Can Anyone Actually Call Tony?

[myosin]

The support he's getting in the other thread is just amazing and really show's just how much of a "community" this little corner of the web can be. Can someone (if they haven't already) actually give him a physical phone call though? There is a time when someone needs "alone time", I totally get that... at the same time though, if prolonged, that "alone time" can easily turn into some very ugly feelings, thoughts and sometimes actions.

 

[Thick1]

I think most of us responding has been to let Tony know that he has family here and he should not leave even though it has memory ties to Marilyn. But good thought and hopefully someone has reached out to him.

 

[Jarconis]

he on facebook?

 

[db006]

although a tough time for tony, theres OBVIOUSLY so much more to their relationship and life than can possibly be translated through posts and pictures. i know people on here actually speak to tony, and sure he needs support, but honestly its none of anyones business to tell them to stay together or say whats best to do for the kids or anything. no one knows whats really going on. IMO

 

[kid1dakota]

but honestly its none of anyones business to tell them to stay together or say whats best to do for the kids or anything. no one knows whats really going on. IMO

Thats what I was thinking reading the other thread.

 

[myosin]

I think most of us responding has been to let Tony know that he has family here and he should not leave even though it has memory ties to Marilyn. But good thought and hopefully someone has reached out to him.

Sure- like I said, I think the posts are WONDERFUL... but, hearing a concerned friends voice on the other line could really help. Unless he has another handle I haven't seen him online all day.

 

[Elvia1023]

Thats what I was thinking reading the other thread.

I was thinking the same. Always sad when people split up. But most relationships do and there are numerous reasons for it. I don't even know him but what I have seen he seems like a lovely/top person and I hope things work out good for him. It's great people are here for support and some know him more than others. But like the above has stated it's their business and others don't know whats gone on. People don't just split up so I feel it is wrong to say they should get back together... only they know the answer to that. And as far as calling him well I am sure people who actually have his number (actually know him) will be calling him and he can get the support he needs. 1 min of meeting someone in person makes you truly know (not facts or figures) a person more than 100 hours of online chat.

 

[myosin]

I was thinking the same. Always sad when people split up. But most relationships do and there are numerous reasons for it. I don't even know him but what I have seen he seems like a lovely/top person and I hope things work out good for him. It's great people are here for support and some know him more than others. But like the above has stated it's their business and others don't know whats gone on. People don't just split up so I feel it is wrong to say they should get back together... only they know the answer to that. And as far as calling him well I am sure people who actually have his number (actually know him) will be calling him and he can get the support he needs. 1 min of meeting someone in person makes you truly know (not facts or figures) a person more than 100 hours of online chat.

I was/am hoping someone to call him more to support him (of course Marilyn too) versus counseling for reconciliation (though if that just so happens then all the more better!). U r right- all this online support is great but to actually have that personal 1-1 time can make a huge difference- thnx for that comment.

 

[eroc613]

Sone time people need time alone, and call and reminding them of something they may not be trying to think about (I'm sure he has it on his mind without trying).

He said he was staying away for a reason, because it reminds him of Marilyn.
I have his number, but I will give him some time because that's why he's not here posting, he needs time.

 

[Thick1]

Everyone should read the post by Iabadman in Tony's thread Life without Marilyn.

Tony needs his time and so does Marilyn. All we can do is wish them both well.

 

[Gunsmith]

Everyone should read the post by Iabadman in Tony's thread Life without Marilyn.

Tony needs his time and so does Marilyn. All we can do is wish them both well.

Yep , hopefully things can get sorted out for them , and somtimes having a great support base like here at PM is great , but somtimes people just need some time to think and collect themselves without any outside influances

I doubt that anybody here knows exactly what going on between them so its not right to say that they need to stay together , somtimes that can breed resentment and make things worse.

Best thing to do is just be their for when they need sombody to listen

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

Here is what IABADMAN said:

Guys ......I was close to them both and working with them both as well........ but I have removed myself from their business and situation . I will always have love and compassion for them both .I did try and help. I want you all to quit speculating .......this wasn't over some superifcial bs , or over infedelity .....this is very some very deep seated private stuff that is between them only ........there is no one to blame ........if you want to be supportive to them as individuals ....then great .....they both are very special in their own right .....please don't think this was superficial or hasty ........and the kids were considered .[they are also 14 and 16 , and goods kids at that ]..........These people weren't shallow ...........in fact, they are very different and very complex.......I really enjoyed them both on many levels........when I parted ways, I was hurt and have alot going on in my own life .......they are both facing a rough road and because of some things that came to my attention. I felt it best to remove myself from their lives at this time,but nothing against them personally..........But no bs .....I have love for them both , wish them the best , and hope that they both find the happiness that they deserve..........I only had good feelings and wanted to keep in that way ........I know this was a shock .......and it is very sad ......but this is a private matter and believe me ,not at all an easy situation..........maybe use use this as a wake up call in your own lives .........fix what is broken and deal with with your issues .......if you don't it will always get you in the end ....always ........enough said !!!
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Like IABADMAN said: wish them the best, but give them both their space.

 

[Hayabusa]

Let's fight about this....

 

[myosin]

Completely agree about giving space... I mentioned that in the original post. Thankful for Iabadman's post, that helps.

Good to know some people will be in contact with him eventually. As I mentioned already- time alone is good, needed and important... but too much time alone can lead to some very unhealthy things, mentally, emotionally, etc.

Glad to be a part of a board that cares for each other above typing on the keyboard.