what happens when you marry a girl when she's 125lbs, then blows up to 180?
do you think she "actually cares about you", or your wants/needs?
it's a two way street.
yeah, it's not just about looks... that's a very nice platitude.. but it comes to a point where people simply don't look human anymore
im not saying something absurd like women shouldn't age..
some guys have a heart? well of course.. but imagine working 40-60 hours a week to come home to your obese wife who, while you were at work, managed to move from one side of the couch to the other with her bags of chips and ranch dressing.
how would your heart feel then? resentful at all? no?
well, if not, then you're a far better man than I.
anyways, I don't want to be the super negative guy here... just wanted to point out that it's not always all candy and rainbows.