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Wouldn't typically think of discussing relationships on a BBing forum but we've got some smart and experienced guys here, and this is an issue I think a lot of the "normal population" may just roll their eyes at.
Just wondering how many of you have felt completely happy giving up a life of hooking up for an exclusive relationship / marriage long term. I think a lot of us have obviously above average bodies and looks and on top of the hormones probably very high libidos.
Ironically, when I was in high school I said I just wanted a relationship. As I got better looking / more built and more successful in life that was easy and I just slept around a ton. Unfortunately, like any habit, that is hard to break. I'm now in a serious relationship but have still at times been shitty. Not to her directly, but just making myself seem more available than I really am. She considers me amazing and wants nothing more than to marry me and be the mother to my eventual kids. Best girl I've ever met out of hundreds. Great family, values, doctorate, etc.
Without dragging this out, basically there is the more logical side of me that tells me it probably makes more sense to settle down, form a family, get over my ego, etc.
The emotional and high libido side of me says that at 28 years old I could be sleeping with hot girls in their 20s for the next 10 years if I wanted to and then settle down. Which is factually true, but maybe silly. I'm sure I could justify either decision. Everyone says when you have "the one" (silly concept imo) it will be so easy but I don't believe that. I don't think after 10 years of sleeping around as much as you want it ever just becomes easy to drop that habit and I don't want to lose something great because I couldn't drop my ego and thought it was supposed to be "easy". But I also don't want to be questioning for the rest of my life / relationship what else is out there. It is a shame because, and I know everyone says this, but this girl is truly amazing and deserves the best. Super agreeable, super fit, intelligent, so caring, the only human I would die for. Sure I've been with physically hotter girls but that's a silly reason to pick a lifelong partner and she looks great.
If it's any factor, any time I masturbate my immediate feeling after is "stop being an idiot" but unfortunately that goes away pretty quickly.
Anyway, just wanted to hear the experience / thoughts of other men here who can probably relate and have gone through something similar. Again I know there's no definite right answer.
Just wondering how many of you have felt completely happy giving up a life of hooking up for an exclusive relationship / marriage long term. I think a lot of us have obviously above average bodies and looks and on top of the hormones probably very high libidos.
Ironically, when I was in high school I said I just wanted a relationship. As I got better looking / more built and more successful in life that was easy and I just slept around a ton. Unfortunately, like any habit, that is hard to break. I'm now in a serious relationship but have still at times been shitty. Not to her directly, but just making myself seem more available than I really am. She considers me amazing and wants nothing more than to marry me and be the mother to my eventual kids. Best girl I've ever met out of hundreds. Great family, values, doctorate, etc.
Without dragging this out, basically there is the more logical side of me that tells me it probably makes more sense to settle down, form a family, get over my ego, etc.
The emotional and high libido side of me says that at 28 years old I could be sleeping with hot girls in their 20s for the next 10 years if I wanted to and then settle down. Which is factually true, but maybe silly. I'm sure I could justify either decision. Everyone says when you have "the one" (silly concept imo) it will be so easy but I don't believe that. I don't think after 10 years of sleeping around as much as you want it ever just becomes easy to drop that habit and I don't want to lose something great because I couldn't drop my ego and thought it was supposed to be "easy". But I also don't want to be questioning for the rest of my life / relationship what else is out there. It is a shame because, and I know everyone says this, but this girl is truly amazing and deserves the best. Super agreeable, super fit, intelligent, so caring, the only human I would die for. Sure I've been with physically hotter girls but that's a silly reason to pick a lifelong partner and she looks great.
If it's any factor, any time I masturbate my immediate feeling after is "stop being an idiot" but unfortunately that goes away pretty quickly.
Anyway, just wanted to hear the experience / thoughts of other men here who can probably relate and have gone through something similar. Again I know there's no definite right answer.