Which woman caused the deepest influence on you?

[Love_to_Bodybuild]

My mom and sisters. They're all on different paths, but all have specific wisdom to share in their different areas of life.

And every woman I ever dated, the good and the bad. Lots and lots of lessons if you're conscious.

*Be yourself, you can only fake it for so long. If they don't like how you really are, they'll just go, or you will, after much wasted time. Get it done early.
*Don't lie. Be honest and you can do about anything you want.
*Put respect first and expect it in the day to day. But not in the bedroom.
*Don't spoil the ones who are already spoiled, they won't notice.
*Don't take strippers and porn actresses seriously. LOL. There may be exceptions, but I never met those ones.

great lessons youve learned. I knew this stuff, its good to be reminded and cuts down on the learning curve. Just like some exercises in the gym you forget then come back to, this is a good reminder. Thank you for sharing.

 

[johnjuanb1]

My mom and sisters. They're all on different paths, but all have specific wisdom to share in their different areas of life.

And every woman I ever dated, the good and the bad. Lots and lots of lessons if you're conscious.

*Be yourself, you can only fake it for so long. If they don't like how you really are, they'll just go, or you will, after much wasted time. Get it done early.
*Don't lie. Be honest and you can do about anything you want.
*Put respect first and expect it in the day to day. But not in the bedroom.
*Don't spoil the ones who are already spoiled, they won't notice.
*Don't take strippers and porn actresses seriously. LOL. There may be exceptions, but I never met those ones.

I'm curious on this one. Why shouldn't you be respected in the bedroom? I know some women are giving and others are selfish as all hell! I've had both as girlfriends. I just hope I have the courage in the future to dump one who is selfish in the bedroom. Why put up with it when there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Or am I completely misinterpreting this? Is it a joke meaning disrespect is being playful like spanking or calling a girl a dirty whore to turn her on?

 

[Mike Arnold]

I'm curious on this one. Why shouldn't you be respected in the bedroom? I know some women are giving and others are selfish as all hell! I've had both as girlfriends. I just hope I have the courage in the future to dump one who is selfish in the bedroom. Why put up with it when there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Or am I completely misinterpreting this? Is it a joke meaning disrespect is being playful like spanking or calling a girl a dirty whore to turn her on?

I think that is what he means, although he appears to be confusing "disrespect" with "domination". I would say disrespect, regardless of when/where it takes place, is a bad thing...but I understand the point he is trying to make. Some men misinterpret certain female desires as a type of self-denigration and thus, it is seen as a type of self-disrespect, but a man only sees things that way because that is how he would feel if exposed to similar treatment. Women don't see things that way...and it is NOT disrespect they are seeking, but domination, which can manifest itself in a multitude of different desires, depending on the individual woman.

This is a pretty deep subject and would require us to get into the fundamental differences between masculine and feminine sexuality. Unfortunately, some men go their entire lives without ever really understanding these differences and as a result, they miss out on a lot (as does their significant other).

 

[Phidias]

I think that is what he means, although he appears to be confusing "disrespect" with "domination". I would say disrespect, regardless of when/where it takes place, is a bad thing...but I understand the point he is trying to make. Some men misinterpret certain female desires as a type of self-denigration and thus, it is seen as a type of self-disrespect, but a man only sees things that way because that is how he would feel if exposed to similar treatment. Women don't see things that way...and it is NOT disrespect they are seeking, but domination, which can manifest itself in a multitude of different desires, depending on the individual woman.

This is a pretty deep subject and would require us to get into the fundamental differences between masculine and feminine sexuality. Unfortunately, some men go their entire lives without ever really understanding these differences and as a result, they miss out on a lot (as does their significant other).

:yeahthat:

This is EXACTLY how I would have replied to JJ's questioning about Ehren's comment.

Most women, even (and I'd rather say ABOVE ALL) powerful ones in everyday life, are seeking domination in bed... their perception of you as a "real" man, even though you might be the nicest/most caring/etc..., is intimely correlated to how you'll treat them sex wise.

Some things have been in our genes for million years, it won't change anytime soon...

 

[method2madness]

I disagree. While it may hurt for a time being, you can always heal yourself. Yes you have to take a risk of getting hurt again, but to experience the highs or life you must risk the lows, if you want to get on that feeling again. Iif you become "cold", cold hearted and don't let anyone in, or even try, I feel sorry for you, and youll come across that way to people. Im not saying dont be tough, tough is fine,, just dont be so hard you dont let anyone in.

Just an injury in the gym, it can take time, but you can get it better.


Who Wants to Be an Oyster?

One final word about preventing and removing emotional hurts. To live creatively, we must be willing to be a little vulnerable. We must be willing to be hurt a little, if necessary, in creative living. A lot of people need a thicker and tougher emotional skin than they have. But they need only a tough emotional hide or epidermis, not a shell. To trust, to love, to open ourselves to emotional communication with other people is to run the risk of being hurt. If we are hurt once, we can do one of two things. We can build a thick protective shell, or scar tissue, to prevent being hurt again, live like an oyster, and not be hurt.

Or we can “turn the other cheek,” remain vulnerable and go on living creatively.

An oyster is never “hurt”. It has a thick shell that protects it from everything. It is isolated. An oyster is secure, but not creative. It cannot “go after” what it wants, it must wait for it to come to it. An oyster knows none of the “hurts” of emotional communication with the environment, but neither can an oyster know the joys.

Well said! Being cold hearted is only going to make ones life worse.

[ame="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ISozOEnEs8c"]Simon and Garfunkel - I Am A Rock - YouTube[/ame]

 

[2thmaker]

:yeahthat:

This is EXACTLY how I would have replied to JJ's questioning about Ehren's comment.

Most women, even (and I'd rather say ABOVE ALL) powerful ones in everyday life, are seeking domination in bed... their perception of you as a "real" man, even though you might be the nicest/most caring/etc..., is intimely correlated to how you'll treat them sex wise.

Some things have been in our genes for million years, it won't change anytime soon...

I could say so much about what I see going on today but it would just start a shit storm lol.

 

[Nyoco]

I have to answer my mother, taught me how to strive to be the best human being I can become.

 

[jipilon74]

Demi Moore...what a woman

 

[Love_to_Bodybuild]

Demi Moore...what a woman

stood two feet from her on July 4th 1996 on harbor Island SC, where my family ould go on vacation. She was filming GI Jane close by.

 

[Allgear]

Thank you to all women

 

[Bigorexia]

Deepest influence doesn't need to be a good thing I presume. Following that logic, my ex wife.

Argumentum ad ignoratiam

 

[MightyMouse215]

My mom for my foundation and continuous love and support, a grandmother of 91 years who lights up in my presence to this day and always has words to uplift my faith and Aunt Jenny for cutting up with me about just about anything.

 

[Fitraver]

Definitely my grandma. She's my angel on earth and my best friend.

 

[sambo11510]

I have 2, my wife and my mom... My two favorite people.

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[SRhealth-Rachel]

I have 2, my wife and my mom... My two favorite people.

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There must be a great lady behind the great man, mother when you young and wife will company with you in the rest time.

 

[SRhealth-Rachel]

My mom for my foundation and continuous love and support, a grandmother of 91 years who lights up in my presence to this day and always has words to uplift my faith and Aunt Jenny for cutting up with me about just about anything.

good for you, it reminds me of my grandma, also told me many things...