Falling in Love on the internet!

[Phidias]

Have I lost reason? Am I stupid? Desperate? A combination of each?

I asked for nothing, she came to me (not even on a dating site) and now I find myself attached to this girl like I've only been twice before in my life... without even having met her, ever!

And no, cause I see it coming lol, she's not from Russia or Nigeria in need for money... Far from it actually.

I know what being in love is and right now I have all the symptoms. Her words are strong, meaningful, she's smart, beautiful and we share the same interests!

Is it too good to be true? Have some of you already fallen in love "behind a keyboard"? What happened then?

And last should I listen to my heart and take the first flight to her place???

Phil, she lives not too far from you, buddy...

 

[halflife]

Have I lost reason? Am I stupid? Desperate? A combination of each?

I asked for nothing, she came to me (not even on a dating site) and now I find myself attached to this girl like I've only been twice before in my life... without even having met her, ever!

And no, cause I see it coming lol, she's not from Russia or Nigeria in need for money... Far from it actually.

I know what being in love is and right now I have all the symptoms. Her words are strong, meaningful, she's smart, beautiful and we share the same interests!

Is it too good to be true? Have some of you already fallen in love "behind a keyboard"? What happened then?

And last should I listen to my heart and take the first flight to her place???

Phil, she lives not too far from you, buddy...

Too good to be true? -no.

How long have yall been talking - what was/has been the frequency of these talks?

 

[madmick]

I met my fiancee on the internet. Not on a dating site but on the Iron Trybe board. We just started talking thru PM's. I've never been on a dating site or even a chat room in my life. It just happened. After 3 months of PM's and phone calls I flew down to Georgia from NY. I ended up flying down every 2 or 3 weeks for almost 3 months. It was pretty crazy now that I look back at it all. She moved up to NY with me for a year and now we are down in Georgia where she owns 2 homes here that her grandfather left her. I really think our relationship is so strong because of all the obstacles we had, long distance relationship, completely different cultures (city boy and a southern bell), big age difference. She has a little girl that I love like my own. I can honestly say I've never had a woman treat me better. Those long talks we had before we ever met were amazing, we knew so much about each other by the time we 1st met,, it was very cool. Were going on 4 years now

Here's a couple of pics of her and my future step daughter

 

[michelin]

Listen to your heart, which I think youre already doing, and go meet the girl. How are you going to know if its real until you meet her in the flesh and spend time in each others company.

Theres every possibility that you might have found the 'one' for you and I hope thats true cos you always come across a decent guy with good humour and 2 feet firmly on the ground in your posts.

Just dont put all your eggs in 1 basket mate, theres always the possibility of disappointment. But Good luck, were only here once and everything happens for a reason

 

[PHIL HERNON]

Tell me more!

Have I lost reason? Am I stupid? Desperate? A combination of each?

I asked for nothing, she came to me (not even on a dating site) and now I find myself attached to this girl like I've only been twice before in my life... without even having met her, ever!

And no, cause I see it coming lol, she's not from Russia or Nigeria in need for money... Far from it actually.

I know what being in love is and right now I have all the symptoms. Her words are strong, meaningful, she's smart, beautiful and we share the same interests!

Is it too good to be true? Have some of you already fallen in love "behind a keyboard"? What happened then?

And last should I listen to my heart and take the first flight to her place???

Phil, she lives not too far from you, buddy...

Thats great!! PM me and give me the details

 

[Phidias]

Madmick, thanks for sharing your story... it gives me hope! And like I already told you in the other thread, your gf is GEORGOUS. That's really a nice family you have there. I'm sincerely happy for you!

Michelin, all you said is true, especially the last part... I learned it the hard way before. Well, not so sure I learnt after all... lol!
Thanks for your kind words mate.

Phil, you may have a new client in your gym soon...

 

[Phidias]

Oh and halflife... the talks have been quite long so far... "exhausting" would be pretty accurate actually! A few hours each time...

 

[laylow]

good luck to you. i met my girl a couple of yrs ago on myspace. we talked quite a bit online and on the phone, were in the same work, started with lunch, then more talking, and it's been great. Certainly possible to fall in love on the net.

 

[ironwill]

I met countrychic on a canadian bodybuilding site...We have been together almost 3 years now...We chatted continuously and texted for 3 months, then we met and we havent looked back..We actually knew each other for 3 years previous to that via the boards, but were at different places in life and never threw it out there....I am glad i took the flight, best thing i ever did, and met my best friend in doing so..
Good luck Phidias

 

[GoneForFuckingEver8]

being that i am the self proclaimed biggest nerd on the board, and an intense computer geek, i will offer some info.

you are thinking that there might be something weird about meeting someone online. honestly - WTF is the difference where you meet someone???? evey human who has a wife, girlfriend, partner, or whatever had to have met them somehow - right? unless you have a pre-arranged marriage you must meet them initially. who cares if you meet them in a bar, the shopping mall, in the gym, at the gas station, at the beach, in a club, at school, online..... dont automatically discount her cause you met her online. people think its perfectly acceptable to meet someone at a bar, where its dark and you are drunk and horny - the logic of this escapes me.

first have you talked to her on the phone? i read through the thread and didnt see if it said you had. verbal communication is far and away superior to written messages. you can hear her voice, and this is a good indicator of her age, or if shes smokes, etc.... also exchanging of phone numbers, for a female, shows a bit of trust. you can tell how she responds to jokes, how quickly she responds, if shes witty, stuff like that.

second, since it is easy to lie online, make sure you have real pics of her. i know its hard to tell sometimes but here are some things to look for to spot the 'faker'. all her pics look professional, and they are all solo pics of her. none of her pictures have family or friends. all her pics are of her and the same 2 or 3 female friends. this way you cant tell which one of the girls is actually her (this is a common tactic). also this 'picture' thing is not superficial. its how members of the same species are attracted to each other.

i have noticed the females much more often than men will lie online. a man might lie and say he is a few inches taller than he really is, or might say he makes a little more money than he actually does. a woman will send pictures of a completely different person!!! or will show pics of her 10 years ago and 75lbs ago!!!!

the 'ploy' used here is after all this online communication, the day comes where you meet her (and she isnt the girl in the pics or she looks WAY different, like 100lbs different, or 10 years different) she claims that if you really like her like you said, it wouldnt matter. that its not all based on looks, that you are being superficial, that she is still the same person you got to know. she will use all this clever psychological BS, all to cover HER lie. what is actually occuring is not you being superficial or an asshole, what IS happening is this girl tried to trick you with lies, even before she ever met you. she had a 'plan' to trick a guy, then had plans to try to use psycho BS to keep him. FUCK THAT

thats a worst case scenerio. the best case scenerio is: its 2 or 3 years from know. you and your wife, who you met online, are reminiscing how you met. you are showing her this post you made here for advice. she is also showing a post she made on a forum she visits for advice. then you both notice something. you see a post made to her offering almost identical advice as i gave here. then you notice the name of the poster 'Lieutenant Uhura, Captian Kirk's Chocolate Fantasy'. you then see that both mine and this other persons email are the same, and you both think ' wow he really is the biggest nerd ever'

 

[thebrick]

Cool!

I say follow your heart! This is your life, live it! Stay grounded as much as you can under these circumstances Savor the journey of getting to know each other. She may be the one! You seem like a great person that certainly deserves a great woman. Go see if she is that person.

 

[NCMAC]

I met my future wife on the internet as well.. We started emailing and then we'd talk on the phone for 3+ hours every damn night.. I was getting 3 maybe 4 hours of sleep a night and could've cared less.. funny thing is she only lived 15 minutes away from me. I had lost my license for excessive speeding tickets the week before we started talking and had to wait til my license was reinstated.. I was too embarassed to admit that I couldnt go and pick her up for a date.. lol! Honestly looking back.. It's crazy what can happen when you least expect it.. we've been inseparable ever since we first met.

Good luck bro! if you feel everything is right.. then get to booking your flight so you can finally know for sure if she is everything you think she is..

 

[Shelby]

I fall in love a couple times a day on that ASS thread.

 

[Phidias]

I fall in love a couple times a day on that ASS thread.

LMAO! Not nice to make fun of me, Shelby...

Laylow, Ironwill, NCMAC... you guys are proof it can work! That's definitely encouraging. Thank you all.

Captain_Kirk, you're right... I guess you have to live with your time and accept the fact that the internet is just another place to meet. Even more convenient at first cause without even moving from your house you can "pre-select" and increase your chances of finding someone matching.

And to answer your question, YES we talked on the phone. It just confirmed my first impression...

Brick, thanks for your kind words.

 

[Pekkerwood]

Leave it to Shelby to keep it real!

Phidias:

Whats the downside? You visit her, pop in on Phil and learn additional "Super Fantastic Pro Only Tips" , and at worst make a new friend.

When I listen to counsel from my elderly mentors it is clear that the old saying "You will regret what you didn't do, more than anything you do" seems to be a consistent thread.

From a practical standpoint (I was an engineer in past life): Downside limited, upside unlimited.

Be at Peace.

 

[celltechguy]

Nothing wrong with it bro. I met my wife on myspace. Started out as just some flirty talk. Progressed to phone calls, then after a few weeks a first date. 3+ years later we got married.

 

[280]

Best way to meet women is on the internet. They fall in love with your picture and phone conversations while being at ease from a distance. Then when you meet them all the hard work is done. I ve met many woman on the net and most were great. Its much better than meeting a woman in person in your day to day life, woman on the internet are deeper, women you meet just walking down the street just see your body.

 

[Designbuilt]

women you meet just walking down the street just see your body.

Isn't that the point in being huge?

 

[GoneForFuckingEver8]

Best way to meet women is on the internet. They fall in love with your picture and phone conversations while being at ease from a distance. Then when you meet them all the hard work is done. I ve met many woman on the net and most were great. Its much better than meeting a woman in person in your day to day life, woman on the internet are deeper, women you meet just walking down the street just see your body.

Isn't that the point in being huge?

some good points. i myself am fairly intelligent, at least i'd like to believe that!! too bad i look like a total meathead. also i am Italian and people see me and expect me to talk like rocky balboa. many girls, who i became friends with by chance have told me that if they just met me, they would never have bothered to even talk to me, cause i fit that 'conceited douche meathead' stereotype. just from the way i look. on the net its different. girls can see my pics and think the same thing, yet its not a perceived 'risk' for them to talk to me, after all its just online. then after a few converstaions they are like 'wow you are so much smarter and nicer than i expected. i never would have talked to you unless we had met on here'

so while one of the points of being huge for some is the attention, it can also be a negative thing. meeting girls online can be a blessing sometimes

 

[Designbuilt]

some good points. i myself am fairly intelligent, at least i'd like to believe that!! too bad i look like a total meathead. also i am Italian and people see me and expect me to talk like rocky balboa. many girls, who i became friends with by chance have told me that if they just met me, they would never have bothered to even talk to me, cause i fit that 'conceited douche meathead' stereotype. just from the way i look. on the net its different. girls can see my pics and think the same thing, yet its not a perceived 'risk' for them to talk to me, after all its just online. then after a few converstaions they are like 'wow you are so much smarter and nicer than i expected. i never would have talked to you unless we had met on here'

so while one of the points of being huge for some is the attention, it can also be a negative thing. meeting girls online can be a blessing sometimes

Yeah, But I'm married, so that doesn't matter!

I was just kidding with my first response.

But if I some is just looking for a quick good time, NSA then nothing beats a good body, handsome face, etc.
to find out if the girl's interested or not.
Online, chatting, talking, all of that is too much work, you're either in or you're out.

However, the internet is a good tool for getting to know someone better, while remaining
anonymous and that can allow you to be more honest and confident
and therefore get to know eachother better before meeting.