Very Bad Situation

[jay_dub]

Lets start out with the details.

Me and my buddy have been lifting partners for a very long time and we have ran a couple cycles together over the past 1.5 years. We're young (21 years old) and still live in our hometown where we grew up (I live 40 minutes away). Anyway, our town is small enough, 30,000 people, that word travels very fast and to many people we know around us. There is this other guy we grew up with in high school that we talked to about cycles and what not as he plays football and was recently accepted into an arena football team about an hour away from us. Hes a real big guy, around 300 lbs, but pretty fat. Anyway, he decided to tell one of his friends about my lifting partner using, which led to his friend telling my girlfriends brother, which led to telling my g/f's dad. Now her dad seems to enjoy getting into other people's business when it is none of his concern. He told my g/f today that he believes I use because my best friend does and I have put on a lot of size lately. Then he goes on to say the typical ignorant bullshit about how steroid users end up as abusive people later in life and even went as far as saying they're murderers. He ended it with "I'm going to get to the bottom of this."

So obviously hes going to ask me about it, and obviously I'm going to deny deny deny.

Other than not admitting to it, what would you guys say/do? I mean he KNOWS my best friend uses, its not based off of assumption. This is a pretty shitty situation. Oh and my g/f knows about me using so thats not an issue, and she is educated enough and understand how it really is. She is NOT a good liar though, and if he asks her she wont be very believable.

 

[oldfella]

In one breath I would say, That's none of your business! And ask why he is asking? Once he spills his beans about how or why he is asking you can then say something like, hey you heard some bullshit from joe smith and you choose to believe this? Even if i was why would i tell you? And let's just say I am, what then? Does this change your opinion of me? are you going to treat me differently? Ask him how much money he has in the bank? How much all of his assetts are worth, how many times a week he balls his wife? See where this leads? He wants to ask you some very personal questions then it's only fair to ask him some!

I recently had some rumors going around town about me and selling gear, which are totally false. I found the source and went straight at him! I asked why he would say such things, his answer was based on assumption. Because I am the size i am i must be using. I told him how pissed off I was and that just because I am big does not mean I am on, let alone selling shit. I impressed upon him how bad this situation was as it was not only slandering my character, but putting my business in jeopardy. I explained to him I would happily go to jail to defend both......he got the messege!

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

Tell your girlfriends father, "your daughter loves me, believes in me and trusts me, and that's good enough for me. Now do you want to go tell your grown daughter your snooping behind her back or should I "??????! And just walk away and say no more.....

 

[PHIL HERNON]

Well

Ask him if he masturbates still.

 

[gungalunga]

Ask him if he masturbates still.

LMAO! I just spit coffee on my computer I was laughing so much.

 

[buffbabeca]

I WOULD SIMPLY SAY THAT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS...

I HAVE DATED BODYBUILDERS BEFORE AND MY DAD DOESNT EVER ASK IF THEY USE.. HE KNOWS ITS NOT HIS BIZ

 

[OuchThatHurts]

It's obvious this guy has enjoyed being "the family cop" for a long time (you always have at least one). The family policeman can be a woman (matriarch) or a man (patriarch) and any family can have several of each. Sometimes it's funny to watch two of them disagree and make a public spectacle of themselves. Whoops... I'm digressing.

I think there is a huge problem (always has been) with people, especially adults, who are so influenced too heavily by their family. Family is great and blood may be thicker than water but you have to live your own life your own way. Plain and simple. You may fall out of favor or whatever but you still need to stand your ground and be an adult. I see way too many 30 year old juveniles today.

The key to THIS particular situation is, to be blunt, how far up her dad's ass your girl pal is. Does his views affect hers? Will she care if he thinks you're a bloodthirsty, raging maniac on steroids? If she's mature and confident she'll know exactly how to 'handle' her father and just dismiss his antics. If she has spent her life hiding in big daddy's pocket, then you could be in for some headaches.

He already has gotten to the bottom of it (the suspicion is there so you're already guilty). The question is how do you handle it from here? Best advice I can give you is this:

It's not a lie to keep the truth to yourself.

Good luck brother. Just remember, if a family feud or scandal is inevitable, sit back and enjoy it!

 

[Lumen]

Ran in to the same thing about 5 years ago with my exwife's , wife at the time mother was 26. She ask me with no warning and I said does it matter,and if it does why, that was that no more talk.. GOOD LUCK

 

[kjreid]

I would probably handle it straight on. Tell the man that yeah I took steroids and I was the same person then as I am now. I would probably talk to him about what I took.

I would keep everything in the past tense. Since you are 21 you should be able to get by with the ol' I was curious so I tried it mentalilty.

It is a hard issue, I was straight up with my father in law but it was 20 years ago and he was a pretty easy going laid back guy.

 

[thebrick]

I would not admit to anything past or present. If you do, a man like that will think its his duty to "save" you. Translation, fuck you over. Its none of his business. Period. Do not give him the fuel for his little crusade.

 

[inky-e]

I think if he confronts you,you may want to in a calm and assertive way,tell him what you may or may not have done in the past has no bearing on who you are today,if he insists on getting an answer from you it probably means he has already come to a conclusion and wants you to validate it.In that case just walk away and don't ever engage him in that subject again,if he has any self respect he'll let it go.

 

[michelin]

Then he goes on to say the typical ignorant bullshit about how steroid users end up as abusive people later in life and even went as far as saying they're murderers.

Deny everything, don't bother trying to educate him cos his mind is made up.

Bro you're going out with his daughter, not him, so you don't have to explain anything to him. If he was open minded then you might try but you make him sound like right nosey fucker to be honest.

or better still, dig around, get some dirt on him (any type of dirt will do - everyone has some dirt that they want to keep as history) and just drop it in to the 'conversation' and watch him squirm.

Do not admit to using no matter what he says.

Good luck

 

[jay_dub]

It's obvious this guy has enjoyed being "the family cop" for a long time (you always have at least one). The family policeman can be a woman (matriarch) or a man (patriarch) and any family can have several of each. Sometimes it's funny to watch two of them disagree and make a public spectacle of themselves. Whoops... I'm digressing.

I think there is a huge problem (always has been) with people, especially adults, who are so influenced too heavily by their family. Family is great and blood may be thicker than water but you have to live your own life your own way. Plain and simple. You may fall out of favor or whatever but you still need to stand your ground and be an adult. I see way too many 30 year old juveniles today.

The key to THIS particular situation is, to be blunt, how far up her dad's ass your girl pal is. Does his views affect hers? Will she care if he thinks you're a bloodthirsty, raging maniac on steroids? If she's mature and confident she'll know exactly how to 'handle' her father and just dismiss his antics. If she has spent her life hiding in big daddy's pocket, then you could be in for some headaches.

He already has gotten to the bottom of it (the suspicion is there so you're already guilty). The question is how do you handle it from here? Best advice I can give you is this:

It's not a lie to keep the truth to yourself.

Good luck brother. Just remember, if a family feud or scandal is inevitable, sit back and enjoy it!

Lol I'll definitely try and "enjoy it".

Thanks for all the responses. So far he hasn't asked me about it, but I'm sure he will soon.

 

[pesty4077]

Lets start out with the details.

Me and my buddy have been lifting partners for a very long time and we have ran a couple cycles together over the past 1.5 years. We're young (21 years old) and still live in our hometown where we grew up (I live 40 minutes away). Anyway, our town is small enough, 30,000 people, that word travels very fast and to many people we know around us. There is this other guy we grew up with in high school that we talked to about cycles and what not as he plays football and was recently accepted into an arena football team about an hour away from us. Hes a real big guy, around 300 lbs, but pretty fat. Anyway, he decided to tell one of his friends about my lifting partner using, which led to his friend telling my girlfriends brother, which led to telling my g/f's dad. Now her dad seems to enjoy getting into other people's business when it is none of his concern. He told my g/f today that he believes I use because my best friend does and I have put on a lot of size lately. Then he goes on to say the typical ignorant bullshit about how steroid users end up as abusive people later in life and even went as far as saying they're murderers. He ended it with "I'm going to get to the bottom of this."

So obviously hes going to ask me about it, and obviously I'm going to deny deny deny.

Other than not admitting to it, what would you guys say/do? I mean he KNOWS my best friend uses, its not based off of assumption. This is a pretty shitty situation. Oh and my g/f knows about me using so thats not an issue, and she is educated enough and understand how it really is. She is NOT a good liar though, and if he asks her she wont be very believable.

I remember going into doctor's office in my competing days and he told me steriods are unhealthy for you, at the same time he is smoking a cigerette and his fat belly is hanging out. It is your business, not his. I would recomend every 6 months to get a physical and bloodwork.

 

[njpooldude]

was in the same boat!

i told them i take creatine, and a NATURAL test booster... hehe...

they dont know man... show them a pic of a pro.. and be like.. sir if i was using steroids i think id look a little more like this guy... besides, your daugher would kill me if i ever did that stuff...

DONT say its none of your business ( its not) BUT.. it is your girls father... regardless... thats his little girl... forever! soooo u still gotta be respectful and all that. i really dont like my girls parents.. they love me.. but just the way they brought up and treat there kids is so wrong..anyway im off topic now.. just deny.. go buy some gay natural test booster.. throw out half of it..and show him the bottle...

 

[wostok]

i told them i take creatine, and a NATURAL test booster... hehe...

they dont know man... show them a pic of a pro.. and be like.. sir if i was using steroids i think id look a little more like this guy... besides, your daugher would kill me if i ever did that stuff...

DONT say its none of your business ( its not) BUT.. it is your girls father... regardless... thats his little girl... forever! soooo u still gotta be respectful and all that. i really dont like my girls parents.. they love me.. but just the way they brought up and treat there kids is so wrong..anyway im off topic now.. just deny.. go buy some gay natural test booster.. throw out half of it..and show him the bottle...

you are one smooth operator!!! lol
yeah do like this guy said and it will work just fine!

 

[pesty4077]

Ask him if he masturbates still.

The best response of the day!

 

[Massive G]

I would tell him no, and that you only use the good stuff heroine and meth.

 

[locutus61]

I dont put up with any inlaw types or even my family puting their noses in my affairs. I will break my foot off in one of their asses real quick. Had to tell my Mother-in-law to politely "kiss my ass" before. No problems since. You just have to establish who the boss is and life will be soooo much easier.