Life without Marilyn

[aeliop]

As some of you already know

It is with a very heavy heart and a great deal of sadness that I announce that after 18+ years and 3 beautiful children that Marilyn and I are going our seperate ways and divorcing.

 

[michelin]

I cant believe this, you guys are meant to be with each other, you are 2 halves of the whole thing. I hope you are both ok

 

[KTT]

Keep strong. I can´t help you with words but feel with you.

 

[myosin]

Wow

I had actually contemplated starting a thread to the effect of "where's Tony n Marilyn?"... Now I know why we haven't u two much lately... I share that b/c even tho u and I haven't ever really corresponded personally, I always appreciated and enjoyed ur posts. I know you have alot of relationships here which only adds (but can't compare) to ur current loss.

From what I do know of you (reading posts about ur past and other more current situations before this) you seem like a "survivor"... Tho maybe long and hard times lay ahead, u will overcome and "make it."

So sorry for your loss Tony. I hope at some point we will be able go see you around here again.

"bro hug"

 

[EYE2EYE]

18 yrs is long time. Are you sure this Marriage cannot be saved? Peace.

 

[Gators]

My prayers are with y'all. I recently went through a divorce of a 19 yr marriage, 3 children also, and i wish i could tell you it wasn't brutal, but it is. BUT, the good news is once you get on the other side of this, it's not as bad as you anticipated. I'll just say that a year and 1/2 after my heart destroying divorce, i am 3 weeks away from getting re-married to the most wonderful lady imaginable, i didn't know i could be this happy. Many times blessings follow pain, and in pain we achieve a lot of personal growth.

Hang in there, it WILL get better, that i promise you.

 

[BigChef]

Oh my gosh! Tony and Marilyn please go to counselling. Please dont give up for the sake of your kids and family. You both are wonderful people.
I pray that you guys will work something out and take serious counselling.
I am sure there is a way to compromise and express with feelings and love. Please forgive one another. I am here for you guys! My heart hurts when this sort of thing happen.

Respect!

 

[thebrick]

I can't believe this. I am very, very sorry. You are in a really bad place mentally right now. Of course, its only natural. I was married 17 years the first time with young children too. You feel like your life has been blown apart, your identity has been stripped away, and your heart aches in pain. You are feeling lost and depressed like I did. But, I am here to tell you, much better days are coming. I know those words don't matter much right now. I hope you decide to stay here Tony. At least when things settle down for you. You are a very valued member here. You have many friends here you can lean on. That helps.

 

[Lenny]

You two are both great people. I am so sad and sorry to hear this, if there is any way I hope there can be a second chance. Hang in there buddy, stay strong and if you need anything please let me know. I enjoyed both of your posts, you two were an awesome couple on Promuscle.

 

[triathloncoach]

You will get through this



But it certainly won't be easy.

 

[RESTLESS1]

sorry to hear this......

 

[Tom]

really sorry to hear about this sad episode in your life. i also went through this and as others have already said....you will get through this and be fine after some time. no need to leave the forum, you have much support here and your knowledge is invaluable.

 

[Phidias]

Just like Myosin, I was wondering why, all of a sudden, you had stopped to post, Tony... I could sense that something was wrong, especially after Marylin mentioned in a recent thread you two didn't train in the same gym anymore...

But I also remember that not so long ago you were posting pics featuring the both of you HAPPY at the beach... Love can't die that fast, especially after 18 years!

Maybe as Mickey (theBrick) outlined, that long of a time is precisely part of the problem your couple faces at the moment... BUT lovers should always keep in mind grass isn't always greener in the neighbour's backyard... and what shines too much may very well be just an illusion... and in this case won't last long.

Nothing's perfect in a relationship, who could argue about that? However, when we have two wonderful people who know each other so well, it's simply wisdom to tell them:

YouTube - George Michael - One More Try

 

[hawkmoon]

I am so so so sorry to hear this....

I wish you the best Tony...I know how hard this can be. Stay strong...

 

[PHIL HERNON]

Well, I hope she

Reconsiders............you have 3 children that MUST come first........not bodybuilding or competing........the children.......not photo shoots, not concerts...........just the family. Please Tony, go see her and talk to her.......please remember the children.....

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

WOW brother, I'm really feeling for you. And for Marilyn. Not sure what's going on. But you two together have always uplifted this board. I really hope deep down inside you two guys can work this out. And I will with no doubt keep your marriage in prayer my friend. God bless the both of you and your children.

 

[BigRican]

My heart goes out to you Tony and Marylin, hope she re-considers.

 

[lycan]

Tony, I am completely blown away and very saddened to hear this. Had no idea. You two seemed like the PERFECT couple. I can`t imagine what you are feeling at this moment. I will keep you both in my prayers, you know you are loved by many here.

Mike aka Lycan

 

[Johnny Smiles]

Marriage is the single most difficult thing i have ever done. i had always hoped and thought it would be easier but it is not. two imperfect people joined together in an imperfect world is almost certainly a set up for problems. but "love conquesr all" but it is up to the people joined to decide how much problems, frustrtion and/or hurt it can conquer. I hope and pray you both let love conquer everything.
praying for ya.
-JS

 

[wtw11171]

I don't know you well enough Tony to say much of anything but I will offer this and you can take it or leave it. I know it would be a shame to see you go. You are a good brother and friend of this community. I am with my wife 20 years. We dated for 6 of those years. I have to tell you things were not always easy and they still aren't today. We have 4 beautiful children together. Amidst our chaos and darkness came 4 beautiful lights. I have battled many demons and my wife was always there. Through the years we have grown. I have become a person of faith with much focus on my spirituality. I am no Saint, trust me, I put my wife Andrea through hell but she is still here with me. 18+ years is a lot of history to throw away no matter what the circumstances are. In my spirit I accept my wife Andrea as she is with love. In my human ego I stand before her in judgement picking at all of her flaws. So far we are still together and trudging up that hill. I am not telling you my story to bore you. I tell you my story because it is a testament. It is to let you know that there is still hope. Remember every coin has two heads. Light over comes dark. With every negative there is a positive. Do not leave your support group. Find your friends here and share everything with them. I pray that you find a way to work things out with your wife Marilyn. I pray that you find serenity of the mind, tranquility of the soul and simplicity of the heart. Pax.

Warren