why were the reasons for break ups ???
I'll explain when I have more time
Unconditional love only happens between a parent and thier child these days that's it.
That's exactly what I'm hopelessly beginning to believe
Sorry you're going through hard times, Bro.
Unfortunately, love, even strong love, is about 4th on the list of importance when it comes to staying together. Behind respect, self-interest (i.e. personal goals) and general happiness.
If you're not a happy person generally, the other person will be unhappy. Arguing over little shit, consistently, even if love is there, is taxing. If she has personal goals that conflict with being with you (dream job out of the country for example), she's out. If she stays, she'll resent you eventually and then she's out. She might still love you. But it will be from far away. LOL.
So, it's not that love doesn't exist, it's just that it doesn't/can't take the place of a lot of other things required for a complete life in a healthy person. It's just one piece from several and all are necessary.
Very good points bro, thank you.
I started out as a very happy, dedicated, and self motivated. We fell for each other extremely fast and we were a absolutely perfect for each other. I remember her saying she never knew such happiness and love existed, and that she was determined after 2 years of being single that she would have to settle, until she met me.
I was absolutely amazed that such secure, strong willed, independent, gorgeous and sexy plus so passionately motivated female even existed on earth, let alone was so interested and in love with ME.
Some things happened at work, I made some mistakes by losing my job and staying unemployed too long and got severely depressed. I hated myself more than my worst evemy. I felt like a total failure and it began to manifest in my mind. I slowly began to become a negative person, not to my girlfriend, not in any way towards her, just to life in general. Naturally it made he feel miserable (I had no idea what affect I was having). I passively let life pass me by. Everything I ever needed was right in front of me and I watched as I let it all slide by in less than 12 months.
We had a plan to take a step back and work on ourselves and getting ourselves back for a cpl months (live separate as well) and then she competely gave up on it all.
Since then I have been to jail, had a 180 in the direction of my life , stopped contact with all negative people, found my true purpose for life, been to counseling, and my outlook has never been better.
But my ex is like a robot with no emotion half the time and the other half she tells me things like "I'm living for me now", "I can't control anyone but myself and I realized that so I made necessary changes", "you're not the same person I met 3 yrs ago," and "having depression for a year is more than just a funk".
And understand, she was talking wedding plans and literally picking out the location of our reception, not any more than a month prior to breaking up with me. But to mention telling me how she wanted a baby together asap and to marry her and start saving for a future house...
How can someone just switch a button on and off like that.?
She won't even see me.
The best words of wisdom I can give you......The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Go have fun and git some for a while without wanting to fall in love.
Na bro, true love takes time. Would random pussy be great, fuck yes, but I'd be thinking about my ex the entire time. That's not fun to me.
I'll give an honest reply, I have no clue and I am in the same boat of understanding you are in. Ehren did say some things that hits home with me and I do feel that everything he said does very well apply, my last relationship ended because I couldn't stand the continuous disrespect
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I'm sure my ex would say the same about me actually. It's not that I disrespected her directly, I'd never do that to her. But I had done things that hurt her indirectly due to a drug habit... If only I had my mind clear, I would have known how my decisions would hurt her eventually.