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- Jan 5, 2004
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hey everyone, its been a while since i was on the board. the past year and a half i have spent opening and running my first gym. that plays into the story here which is why i mention it. so i have been extremely busy as the owner, employee, trainer, buyer, janitor, etc etc etc.
But, my wife and I knew going into this what we would have to do in order to have this become the major company we planned for with 5 locations. (still working on that, not part of the story). So anyhow she has a job about an hour away that she hates with a passion. She loves the work just not the people she does it with. And although we have always had a very passionate relationship the past year has been extremely tough. The intimacy really died off but I didnt think much of it becuase we are both so tired from work and we have 3 kids as well.
Well a few months ago she started flirting with this asshole guy that works around where her office is. He was very flirty with her and she did not do anything to stop it and it came down to him asking her on a date. Now he did know she was married btw. She said no because she didnt want to risk an affair. But then he told her he was married too and she apparently felt more comfortable with the whole thing since there were no strings.
Their relationship went from a few emails a week to where they were sending literally (i have the records) 80-90 text messages every every single day to each other! There were some days where the entire day of work was nothing more thn sexual texts back and forth for 6 or 7 hours at a time! Including pornographic pictures. Sent and received from both of them. And I am having a very hard time getting past this thing. They both swear they never ever had any physical contact. I did confront him. And like the fucking pussy ass bitch that most guys are that try to fuck a married woman, he backed down from me and begged me to let him apologize. Fucking loser!
If it had been nothing more than some flirty words maybe I could have gotten over it at some point. But the naked pictures? I feel she crossed a very serious line there. But then the messages werent just flirty, they were exceptionally graphic and sexual.
Has anyone here ever dealt with this or been through it? How did you come out of it? I am trying to stay around because I do love her very very much and I dont want to hurt our kids. But the trust is broken and I am totally wrecked. Thanks for any advice. And I am sorry this was so long. I tried to shorten it.
But, my wife and I knew going into this what we would have to do in order to have this become the major company we planned for with 5 locations. (still working on that, not part of the story). So anyhow she has a job about an hour away that she hates with a passion. She loves the work just not the people she does it with. And although we have always had a very passionate relationship the past year has been extremely tough. The intimacy really died off but I didnt think much of it becuase we are both so tired from work and we have 3 kids as well.
Well a few months ago she started flirting with this asshole guy that works around where her office is. He was very flirty with her and she did not do anything to stop it and it came down to him asking her on a date. Now he did know she was married btw. She said no because she didnt want to risk an affair. But then he told her he was married too and she apparently felt more comfortable with the whole thing since there were no strings.
Their relationship went from a few emails a week to where they were sending literally (i have the records) 80-90 text messages every every single day to each other! There were some days where the entire day of work was nothing more thn sexual texts back and forth for 6 or 7 hours at a time! Including pornographic pictures. Sent and received from both of them. And I am having a very hard time getting past this thing. They both swear they never ever had any physical contact. I did confront him. And like the fucking pussy ass bitch that most guys are that try to fuck a married woman, he backed down from me and begged me to let him apologize. Fucking loser!
If it had been nothing more than some flirty words maybe I could have gotten over it at some point. But the naked pictures? I feel she crossed a very serious line there. But then the messages werent just flirty, they were exceptionally graphic and sexual.
Has anyone here ever dealt with this or been through it? How did you come out of it? I am trying to stay around because I do love her very very much and I dont want to hurt our kids. But the trust is broken and I am totally wrecked. Thanks for any advice. And I am sorry this was so long. I tried to shorten it.