Man, I feel for you. I watched my mom suffer through that until she finally had to get her bladder removed. I know she was operated on 12 times and nothing worked until the removal. I also know if you have it removed you can't lift any heavy weight because of the ostemy on your side. I don't know what to say to encourage you because you're dealing with something extremely vicious. Stay strong and make sure you have alot of support, your gonna need it. Peace.