sinilar and also builds liking, because it is a sign of regard. Intimiacy, proximity all play roles but I am getting tired to keep going lol. Remember this also : people maintain relations with others as long as they feel the rewards are greater than the costs. If you guys ever have Q's about relationships just ask, I have learned so much about not only women but humans as a specie and how we communicate. I have always been told how important communication is in a relationship, but now that I have a firm grasp on how to be a competent communicator my life has improved so much.

Last thing guys: LIES. They will mutate and ruin relationships. Trust is and always will be the foundation of relationships w/ anyone. Even little white lies are dangerous. A lot of younger guys have this problem and they do not think it is that big of a deal, until they have lost her. They inadvertantly sabotage the relationship. Be tactful, but be truthful, NO MATTER WHAT.
Later fellas, and thanks for the kind words.

 

[terryd5150]

...Later fellas, and thanks for the kind words.

Screw that Dr. Phil guy, the Great Ivan has spoken again!

 

[BIGSHERM]

Thats some awesome stuff Ivan!!! I will definitely be askin g you some questions man.....Ur pretty good bro!

 

[JETHRO TULL]

SWOL...PLEASE SEND HER TO MONTANA UNTIL YOUR DIET IS OVER!

My wife told me she is ready to leave me lol! No fuc that is not funny! I am verry moody and snappy at her. i tell her sorry almost every night but fuc i just dont wanna talk right now. I am taking less shit than normal but am twice as moody! Does any one have any tricks of the trade to help the mood. Let me tell you i am so moody i fight with her even when fucking her and for those of you who have seen her. WHAT THE FUCK AM I THINKING! I knwo you pros have soemthing up ur sleeves!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I KNOW IT WILL BE A BIG JOB TAKING CARE OF TWO OF THEM....BUT, I THINK I'LL BE ABLE TO MANAGE AT LEAST UNTIL YOUR DIET IS OVER!! LOL....WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING??!!

 

[swol]

Lol i got a handle on it now but if i need help.....