how to deal with family and friends

[debo22]

lately I've been noticing family and friends looking at me a little different. i am only 6'1" 238 at 11%. not a huge BB'er by any means but in vastly better shape than your average human. they have begun to make me feel insecure because they are always making comments about my physique. like.....

geeze...how much bigger do you want to get!

what the hell are you "ON"?

pretty soon you'll have no neck!!

(I had a green T-shirt on) look its the incredible hulk...laughs.

are you taking steroids?

(work) let Mr. muscles do it.

this shit pisses me off. i almost insecure to take my shirt off around them as well cause they just stare and point as if I'm some freak. its like they want me to feel ashamed of being in shape. like, look at the freak, he's in shape.

what can i do or say to counter these kind of comments? I am nowhere near being done with BBing so it is just going to get worse. what are they going to say when I'm 260 or 230 at 6%? is their going to be a intervention.

 

[Jarconis]

just kill em with kindess, be a sport and laugh with them

 

[Tyrone]

No matter how old you are, family has emotional traction on you. How old are you? In your twenties, it's usually hard for them to see you as your own man. Like Jarconis said, hit them with a charm offensive.

Bump that and show off more...Be proud man...

 

[Big Bapper]

lately I've been noticing family and friends looking at me a little different. i am only 6'1" 238 at 11%. not a huge BB'er by any means but in vastly better shape than your average human. they have begun to make me feel insecure because they are always making comments about my physique. like.....

geeze...how much bigger do you want to get!

what the hell are you "ON"?

pretty soon you'll have no neck!!

(I had a green T-shirt on) look its the incredible hulk...laughs.

are you taking steroids?





I bet you are young. Give it time and they will exept you for who you are "dont let anyone kill your dreams". I would look at it in a positive way "whatever you are doing it must be working to attract that much attenction".

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

debo22, dont let it get to you brother, take it as a compliment. Why do I say that? Because they have to say something negative to you in order to make themselves feel better about their out of shape fat asses. And that's usually the main reason why are so negative to someone in good shape!

 

[Northwatch619]

Debo22

Hey Guy, As for the women in your family either they don’t like the heavy muscle look or haven’t been exposed to it enough to be comfortable with it. As for the guys in your family..perhaps they are insecure with your great physique in comparison to theirs.
I agree with others here…This doesn’t mean you have to cover up, but show some respect when needed. I trust you’re over 18 and this is the life style you have chosen and far be it that they don’t realize you could have chosen much worse. Keep the knowledge of your personal growth supplements to yourself at this point. At best except all the comments as compliments….Keep at Bro sounds like you are interested in taking it as far as you can…you will only disappoint yourself if you allow others to stand in your way. Hang out here at Pro Muscle and you’ll get all the support you need!

 

[biggpoppapump]

Been there

Answers:

How much bigger do you wanna get?
(My wife keeps telling me size doesnt matter.)

What the hell are you on?
(Mostly Blondes! Not my ass with the remote in my hand...)

The no neck look is in now

Theres the hulk! ( I wish his bank account was mine.)

Are you taking steroids!
(Always say NO!! Notice those who ask this dont even bother to know that you have spent years in the gym busting your ass. They think there is a magic pill that gives you your hard earned looks and strength.)

They can only assume unless you reveal...

 

[marbalizer99]

How old are you?

I say take these as complements. You want to be big right (you mentioned gaining more weight and losing more BF). These are just people telling you that what your doing is working. If you walked around and no one noticed you, wouldn't you wonder what was up?

 

[brickhouse]

lately I've been noticing family and friends looking at me a little different. i am only 6'1" 238 at 11%. not a huge BB'er by any means but in vastly better shape than your average human. they have begun to make me feel insecure because they are always making comments about my physique. like.....

geeze...how much bigger do you want to get!

what the hell are you "ON"?

pretty soon you'll have no neck!!

(I had a green T-shirt on) look its the incredible hulk...laughs.

are you taking steroids

(work) let Mr. muscles do it.

this shit pisses me off. i almost insecure to take my shirt off around them as well cause they just stare and point as if I'm some freak. its like they want me to feel ashamed of being in shape. like, look at the freak, he's in shape.

what can i do or say to counter these kind of comments? I am nowhere near being done with BBing so it is just going to get worse. what are they going to say when I'm 260 or 230 at 6%? is their going to be a intervention.

lol, I love it when people say shit like that to me, makes me feel great!
Taking what? steroids? that stuff will kill ya!

 

[joe914]

yea bro take it as complements ...i mean i ge the same shit you do ...an im no where near you size ...im only 210 with about 12% BF and friends and family as me that ...and its going to get worse once i get up to the 220,230,etc that im tring to get to while still keeping my BF low ...

 

[Golgo13]

Its just jealousy.

Its like hearing from women for years how they aren't attracted to muscular guys, but the real issue is, they ARE attracted, they are just worried that if they do get together with a guy that is really in shape, THEY are going to end up feeling out of shape.

 

[WR66215]

As many others have stated prior, the best thing to do is just shrug it off and indeed kill them with kindness. Be your own man and happy with who you are. People are naturally jealous so just understand that it's their insecurity and dont let it rub off on you.

 

[thebrick]

Just laugh it off. If I get comments, I'm flattered my hard work shows. Sometimes people are jealous, sometimes nosey, sometimes both. Be secure with who you are.

 

[joeoak]

brotha i'd get used to it, take it as a compliment, those are all things that i here on a daily basis and im sure lots of bros here do too

 

[donveto]

I get the same flack from my family.. I consider myself small ..Mostly because we look at these forums and pics and sites ALOT! The average juicer doesnt look like PHIL. SO even though Im 5'11 215lbs @ 12-13% bf, I consider myself small. ON the other hand people that dont go to the gym and never look at sites we do see us and are like HOLY SHIT!!

I get the same comments and questions.. ALL THE TIME!

even worse though Im sick now , so even though I dont admit jack- everyone has pulled me aside and said , "do you think what you take is screwing you up?"

I just say my doc knows what I take and has ruled it out.

I agree not to admit to cycling , not many understand..and Ive learned those that do understand and are "in the know" never ask you dumb ass questions.


If Im out for the night and some guy that I havent seen for a bit says yo dude I want to be huge like you(I know IM not big) what can you get me- I mean come on Ive been lifting for like 4 months and cant get big..\\
THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME...

I simoly say this, look man there is not magic pills out there I take.. Ill tell you what meet me at the gym monday morning and we will talk...Then I just bore them about my diet and how dedicated I am until they leave..AND THEY NEVER SHOW THEIR FACE ON MONDAY..

 

[cb11mass]

I wish I had this problem... If I were you it would be gassing my head up like crazy.

 

[abadseal]

I'd be lying if I said I didn't love the attention. The steroid questions get old very quickly however.

 

[debo22]

thanks bros for all the good advice i feel better now. i am 30 years old and it still bothers me when thoes close to me say these things. it dosen't go to my head at all because i don't view myself as "huge"and i'm definitely not an attention whore. believe me i'm not. alot of you bros on here are much bigger than me and i can only imagine the shit you get. the more i think about it, it probably is there own insecurities that breed these types of comments.

i mean god forbid if you make a comment to a fat ass like.."geeze, how much fatter you gonna get?". not socially acceptable at all. but the "lay off the jucie" comments are.

 

[oldfella]

thanks bros for all the good advice i feel better now. i am 30 years old and it still bothers me when thoes close to me say these things. it dosen't go to my head at all because i don't view myself as "huge"and i'm definitely not an attention whore. believe me i'm not. alot of you bros on here are much bigger than me and i can only imagine the shit you get. the more i think about it, it probably is there own insecurities that breed these types of comments.

i mean god forbid if you make a comment to a fat ass like.."geeze, how much fatter you gonna get?". not socially acceptable at all. but the "lay off the jucie" comments are.

Hey bro, funny but true story. I was getting ready for a show one year and about 5 weeks out. I was at work one day when some of the smart ass negative comments came my way. I laughed with them then at them. They always saw me eating really good clean food and tons of it. This day we were just finished lunch and a few more comments came my way and I simply said "OK put your money were your mouth is." I stood up from the table and in front of the lunch crowd in the office dropped mt trousers and hit some leg shots. I told them as i was posing legs that this was a culmination of years of training and nutrition. I then told them that I have been training longer than most of them have been alive. The tune then changed dramatically. They were full of compliments and praise and were nothing but supportive after that. Anothe roccasion I was in another town for a show and went clothes shopping. As nI was walking thru the mall a couple (man and woman) passed me, I heard the man say to his wife, He's all full of steriods and shit. I turned and called out to man and said, "That may or may not be true, but it wasn't you your mrs. was staring at" and turned and walked off. You do not need to let them get to you.

 

[Ashop]

lately I've been noticing family and friends looking at me a little different. i am only 6'1" 238 at 11%. not a huge BB'er by any means but in vastly better shape than your average human. they have begun to make me feel insecure because they are always making comments about my physique. like.....

geeze...how much bigger do you want to get!

what the hell are you "ON"?

pretty soon you'll have no neck!!

(I had a green T-shirt on) look its the incredible hulk...laughs.

are you taking steroids?

(work) let Mr. muscles do it.

this shit pisses me off. i almost insecure to take my shirt off around them as well cause they just stare and point as if I'm some freak. its like they want me to feel ashamed of being in shape. like, look at the freak, he's in shape.

what can i do or say to counter these kind of comments? I am nowhere near being done with BBing so it is just going to get worse. what are they going to say when I'm 260 or 230 at 6%? is their going to be a intervention.

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