Drinking alcohol going out to bars/clubs/parties

[dgarr21]

Okay going to give you a little history about me and alcohol...im a great laid back no drama big joking guy when im sober but when im drunk i can either be extremely funny in a good way or extremely aggresive towards men i do not know i mean most of time some little bobby big wheels guy stares and points a little to much at one of me or my boys or at least i think they do *damn alcohol* lol probably not and i flip them off and shit goes south quick...im not the biggest guy 6'3'' 255-260 but i am by far bigger and stronger than your average bear i can hold my own.......

BUT

The time has come to mature a little more and stop this drinking drama shit which i always regret the next morning but i will be good not drinking for weeks to months at whole time then i will go to a big party or club and ppl offer me drinks and i cave in only for that night though...my question to u guys is drinking is so counter productive to my goal of muscle building and overall health both mentally and physically but how do you guys go to clubs/bars/parties and not drink especially if you have a rep for being the outgoing funny guy ppl like at parties.......

I know just stop drinking wtf is hard about that is what u guys are saying but im asking for ideas to stop cold turkey but still go out every other weekend or once a month with my friends and still be social...you know what i mean???

 

[kingpeon]

Alcohol has been a big problem for me also. It is very difficult for me to associate with my old drinking buddies without wanting to drink. It almost becomes a life unto itself and compels me to give in. I eventually had to avoid my bros and the places I used to drink at until I had enough strength to turn it down. I'm most likely an alcoholic. Although I'd rather train and eat well, the lure of the bottle is always there.

 

[dgarr21]

i feel ya

man alot of friends or either military or college kids with 1 year left and are seasoned drinkers by now and thats cool for them but i do not like the person i become when im drunk im perfectly fine getting drunk but once i stop drinking and come down so to speak its a flip of a coin and i dont like that side effect....i have woke up with a broken middle knuckle and only remember pieces of a fight and i feel real bad if i hurt some1 because i am not capable of being mature enough to know when to stop drinking....yeah i think im going to avoid new orleans for a while then lol that place is just one big orgy party with lots of hot girls and nice mix drinks hahaha bad place to be in trying NOT to drink

 

[Lee Salado]

Willpower man. I go out all the time. Every weekend, but I never drink. My friends do, but I don't. I don't designated drive either, cause I hate having a car full of drunk people.

Go out, have fun, don't drink.

And yes, drinking is the exact opposited of what you want to be doing nutritionally for bodybuilding.

 

[Papa Van Smack]

I like to find a nice balance. Luckily i'm not an aggressive drunk, i'm usually the life of the party.....so naturally i don't mind much to partake.

I've had the bottle get a decent stronghold on me in the past, I try to limit my exploits to once per week, and even that doesn't HAVE to be an excessive night. But....if the company is good(close friends) and the setting is safe, i don't inhibit my ability to indulge from time to time.

I think it's normal as long as you can handle it.

Quit the drama though, wtf is that all about. Be cool, get laid.....messin w/ some dude who looked at ya funny isn't going to help that cause at all....

 

[walker11]

i def. feel you on this one. i'm in college right now and since i'm on the cheerleading squad (only guy), the girls expect me to go out every weekend with them to parties. what i do to keep from drinking is i will DD every weekend and/or keep telling myself and other people how far out i am from my next meet to give myself reason not to drink and to give the people around me a reason to stop trying to get me to drink. i don't know if you do any sort of competitions but if you don't then set a goal for yourself every 4-8 weeks so you can say you're training for something and drinkin will keep you from reaching it. as far as the drama thing, just don't pick sides if thats the case and/or keep your words and actions to yourself.
hope that helps.

 

[Lee Salado]

Yes, starting trouble with someone because he looked at you funny (your point of view) is just plain bad character. Alcohol or not. Maybe spend some time growing up, then when you lose the attitude, have a few drinks with some friends.

When you become a grown-up you'll understand that people can look at you however they want and you don't need to throw a tantrum about it.

 

[dgarr21]

Lee Salado

alright brother damn thanks for the verbal bashing i just STATED i had problems with my anger and drinking and i GUESS it makes u feel cool to knock some1 down when they are TRYING to address their problems and ask questions and even stated im trying to mature but thanks lee salado that was mature.....

 

[dgarr21]

added to other post

and their are other factors but i just used that one as a example a bad example i give u that but i have to disagree with u one some points but i wont get into that im just glad u have never made bad choices in your life when u were young like most ppl due i clap for u because u my friend never did anything stupid being in your twenties obviously

 

[Lee Salado]

alright brother damn thanks for the verbal bashing i just STATED i had problems with my anger and drinking and i GUESS it makes u feel cool to knock some1 down when they are TRYING to address their problems and ask questions and even stated im trying to mature but thanks lee salado that was mature.....

Sorry man wasn't meant to be a verbal bashing. Not at all.
After re-reading my post, yeah it does sound that way, so appologies.

On the upside, try to look at it as how others view that kind of behavior, then use it as fuel for avoiding those situations.

 

[dgarr21]

its cool man..and yes i know i do need to grow up and i am truly taking strides to do that but thank u for your recent clear up brother

have a good night brother

 

[Michaelthomasj]

Okay going to give you a little history about me and alcohol...im a great laid back no drama big joking guy when im sober but when im drunk i can either be extremely funny in a good way or extremely aggresive towards men i do not know i mean most of time some little bobby big wheels guy stares and points a little to much at one of me or my boys or at least i think they do *damn alcohol* lol probably not and i flip them off and shit goes south quick...im not the biggest guy 6'3'' 255-260 but i am by far bigger and stronger than your average bear i can hold my own.......

BUT

The time has come to mature a little more and stop this drinking drama shit which i always regret the next morning but i will be good not drinking for weeks to months at whole time then i will go to a big party or club and ppl offer me drinks and i cave in only for that night though...my question to u guys is drinking is so counter productive to my goal of muscle building and overall health both mentally and physically but how do you guys go to clubs/bars/parties and not drink especially if you have a rep for being the outgoing funny guy ppl like at parties.......

I know just stop drinking wtf is hard about that is what u guys are saying but im asking for ideas to stop cold turkey but still go out every other weekend or once a month with my friends and still be social...you know what i mean???

Hey brother...its actually like you said. You just need to mature a bit. Why don't you ask your friends not to push you to drink at parties. Tell them that your in training and cannot have the alcohol. Bro all you need to do is hit someone, and injure them, and you are screwed big time. all that macho shit just is not worth it. If you have the need to fight , take up a sport like Wrestling, bjj,judo,boxing etc. I have had a few fights outside of the ring, but they were unavoidable. I have wrestled,boxed, and bjj for many many years and it not only builds character, but it builds respect for people and for life. Why take a chance at becoming an alcoholic anyway. Another thing is...are you taking aas? If so alcohol would create a tremendous stress on your body and organs. This is just crazy to do if you are taking anything. You need to get used to going out and have the ability to be outgoing without the aid of alcohol. When you finish school and get out into the work field you will need to be outgoing w/o the use of alcohol. The good part of this whole discussion is that you asked for help, so you realize what you needt o change. That is the first step and its great that you are looking to change things. Good Luck bro.

 

[dgarr21]

michael

man that is a really good idea i could tell them i am getting serious about my weightlifting and they would def understand that cause they know i love to lift and i have always been interested in muay thai got a cousin who loves it to def and is in great shape and like u said i dont think i have actually seen him ever lose his cool or fight outside a ring...and yep i have a year and half maybe shorter until i get my degree and hopefully go to the middle east and do private security work for american companies or for our military so if i get a charge if someone pressed charges my life would be completely screwed cause they do a background search for criminal acts like assualt or fraud...thanks once again michael sound advice

 

[RONJON]

Okay going to give you a little history about me and alcohol...im a great laid back no drama big joking guy when im sober but when im drunk i can either be extremely funny in a good way or extremely aggresive towards men i do not know i mean most of time some little bobby big wheels guy stares and points a little to much at one of me or my boys or at least i think they do *damn alcohol* lol probably not and i flip them off and shit goes south quick...im not the biggest guy 6'3'' 255-260 but i am by far bigger and stronger than your average bear i can hold my own.......

BUT

The time has come to mature a little more and stop this drinking drama shit which i always regret the next morning but i will be good not drinking for weeks to months at whole time then i will go to a big party or club and ppl offer me drinks and i cave in only for that night though...my question to u guys is drinking is so counter productive to my goal of muscle building and overall health both mentally and physically but how do you guys go to clubs/bars/parties and not drink especially if you have a rep for being the outgoing funny guy ppl like at parties.......
I know just stop drinking wtf is hard about that is what u guys are saying but im asking for ideas to stop cold turkey but still go out every other weekend or once a month with my friends and still be social...you know what i mean???

Well...for me I just dont go anymore..simple as that
My "rep" is determined by myself and those that I care about...bodybuilding and the going out/drinking lifestyle just dont really mix IMO bro

RJ

 

[liftalot79]

I love bars & Clubs

Me and My Girl don't drink, I haven't had Alcohol in almost 4 years. When I do go out I drink Diet with Grenadine(Cherry Syrup). I was always brawling when I was unger and Drunk. With a Brown Belt in Moo Sool Do and years & years of Grappling I wish some poor College kids would say something or a Big 40 year old pervert try to grab my girl thinking I was smashed not knowing i've been drinking Diet Cherry Coke.

 

[tkav1980]

ive been in the restaurant industury since 1994. i could outdrink most seniors on the football team in college my freshmen year. ive been in exactly 3 fights drunk. all before i was 21. usually when fight time came around, between 1:45 and 3 am i had already left with a girl . and trust me i always had a better story than my buddy who punched 3 midgets.

 

[Diesel City]

Okay going to give you a little history about me and alcohol...im a great laid back no drama big joking guy when im sober but when im drunk i can either be extremely funny in a good way or extremely aggresive towards men i do not know i mean most of time some little bobby big wheels guy stares and points a little to much at one of me or my boys or at least i think they do *damn alcohol* lol probably not and i flip them off and shit goes south quick...im not the biggest guy 6'3'' 255-260 but i am by far bigger and stronger than your average bear i can hold my own.......

BUT

The time has come to mature a little more and stop this drinking drama shit which i always regret the next morning but i will be good not drinking for weeks to months at whole time then i will go to a big party or club and ppl offer me drinks and i cave in only for that night though...my question to u guys is drinking is so counter productive to my goal of muscle building and overall health both mentally and physically but how do you guys go to clubs/bars/parties and not drink especially if you have a rep for being the outgoing funny guy ppl like at parties.......

I know just stop drinking wtf is hard about that is what u guys are saying but im asking for ideas to stop cold turkey but still go out every other weekend or once a month with my friends and still be social...you know what i mean???

You need to change your life style. Ater reading your story it looks similar to mine. First thing I'd tell you to do is take a look at these folks you think are your "friends". Are they "friends" or are they drinking buddies. There is a significant difference.

You also said stopping drinking is hard, and you used the words "cold turkey". You have an addiction my man. Doesn't make you a bad guy, know that, but simply put; you're addicted to booze. Feel free to PM me....

Best of luck to you.

 

[napaulm]

i agree. friends or drinking buddies?
second, cold turkey? if u only drink occasionally, then there's no cold turkey. im a hardcore drinker, and im trying to stop. very hard. for u, it should be easy. its fun goin out and gettin toasted, but it sounds like u cave to peer pressure. u gots to man up, bra! easy 4 me to say, very hard to do.
i had too many encounters in bars with the wrong people. bikers, organized crime guys, and i coulda got killed a few times, cuz i was a drunk courageous fool. i stay outta those places now.
the only advice really is to either not go out, or change who u go out with, if it's gonna be too much temptation 4 u. im tryin that out now.

 

[Lee Salado]

dgarr21-
You obviously recognize a need for change in your life, and that is the single most important factor in making that change. Thats the "hard part" really. Most people have no idea that they have a problem (drinking, attitude, any in general) and have to be told by others, but usually never accept it.

Kudos on the successful self-reflection. Now comes the next challenge....knowing when to say no.

Focus on your training and keep telling yourself that everytime you party (with alcohol), you are taking steps backwards.

Time to keep moving forward!

 

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my cycles put me on edge and that made me want to drink for years...

but I decided i couldnt cut while drinking. Not so much the calories in drinking, but id loose my dedication and eat whatever. So i dont really drink anymore.