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I just recently broke up with my gf of two years. Probably the most passionate relationship I've been in. She was very good to me in some ways (loyalty, cooked for me, amazing sex all the time) but very disrespectful in some ways (lack of empathy, coldness, not handling her liquor and even getting violent and saying hurtful things at times when she would drink) I should of had the balls to leave her a while ago fellas but I was too immature to do it at the time. Its hard to leave a drop dead gorgeous, talented, intelligent woman that is really into you.
I'm 24, she helped me out a lot with my career and gave me the balls to become an entrepreneur. For that I am forever thankful. We said our goodbyes today and she started crying and kissed me. Im having some serious issues right now with moving on even though I feel like I am the one who ended it.
1. I am feeling guilty for leading her on with kids marriage after I already had doubts about her several months into dating. The red flags were there, my spicy senses started tingling, my friends and family saw it...I should of aborted mission...but I didn't. And I feel like while part of me did want those things from her, I never felt 100% confident in doing it with her and that I may of led her on.
2. I had big plans...wanted to buy a house for her, and now my whole life feels upside down. The area we were living in was great for raising a family....now that Im single Im thinking about moving to a new state possibly just to start a new life so I can grow as a person. What do you guys think of this?
3. I don't like the thought of her being with someone else, even though I feel sorry for the guy that ends up with her I do love her and like most of you brothers with your chick was always very protective of her.
Now so you guys can get a little more insight, she has SERIOUS childhood trauma/daddy issues and comes from a family with a lot of mental issues... so I feel like genetics and how she grew up may be a factor here. (the suicide attempts, the disturbing thoughts, lack of empathy, etc)
I truly believe she suffers from narcissist personality disorder and some possible borderline personality disorder....and lacks the ability to feel for other peoples feelings, and I know there is no changing a narcissist. When I told her the reasons why I left her, she just took it as me attacking her and not being "strong enough mentally" to handle her.
For example, when I would get mad at her for doing things like posting provocative things and showing off her ass on snapchat, she would say " Your immature and can't handle dating a hot chick".
One time she was coming back from a bar I walked in unexpectedly and she had a guy on the couch! She wasn't doing anything with the guy or even in the same room as him when I walked in, but I flipped out and the guy got scared as hell. While it wasn't just the both of them alone there were 5 of her friends there with her ( I just happened to walk in when her other friends left and I confirmed this with her friends) I can't be with a girl stupid enough to have a guy over on a fucking couch! I don't care if your not cheating on me, its what it looks like. If a girl leaves me one on one in her fucking house, I assume she wants to fuck and I am fucking her plan and simple.
You fellas following my frustration here?
She will never change. She hates authority. And Im not some passive pussy thats gonna let a girl run a relationship and walk all over me. When I tried to put this chick in check, she would get confrontational and talk down to me. My only option was to shut up and take it, or leave the girl so I did. I should be happy this is over and that Im a free man honestly....but I'm not and I don't get it.
I'm 24, she helped me out a lot with my career and gave me the balls to become an entrepreneur. For that I am forever thankful. We said our goodbyes today and she started crying and kissed me. Im having some serious issues right now with moving on even though I feel like I am the one who ended it.
1. I am feeling guilty for leading her on with kids marriage after I already had doubts about her several months into dating. The red flags were there, my spicy senses started tingling, my friends and family saw it...I should of aborted mission...but I didn't. And I feel like while part of me did want those things from her, I never felt 100% confident in doing it with her and that I may of led her on.
2. I had big plans...wanted to buy a house for her, and now my whole life feels upside down. The area we were living in was great for raising a family....now that Im single Im thinking about moving to a new state possibly just to start a new life so I can grow as a person. What do you guys think of this?
3. I don't like the thought of her being with someone else, even though I feel sorry for the guy that ends up with her I do love her and like most of you brothers with your chick was always very protective of her.
Now so you guys can get a little more insight, she has SERIOUS childhood trauma/daddy issues and comes from a family with a lot of mental issues... so I feel like genetics and how she grew up may be a factor here. (the suicide attempts, the disturbing thoughts, lack of empathy, etc)
I truly believe she suffers from narcissist personality disorder and some possible borderline personality disorder....and lacks the ability to feel for other peoples feelings, and I know there is no changing a narcissist. When I told her the reasons why I left her, she just took it as me attacking her and not being "strong enough mentally" to handle her.
For example, when I would get mad at her for doing things like posting provocative things and showing off her ass on snapchat, she would say " Your immature and can't handle dating a hot chick".
One time she was coming back from a bar I walked in unexpectedly and she had a guy on the couch! She wasn't doing anything with the guy or even in the same room as him when I walked in, but I flipped out and the guy got scared as hell. While it wasn't just the both of them alone there were 5 of her friends there with her ( I just happened to walk in when her other friends left and I confirmed this with her friends) I can't be with a girl stupid enough to have a guy over on a fucking couch! I don't care if your not cheating on me, its what it looks like. If a girl leaves me one on one in her fucking house, I assume she wants to fuck and I am fucking her plan and simple.
You fellas following my frustration here?
She will never change. She hates authority. And Im not some passive pussy thats gonna let a girl run a relationship and walk all over me. When I tried to put this chick in check, she would get confrontational and talk down to me. My only option was to shut up and take it, or leave the girl so I did. I should be happy this is over and that Im a free man honestly....but I'm not and I don't get it.
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