At the end of last year, I found myself in a situation similar to yours. I was convinced that I was following a proper diet by severely restricting my calorie intake to 1600 per day (mostly protein and very little carbs). I felt drained and miserable, I shriveled up and hated life. Note that I'm not even a big guy, I've only been working out for around a year started as obese.
By December 2024, I had reached a breaking point with my starvation diet and decided to return to a more balanced eating routine. This led to not only regaining the weight I had lost but also gaining additional fat. I ballooned +15kg in 30 days (all fat) and it wasn't pretty. All my hard work down the drain.
At the start of 2024, I made the decision to hire
@luki7788 as my coach. In just three months, I transformed – I was larger, yet significantly leaner than ever before. I've always been a fatty and never been lean <15%, but for the first time in my life I had veins in my lower abs.
What's truly ironic is that during my cutting phase,
@luki7788 had me on literally twice the amount of food compared to my initial attempt at dieting. I was convinced that I'll never be able to lose weight with the amount of food I was eating, but I trusted the process. Now, as we transition into a growth phase, I find myself consuming more calories than ever before and enjoying life.
Nowadays, I'm eating nearly 500g of carbs, which means my calorie intake from carbs alone is higher than it was during my diet
.
I recommend hiring a coach, have faith in the process. It's eye-opening to realize how much you (we generally) still have to learn.