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Hoping someone here might have some insight here.
The girl I'm dating has always been one of the nicest "best" people I've ever met, and I've always known her to be a very happy and optimistic person.
About a year ago I found out she was previously bulimic, and I guess it's never really something that completely goes away (in terms of the urge always being there to some degree to binge). She has a very nice body compared to most women, but her low back is a trouble spot that, along with her slightly wider than normal waist structure makes her self conscious, and this is made worse by a general predisposition to gain fat easily (despite currently having abs).
She was going to try to do a bikini comp, and she was recomping fantastically....stayed at 125lb for 3 months while going from a 5x135 squat to a 5x185 squat, with other significant progress as well. But she recenty told me she has been back to her old binging and purge cycle for a few months now, feels very guilty, feels generally poor about her self and her self-worth, etc. I have told her to forget any competition and she agreed but it is still an issue. Her sex drive is low in my opinion (we're in our 20's and she would be fine with 1-2x per week and never initiating) which I think stems from not being happy with her body.
I've told her many times how great she looks, but I certainly understand how hard it is to be objective, and I do see her trouble areas (from a competitor standpoint, her lower back holds much more fat than the rest of her).
Any advice? I don't want to have to jump to antidepressants for her. I'm reading a book now on the brain (Change Your Brain, Change Your Life) and it recommends SAMe and Fish Oil, which I could see helping a little but she seems to be in a pretty bad place with all of this so any help is appreciated. She hasn't been as consistent with diet or training lately which I'm sure is hurting things so we'll get that back in order but I think it will take more than that as she has always been very self conscious.
The girl I'm dating has always been one of the nicest "best" people I've ever met, and I've always known her to be a very happy and optimistic person.
About a year ago I found out she was previously bulimic, and I guess it's never really something that completely goes away (in terms of the urge always being there to some degree to binge). She has a very nice body compared to most women, but her low back is a trouble spot that, along with her slightly wider than normal waist structure makes her self conscious, and this is made worse by a general predisposition to gain fat easily (despite currently having abs).
She was going to try to do a bikini comp, and she was recomping fantastically....stayed at 125lb for 3 months while going from a 5x135 squat to a 5x185 squat, with other significant progress as well. But she recenty told me she has been back to her old binging and purge cycle for a few months now, feels very guilty, feels generally poor about her self and her self-worth, etc. I have told her to forget any competition and she agreed but it is still an issue. Her sex drive is low in my opinion (we're in our 20's and she would be fine with 1-2x per week and never initiating) which I think stems from not being happy with her body.
I've told her many times how great she looks, but I certainly understand how hard it is to be objective, and I do see her trouble areas (from a competitor standpoint, her lower back holds much more fat than the rest of her).
Any advice? I don't want to have to jump to antidepressants for her. I'm reading a book now on the brain (Change Your Brain, Change Your Life) and it recommends SAMe and Fish Oil, which I could see helping a little but she seems to be in a pretty bad place with all of this so any help is appreciated. She hasn't been as consistent with diet or training lately which I'm sure is hurting things so we'll get that back in order but I think it will take more than that as she has always been very self conscious.
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