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So all of 2017 I had probably my most amazing relationship, I was still pretty immature though and she had a child and I just wasn't living up to being a good male role model so she left. It was all on good terms, we've never once argued or anything, but it was also just kind of left there..... she refused to see me or say goodbye because she said you never know what the future holds. So she texted me on and off, she would just send me songs etc. She got a boyfriend around 6 months in and a few months later got pregnant, she still messages me on and off for pretty random reasons at times but understandably she can't be texting me as much when she's living with her partner and has a family.
My issue is. After a breakup, my first month usually sucks, I just want to be alone, second month I usually start meeting people and by the third month i'm usually back to myself and dating, this has been with women that I was VERY into.
This one is going on two years soon and I literally feel the same void I felt the day of the breakup. It really messed with my sex drive. Like even with a PDE5 inhibitor it's pretty hit or miss if I'll even be able to perform or not. With her, we literally did it almost every night for at least an hour.
I guess I just don't understand why I can't get over this. As much as I still care about her, I'd rather just be over it. I've dated women that were at least equally, if not more, attractive, smart, funny etc. than her, and yet it doesn't do it for me. I don't know if anyone's been in this kind of situation, counseling feels like a waste but maybe I should? Two years is insane.
My issue is. After a breakup, my first month usually sucks, I just want to be alone, second month I usually start meeting people and by the third month i'm usually back to myself and dating, this has been with women that I was VERY into.
This one is going on two years soon and I literally feel the same void I felt the day of the breakup. It really messed with my sex drive. Like even with a PDE5 inhibitor it's pretty hit or miss if I'll even be able to perform or not. With her, we literally did it almost every night for at least an hour.
I guess I just don't understand why I can't get over this. As much as I still care about her, I'd rather just be over it. I've dated women that were at least equally, if not more, attractive, smart, funny etc. than her, and yet it doesn't do it for me. I don't know if anyone's been in this kind of situation, counseling feels like a waste but maybe I should? Two years is insane.