Dealing with a death in the family

[STEVO 47]

My 5 yr old daughter just lost her grandmother who she loved so much
This is my girlfriends mom. My little girl just keeps crying for her over and
over and it's breaking my heart. We live next door so they spent everyday
together. This is the only kid I have so I've never been through this before
Anyway, sorry for getting so emotional, I just needed to get it out.

 

[Ashop]

My 5 yr old daughter just lost her grandmother who she loved so much
This is my girlfriends mom. My little girl just keeps crying for her over and
over and it's breaking my heart. We live next door so they spent everyday
together. This is the only kid I have so I've never been through this before
Anyway, sorry for getting so emotional, I just needed to get it out.

Sorry to hear my friend. The greiving process is different for everyone. Only time can heal this pain she is feeling.

 

[STEVO 47]

Sorry to hear my friend. The greiving process is different for everyone. Only time can heal this pain she is feeling.

Thankyou for the kind words Alin. Being that she's five. I'm hoping
this unfortunite time will pass quick for her and she'll be back to
normal. God Bless You.

 

[GoneForever]

Im very sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you all.

 

[Enanthanator]

Sorry to hear about your loss... I wouldnt worry too much about the kid... she is young and wont remember much... My uncle (moms bro) died when I was around 4 and I dont remember, my grandfather died when I was about 8 and I remember being upset but not too much else. Just make sure you show her the love that she will miss from her grandmother. My prayers go out to you and yours...

 

[STEVO 47]

I think maybe some people feel alone during this time and need to
talk to someone about it. Anyway, thankyou all for the support.
It means alot, believe me.

 

[LEX]

That's a tough one man, Sorry for you and your family. Its hard to see your kid hurting man that is the worst. Just hang in there ...

 

[STEVO 47]

Put it in the wrong forum didn't I. Been here long enough to know better,
Yep that's the bad part Lex, Seeing my kid going through this.

 

[luckyone]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Fortunately with time the pain does lessen. I don't know about your religious beliefs but I believe in all sincerity that we do rejoin our loved ones in the afterlife. don't know if your daughter is too young to understand this, but it might be worth talking about. Keeping you in my prayers.

your brother in Christ,

Lucky

 

[STEVO 47]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Fortunately with time the pain does lessen. I don't know about your religious beliefs but I believe in all sincerity that we do rejoin our loved ones in the afterlife. don't know if your daughter is too young to understand this, but it might be worth talking about. Keeping you in my prayers.

your brother in Christ,

Lucky

I believe in the lord God and Christ his son. I also believe we will
rejoin our loved ones too. It would be so sad to think that when
we die that would be it. I have alot of family I seen go that I miss
dearly and it would be a shame never to reunite with them ever again.
lucky thankyou for your kind thoughts and prayers.

 

[ilaan]

Steve0

My father-in-law died when my oldest son was about 4 1/2. We had lived with them for about 6months while our house was being built. I think ultimately it is harder on the parents then the child. They greive but as ethenator said their memories fade pretty quick. I am sorry for you and your families loss.

 

[STEVO 47]

Steve0

My father-in-law died when my oldest son was about 4 1/2. We had lived with them for about 6months while our house was being built. I think ultimately it is harder on the parents then the child. They greive but as ethenator said their memories fade pretty quick. I am sorry for you and your families loss.

Yes. It tears ya up pretty good. Funerals today and not even looking
forward to this. Funny part is her and I had alot of disagreements
but I do miss the old girl.

 

[oldfella]

Hey Bro, My heart goes out to you and especially your daughter. It is a tough thing this death!! But at least you can tell your daughter that her Grandma is at peace and resting. She is smiling down on your family with love and warmth. Tell your daughter she is with her always and forever. Encourage your daughter to talk about the way she feels and try to explain that the pain will go away and she will be left with warm happy memories of her Grandma. There is nothing better than kind words and support my Bro. So sorry for your loss. God Bless you all.

 

[lynx]

Sorry to hear about the loss. I think as time moves on she'll get better. You both might want to talk to her about how grandma is in a better place and (if she was deteriorating) doesn't feel anymore pain. Maybe how grandma just wants her to be a happy girl and that she'll be watching over her. Also if she wants when or if she prays at night she can always ask the Lord to tell her grandma anything she wants, like she misses her, or she loves her, or just what she did for the day that she use to tell her when she was around. Just some ideas.

 

[STEVO 47]

Day after the funeral and things are getting back to normal.
every now an then my kid will ask me about grandmom in
Heaven and I tell her she's watching you and she loves you
very much. Vitor, oldfella and lynx, thanks for sharing some of
your time and thoughts. I'm very gratefull for all of you who
made the effort to help me out in this time of need.

 

[GerryT]

It is difficult for small children to understand fully the death process. Sounds like she is doing a little better. You never get over it, but time is an ally and the wounds become scars. Best to you, your daughter and girl. it must be difficult for your girl as well losing her mom. god bless.

 

[STEVO 47]

It is difficult for small children to understand fully the death process. Sounds like she is doing a little better. You never get over it, but time is an ally and the wounds become scars. Best to you, your daughter and girl. it must be difficult for your girl as well losing her mom. god bless.

Thanks G, and best to you too bud.

 

[JETHRO TULL]

Stevo, sorry to hear that story.

My 5 yr old daughter just lost her grandmother who she loved so much
This is my girlfriends mom. My little girl just keeps crying for her over and
over and it's breaking my heart. We live next door so they spent everyday
together. This is the only kid I have so I've never been through this before
Anyway, sorry for getting so emotional, I just needed to get it out.

I hope she gets feeling better soon. When my grandpa died I cried for days. We did a lot of stuff together. I still miss him. The time is short love all you can.

 

[STEVO 47]

Hey JT Havn't heard from ya in a while. She's doing better. Once in
a while out of the blue she'll say I miss grandmom, but nowhere near
as upset as she was thank God. Time seems to be doing it's job.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

As she moves beyond the grieving process I'd use this as an opportunity to very gently explain to her that our time here is not forever and to enjoy and make the very most of life and to help others whenever possible. Live life to the fullest.

Children deal with death so much differently than adults you may find it hard to explain to her. Don't be afraid to ask for help or pick up a book. If I think of one, I'll post it here.