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I'm not that big but alot of people tell me that there is something intimidating about me. I cannot tell you how many people (especially girls) have told me that they were shocked when they got to know me what I was really like.
I'm married now and don't really care a whole lot about going out/friends ect, you know who your freinds are when you have kids and move 24 miles away. Shit most of my "boys" have never even been to my house, in 4 years!
But I started thinking about his actually a week or so ago, about the "something about you is intimidating" thing. I started to look at people that I see in public places, especially the gym and looked for people that gave ME that kind of feeling. Like they were the type of person that is kind of intimidating, would ignore you if you said "hi" to them or whatever. Whenever I see someone like that lately I have made an effort to figure out what exactly was giving me that feeling about them. I noticed that usually they tend to avoid eye contact, kind of just ignore everyone around them, overall just behave just a little different than most people. There really is a way that you carry yourself that kind of puts off a, not so much "I'm a badass" but just a "don't approach me" kind of aura.
I realized that I do many of these behaviors when I don't know someone. Much of it is actually out of respect for them, for example women, I tend to avoid eye contact, avoid looking at women because I don't want them to feel like I'm checking them out, looking at their ass while they workout, I really don't look because you know people can see you in the mirrors when you can't see them b/c I see women looking at me when I'm lifting in the mirrors, but I don't look, out of respect and to not be creepy.
But the thing is, that behavior that I intend to not be creepy, IS what's creepy. Or intimidating b/c the people that do that to me give me that same feeling. So I have been trying to act different, say hello to people I don't know, carry myself more like other people..
Try that, I'll bet you will find it's the same thing. As far as your friends, my friends leave me out of all kinds of stuff, I guess I piss them off or whatever sometimes, I just don't care anymore, my new concept is just meet more and more people and have more and more friends.
Guys, heres a view point from a shaved head 6 foot, fella.. im only just ova 240 so im not BIGGG but definately look like a lifter I guess..
I NEVER have people avoid me or get intimidated (90+%) the only time i might put people off is if im being loud and silly(ie hyperactive) i do love bein childish, i work in a gym and making people laugh at me passes the day..
Im from new zealand and after travelling and workinh in canada,alaska, australia, uk, africa etc.... NO ONE smiles at strangers as they walk past, if you big and do this people think you are agro even tho I know you probly arent at all!!!!!
I smile at EVERYONE!!!!!! not over the top just a lil smile or a "hey" when speaking to girls i call them "luv" or something else like darlin, most people like a smiling, informal big guy...
after a vien popping, DC set, i will smile and nod to the avrerage joe pensioner next to me just to show, hey its just a set but its ova now... i AM normal..