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I was just dumped a few days ago by a girl I had been with for 3 years. I truly believed she was the one, she was so different than the others ive dated, she was a kind person, beautiful, and we became best friends. Over the past year i've gone through some depression which I have suffered for much of my adult life. I was laid off from work and needed to have surgery so the depression kicked in pretty hard. I did not give her the attention she deserved and we were intimate so infrequently. We never really fought but there were areas of disagreement , one of them being her mother. Her mom upped and left about a year ago to move to california and left my girlfriend, her brother and my girlfriends dad all of a sudden. its one of the more selfish things ive ever seen a mother do. Her brother had no place to stay as he doesnt get along with the dad. In cali her mom shacked up with a new guy almost immediately. basically last week we were arguing and i let it all out about how i felt about her mother. she knew i never cared for the decision but I was pretty mean in my wording. next day i get the texts that she needs to be by herself right now and i need to go on with my life. she said she had been unhappy for months and the fight was the last straw. i personally didnt think we were at this point. I fought hard all that day and the next to try to convince her otherwise that we could get through it but she just kept saying that she was sorry she was hurting me but this is what she needed to do. I am a fighter and i always believe in fighting to the end for love but it doesnt seem like she feels the same about me anymore. The first 2 years we were head over heals in love we talked about marriage and kids and even the last year we still talked about it so I feel so blindsided by this. I thought we were stronger and could get through it. A part of me is angry bc i feel like she left me in my tough time. I know shes not gonna call in me in a few days and say she wants to work it out its very clear. her father texted me earlier today to say how sorry he was that we broke up and that everyone in the family loved us as a couple. for her to tell her dad its over i feel like shes made up her mind. I just dont know what to do ive usually been pretty good with breakups but this girl ripped out my heart she was so much different than the rest. Id go to any length to work things out i even said we could try therapy but she just wont have it. any advice would be appreciated because ive been so sick i cant get out of bed or eat anything.