swinging aka wife swapping

[Stewie]

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There's other Boards- Fourms for this type of activity. Maybe you should look for one.

 

[TNH]

I've felt uncomfortable just thinking about my wife being with other men BEFORE we got together, so there is no way in hell I would tolerate seeing her with men NOW.
Different strokes for different folks, but I have never heard of wife swapping working out. Many people that felt comfortable in the moment felt much worse and insecure later on, especially the female. I had a gf that was 100% into fooling around with other girls, but much later on she broke down and said it made her feel degraded. It was confusing for me because she was the one that initiated it, thinking I would like it... and I did, but deep down she did not. Women are complex creatures, I would never chance it with my wife.

 

[renewlyf]

:delete:

There's other Boards- Fourms for this type of activity. Maybe you should look for one.

My thoughts exactly!

However it is nice to see all the guys posting on how they honor their wife/girl friends!

 

[matt1164]

you don't love your gf. find another one.

 

[BigJB]

Has anyone here done wife swapping with there other half? And if so was it worth it? Any regrets? How did u feel watchin or partner with another man? The reason I ask is that me and my fiancée might/will be doing it in the near future.we are very secure and comfortable in our relationship and although the thought of it all excites me no end it also scares the crap outta me lol. So fellas am I making a huge mistake here or we only live once and go for it?

why be married/engaged? I don't call that being secure and comfortable in a relationship, I call that two people who have no real feelings for one another who only really care about kinky sexual fantasies.

just my two cents.

 

[nicw]

Thanks for everyone's opinion so far and for not stooping to insulting me over this, is hardly something I could discuss with my friends so thought here would be as good as any to get advice

 

[GeNeTiKFiGhTR]

She definitely isn't wifey material. Do it for the experience and move on bro.

 

[anarchocapitalist]

I'm in a similar boat.

I've been with my wife since '99. We have two boys. When we first got together my wife told me she had been with a woman when she was in high school. I never thought much about it probably just two girls being curious. Anyways fast forward to 2013 and just this year my wife tells me she wishes she could have a threesome with a girl. She actually said she regrets not having another one so that tells me she has been thinking about this for a while and somewhat serious. I probably should have guessed because, when we are intimate, she never likes to watch porn with a man/woman. She always says its too hard and she likes to watch women because its softer and more gentler type of porn.

Initially I was like fuck ya! I mean what married man wouldn't want to bang another chick after 14 years with the same woman.

But then as I imagine all sorts of cool cum swapping scenarios (ya right lol) all my insecurities start popping up. What if she says, down the road, I was with another girl now I want another man?

My wife and I are very secure in our relationship. We are together forever. I just want her to be happy.

And I've wanted to bang her friend for a decade she looks like Bree Olson. But I know, as a 35 year old man, thinking with my dick can get me in trouble and we've worked hard to be a family acquire capital/assets/etc.

 

[pieguy]

I'm in a similar boat.

I've been with my wife since '99. We have two boys. When we first got together my wife told me she had been with a woman when she was in high school. I never thought much about it probably just two girls being curious. Anyways fast forward to 2013 and just this year my wife tells me she wishes she could have a threesome with a girl. She actually said she regrets not having another one so that tells me she has been thinking about this for a while and somewhat serious. I probably should have guessed because, when we are intimate, she never likes to watch porn with a man/woman. She always says its too hard and she likes to watch women because its softer and more gentler type of porn.

Initially I was like fuck ya! I mean what married man wouldn't want to bang another chick after 14 years with the same woman.

But then as I imagine all sorts of cool cum swapping scenarios (ya right lol) all my insecurities start popping up. What if she says, down the road, I was with another girl now I want another man?

My wife and I are very secure in our relationship. We are together forever. I just want her to be happy.

And I've wanted to bang her friend for a decade she looks like Bree Olson. But I know, as a 35 year old man, thinking with my dick can get me in trouble and we've worked hard to be a family acquire capital/assets/etc.

Those two thoughts alone would scare the fuck out of me. If anything, it'd make me wanna just tell her to go sleep with a women and come back and tell me about it. That way you have a backup argument in case of separation and there's no chance of a dude banging your wife.

 

[NOSUPERMODEL]

No way in hell could I do it. How could you watch another guy give your woman pleasure? Would it make you angry if you walked in on her cheating on you and some guy was boning her and she is screaming in ecstacy? By swapping your basically going to be watching the same thing except you said it was okay. No way ever. I would end up in prison. I am too much of a jealous and selfish person to ever swing.

And from what I have heard....its not like there are a bunch of "10's" walking around swingers clubs.

 

[love2build1]

Someone already said the best way I can think of explaining it: No way, ever, could I be ok with someone else touching the love of my life. That's not a statement brought on by insecurity or anything, that's just the hard truth. I'd be sick to my stomach. That's something of myself I give ONLY to her, and her ONLY to me..

 

[AlphaMaleDawg]

Me and my exgirlfriend were swingers but we had a rule no guys,just girls.
She was bi-sexual so she didn't mind just woman.
But after a year aid multiple threesomes foursomes,I started getting board like why can't just the 2 of us just have sex.
also she like watching me with multiple woman it turned her on, but even that got old after developing real feelings for her.
Eventually I had enough. and we broke up.
I never thought I would have enough of having sex with multiple woman a night

wtf?? Please give me your ex's number. She sounds perfect for me

 

[AlphaMaleDawg]

No way in hell could I do it. How could you watch another guy give your woman pleasure? Would it make you angry if you walked in on her cheating on you and some guy was boning her and she is screaming in ecstacy? By swapping your basically going to be watching the same thing except you said it was okay. No way ever. I would end up in prison. I am too much of a jealous and selfish person to ever swing.

And from what I have heard....its not like there are a bunch of "10's" walking around swingers clubs.

I think that's really what makes it difficult. Hearing her moan and be pleasured by someone else. If she was totally quiet, it might be more tolerable

 

[richiec]

I think that's really what makes it difficult. Hearing her moan and be pleasured by someone else. If she was totally quiet, it might be more tolerable

couldn't help but lol

 

[Gunsmith]

Was in an "open" relationship for a while , never really got jealous but I realized I could never marry her so why waste my time.
My wife has a low sex drive and mine is like a over active 16yr old boy and since I'm un able to get myself off she has mentioned that I get a "friend" but I just can't disrespect the love of my life.

 

[Aliendogstar]

A special brand of "freaky" is required to participate in such an act. I could never do it.

 

[Stevedave93]

Someone already said the best way I can think of explaining it: No way, ever, could I be ok with someone else touching the love of my life. That's not a statement brought on by insecurity or anything, that's just the hard truth. I'd be sick to my stomach. That's something of myself I give ONLY to her, and her ONLY to me..

Right on brother.

 

[Mrtae]

In most cases not a great idea for long term, serious relationships. If you decide to, make sure to discuss boundaries, what's acceptable, and what's not acceptable. Always leave totally stopping the situation very acceptable and how to properly do it or communicate it. I highly recommend no friends or anyone in your two's circles, especially for the first time.

I hope whichever you decide, it works out for you.

 

[nicw]

I think that's really what makes it difficult. Hearing her moan and be pleasured by someone else. If she was totally quiet, it might be more tolerable

But if u watch her getting pleasure from sex toys at home should I be jealous of that sex toy? I know there's a big difference between sex toys and a dude lol but at the end of the day its sexual pleasure were after,its the same for her cause she sees me getting pleasure from another woman's pussy but is grown up enough to see that were all adults here know what to expect,I'm not naive enough to think that I'm the only cock that she ever fucked and she's not naive to think that before she came along I only had my hand for pleasure lol

 

[anarchocapitalist]

Those two thoughts alone would scare the fuck out of me. If anything, it'd make me wanna just tell her to go sleep with a women and come back and tell me about it. That way you have a backup argument in case of separation and there's no chance of a dude banging your wife.

Well to be honest I'm not so concerned about another man banging my wife simply because my wife seems so interested in another woman. And I've never really thought about it. Its the last thing on my mind lol. BUT BUT what if down the road she says hey you got to fuck my girlfriend I want to fuck another man?

Plus this Bree Olson look a like friend has been texting me jokingly messages like "wanna hump" or stuff like that so I don't know where that is going. For example if she has a date she'll come over to my house and ask me what I think of her new dress prior to the date. Now I'm starting to wonder about all this lol.

This Olson look a like is a single mom, a respectable woman with her head on her shoulders, but she's had a serious stroke of bad luck with guys the past few years. We are very close and I take care of her daughter more than her real dad does. I don't care what women say little girls need a strong man in their life. We've joked about my joining family being her "backup" type of thing if she ends up being alone.

Anyways just rambling. I have no idea what to do.