Entitled young men that want everything handed to them. Medical doc asking me for $ n gifts

[powerlifter1983]

I work part time for a major tech company for the benefits. One of my 23 yr old fellow part time employees became a bit of a friend and he is also about to graduate med school.

He is so intelligent and smart for a 23 year old but I can’t stand how entitled he is mainly because of how his parents got him a new Benz at 16 and he has literally told me he wants to make sure his parents give him everything after they die because his sister is married to a well off dude.

He recently got married and didn’t even invite me to the wedding but had the audacity to jokingly ask me for his “wedding gift”. I respectfully told him I need him to be a hard working man and I know he likes watches so I told him if he wants to spend $4k on the omega watch he really likes then I’ll chip in $1k+ since the watch is around $5200 plus tax.

Instead of appreciating my offer he is going behind my back talking shit about how I have money and I don’t want to be a good friend. I haven’t said it yet because I want to keep my job but I think he should message puff daddy and ask him to take him Shopping. Should I even talk to this person in the future? I can’t be told to a colleague.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

To hell with him.

 

[bigpapa]

this for real? tell this dude to fuck off

 

[UnholyAlliance]

Fuck these self entitled jerks.

 

[Fa Seeshus]

He is suffering from Main Character Syndrome. We have a bunch of people in my company who are that same age and have it. Don't ask me where this shit is coming from. No matter what you do, you will be painted as a jealous entitled Fudd-'so don't even get in the cycle of playing their game.

 

[01dragonslayer]

He's probably never paid for anything in his entire life.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

I brought my son home a $4k Omega from a duty-free shop ($6,500 here in the states) in the Caribbean and saw it on his kitchen counter in a puddle from a spilled beer bottle. Needed a new band and polish at $1,000 cost. I paid it but I kept it. It's mine now. He was a spoiled brat as well until I stopped bailing him out. And he makes really good bank, too. Now he just thinks I'm a dickhead.

 

[EnhancedFatGrappler]

If he really is someone that you consider worth having as a friend, invite him over for a cold beer, and have some real man-talk. The kid needs it, and apparently he never got it, neither from his parents, nor from his school/college days.

 

[Isovet]

so he doesnt invite you to his wedding but expects a wedding gift? Am I understanding this correctly? if so my gift would be " good luck and congratulations."

 

[Isovet]

I brought my son home a $4k Omega from a duty-free shop ($6,500 here in the states) in the Caribbean and saw it on his kitchen counter in a puddle from a spilled beer bottle. Needed a new band and polish at $1,000 cost. I paid it but I kept it. It's mine now. He was a spoiled brat as well until I stopped bailing him out. And he makes really good bank, too. Now he just thinks I'm a dickhead.

many times and i include myself in this... we spoil our childeren becuase we love them and want them to have more than we did but in reality we end up doing them a disservice and create spoiled brats... those of us that grew up poor and had to work for everything we have... nothing handed to us .. are better off because we grew up hard.... i now intentionally make my kids life harder for them than it has to be..because i want them to grow up with the mindset i have.

spoiled women are a pain but i simply cannot deal with spoiled entitled men... in my mind i associate entitled men to women without tits.....

 

[MachuFuku]

I brought my son home a $4k Omega from a duty-free shop ($6,500 here in the states) in the Caribbean and saw it on his kitchen counter in a puddle from a spilled beer bottle. Needed a new band and polish at $1,000 cost. I paid it but I kept it. It's mine now. He was a spoiled brat as well until I stopped bailing him out. And he makes really good bank, too. Now he just thinks I'm a dickhead.

God damn....some people's kids.. But seriously, my friends got European vacations for high school graduation. I got a $99 disc man....and was STOKED. My family wasn't poor, but my folks expected us to work for everything . Not a bad way to be raised. I hope your son can someday look back and understand how generous that was.

 

[bananas007]

I work part time for a major tech company for the benefits. One of my 23 yr old fellow part time employees became a bit of a friend and he is also about to graduate med school.

He is so intelligent and smart for a 23 year old but I can’t stand how entitled he is mainly because of how his parents got him a new Benz at 16 and he has literally told me he wants to make sure his parents give him everything after they die because his sister is married to a well off dude.

He recently got married and didn’t even invite me to the wedding but had the audacity to jokingly ask me for his “wedding gift”. I respectfully told him I need him to be a hard working man and I know he likes watches so I told him if he wants to spend $4k on the omega watch he really likes then I’ll chip in $1k+ since the watch is around $5200 plus tax.

Instead of appreciating my offer he is going behind my back talking shit about how I have money and I don’t want to be a good friend. I haven’t said it yet because I want to keep my job but I think he should message puff daddy and ask him to take him Shopping. Should I even talk to this person in the future? I can’t be told to a colleague.

This post is as much as a reflecion of your shot comings as it is of his.

This is an employee that works for you? or with you?

Yes sure he is wrong. but you are wrong also. You are trying to please everyone to make them like you. You should grow the balls to say, I am sorry , did i miss invitation to the wedding? I do not buy gifts for people that I am not invited to the wedding for cause it automatically implies I am not a close friend. Need to learn how to set boundaries. If they dont want to be a friend after that, then they were never really a true friend anyways and just friends you for convenience.

 

[bananas007]

Short**

 

[Grundle_Goblin]

I work part time for a major tech company for the benefits. One of my 23 yr old fellow part time employees became a bit of a friend and he is also about to graduate med school.

He is so intelligent and smart for a 23 year old but I can’t stand how entitled he is mainly because of how his parents got him a new Benz at 16 and he has literally told me he wants to make sure his parents give him everything after they die because his sister is married to a well off dude.

He recently got married and didn’t even invite me to the wedding but had the audacity to jokingly ask me for his “wedding gift”. I respectfully told him I need him to be a hard working man and I know he likes watches so I told him if he wants to spend $4k on the omega watch he really likes then I’ll chip in $1k+ since the watch is around $5200 plus tax.

Instead of appreciating my offer he is going behind my back talking shit about how I have money and I don’t want to be a good friend. I haven’t said it yet because I want to keep my job but I think he should message puff daddy and ask him to take him Shopping. Should I even talk to this person in the future? I can’t be told to a colleague.

Interesting post so I’chime in. My parents worth 10-20M dad is a senior executive at a global company and mom is a specialized doctor. Growing up, my parents always emphasized the value of what hard work can bring Ironically I was spoiled as a kid and took a long time to ‘ground myself’ in reality. Struggled a lot in HS and college with feeling like I was always on my own as both my parents were very dedicated to their careers (common occurrence in the area I lived). Financially, I never worried about a thing but emotionally I still struggle to this day. Furthermore, I continue to struggle with chasing a career that provides a better financial outlook than the one my parents gave me as I get often bored and don’t really have to worry about performance as much as some other peol in my career. Constantly, I’m battling with career ambitions and the (step)father I want to become and almost always there is some conflict. Will be interesting to see how things turn out.

Another thing I’ve noticed, especially in college, is that people tend to downplay the feelings of people that come from more fortune backgrounds. Countless times I can recall having an emotional problem or some social issue be pushed off/completely ignored by my friends because my parents where wealthy. Things like “Hey, at least your parents are rich” or “who cares, you’re rich”. After a while this got extremely annoying and caused a lot of tension in my friend groups and really just further caused me to repress some of my emotions. Wow - sorry for the rant - tough week and needed to blow off some steam

 

[BigBaldBeardGuy]

Interesting post so I’chime in. My parents worth 10-20M dad is a senior executive at a global company and mom is a specialized doctor. Growing up, my parents always emphasized the value of what hard work can bring Ironically I was spoiled as a kid and took a long time to ‘ground myself’ in reality. Struggled a lot in HS and college with feeling like I was always on my own as both my parents were very dedicated to their careers (common occurrence in the area I lived). Financially, I never worried about a thing but emotionally I still struggle to this day. Furthermore, I continue to struggle with chasing a career that provides a better financial outlook than the one my parents gave me as I get often bored and don’t really have to worry about performance as much as some other peol in my career. Constantly, I’m battling with career ambitions and the (step)father I want to become and almost always there is some conflict. Will be interesting to see how things turn out.

Another thing I’ve noticed, especially in college, is that people tend to downplay the feelings of people that come from more fortune backgrounds. Countless times I can recall having an emotional problem or some social issue be pushed off/completely ignored by my friends because my parents where wealthy. Things like “Hey, at least your parents are rich” or “who cares, you’re rich”. After a while this got extremely annoying and caused a lot of tension in my friend groups and really just further caused me to repress some of my emotions. Wow - sorry for the rant - tough week and needed to blow off some steam

I feel bad for you man.

 

[Grundle_Goblin]

I feel bad for you man.

Thank you it’s been such a huge struggle and everyday is a battle I have to fight and rise above - it’s really all perspective . I am blessed to have the backing of wealthy parents who send me good amount money pay for housing and vacations and I know a lot of people would trade their childhood for the one I had 10 times out of 10. But for me, the lack of attention from parents (raised primarily through nannies till HS) really took a toll on me. I can count on one hand the amount of birthdays my dad actually made growing up and even he even missed my birth while he was working. Because of this, I never felt like I had a family and the authenticity of it just isn’t there.

 

[Boris Yakenov]

Let’s get this thread fired back up

 

[bigbumpkin2003]

Hmmm odd why all the bumbs