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She should be working, and should have been all along. You're doing a disservice to your kids by not amassing as much wealth as possible, even if you makes you feel like a better man, like a provider, if she doesn't work. Have her work the weekends while you're home with the kids, or put them in daycare for a day or two a week while she works.I don't really know anyone on here but this part of the forum really entertains me (for lack of better words). I appreciate the pseudo support I read.
I'm bored with my job, but fear the excessive responsibility a new job would require of me. I've been here a while and it's comfortable.. Pay is whatever.. I'm a Unix admin by trade.
I love my wife, but I'm not in love. I can't be with her, can't be without her. We don't agree on anything other than we love our children (6 and 1.5). Different opinions on raising them, religion, politics, life, chores, everything.. We've agreed to disagree.. Two counselors said we should just go our separate ways. Till death do us part, man of word, word of honor. We married young at 18, had a baby, typical hardships associated with this type of life. I feel good about being here, I feel good that she hasn't had to work a day since we said "I do". I've done some things that I don't consider wrong, but she has a way of making me feel guilty about it. We split up for good..again..now we're back at it..again. I was mostly the issue until this last breakup, but since we've been back it seems she isn't all there. I'm not worried about another dude, I mean she is emotionally not there. But now I'm back and thinking WTF do I do now? I'm not really happy, but it's better than not being with my baby girls. I don't even know where to start to dissect the root cause of my problem.. But life didn't suck till 2nd-3rd year of marriage.
Money is becoming a problem. I'm not greedy but I feel I live VERY modest and yet don't have enough to do what I want. I can't save for my kids college, I can't go out to a nice dinner whenever I want. I can't even afford to overdraft. I was lucky to get into this line of work.. Every time I get an idea to make money it involves some sort of illegal activity, I usually follow through with the plan 75% of the time.
I smoke a pack of cigarettes a day, and I smoke about 3-5 grams of quality MJ a day. I hate it, it eats at me all day every day. I'm always worried about the consequences and the effects it has on me. Cigarettes make me hurt, physically. I quit for a few months and feel great and end up falling off and starting again, few months later im back to the aches. I think MJ has an affect on hormonal response, due to my previous heavy use all throughout my early teens til present my T is affected. I have a lot of symptoms for low T..
Sometimes I wish I could just reset my life and start over or at least to start back at 2000.
The same constant nag to quit, I have equal internal persistence for getting big. Like when I quit, I fall off. I start the gym, and end up having something force me to miss and then im out of my routine.. I still do a lot of learning but damned if I practice what I preach. Heh I even trained a friends fiance for her wedding and she would talk soo much shit how I would take cigarette breaks and only work out one of the days I would help her. Not that I look like I even know anything about training and nutrition. It wasn't that I didn't want to lift. I was there to help her and then I had to get back to my life.
I don't know if its depression, lack of commitment, starting life so early, lack of life experience...i'm 25 and burned out. I go with the motions so my kids needs are met, they are my rhyme and reason.
I have more to say but I guess I'm bored of beating myself up.
If you're smoking that many cigarettes and that much weed, you are NOT living modestly, and you CAN save money for your kids' college. Try to cut down to half a pack. Have her ration your cigarettes for you. And jesus man, cut your weed in half too--only a dub-sack a day. Don't go all out and try to completely quit at this point, you'll probably just fail. Shoot for a reduction.
I enjoyed reading your post though. Good luck with everyone.