This is my thought too. My first wife cheated on me and I wish she had just left me rather than have an affair. It really grosses me out to think that I was having sex with her at the same time he was. If the person the spouse is cheating with has a disease you could end up with it too. Just the idea of sloppy seconds is so nasty.
I feel like somone that would cheat on their spouse is just the lowest of the low, and much of that feeling comes from my experience of being cheated on. It was one of the lowest points in my life, ranks right up there with almost dying from a heart attack! If you are that unhappy then you just need to leave the relationship/marriage. For those that are religious it really doesnt make any sense, since you made a oath to God to be faitful to your spouse.
AGREED! I discovered cheating and lying and called it quits recently...the thoughts and feelings on this end of it are terrible. She should have been SINGLE if she wanted that but...some people have NO integrity or morals. Sit in church sunday, do the family thing, but sending naked pics/vids and hooking up when the mood strikes? That's BS. I can't stand a liar...and can't even fathom doing so off and on for YEARS. I'd have severe anxiety lol.