you seem like a nice enough guy, but you need to let it go. You are arguing semantics on a message board. You are an ex marine! You are no longer an active duty guy! I know ex marines have a problem uttering those words, and it has now become a badge of honor to claim that you are not an ex marine just no longer active, but its semantics.
I served and served proudly. I have over 4 years deployed time and have seen my share of the shit. If you really miss the Marines, you should re-up. If you do not want to re-up because of your family, then you really do not want to re-up. Military service is not just a job, its a lifestyle and a sacrifice. I completely understand you not wanting to put your two precious girls through something like that, so let it the fuck go...
I also suggest getting into a field that works with the military but CONUS. There are plenty of employment opportunities for you out there that will bring you up and personal with military life void of the 0500 PT and deployments.
Whatever you decide, thanks for serving and keep your head up and make Chesty Puller proud.