Please read everything guys I know there’s similar threads like this in recent days and a bunch of replies but didn’t want my situation to get lost in that thread so made my own, any help is appreciated;
So pretty much as the title says; for whatever reason I’m having issues with getting/maintaining a hard erection with this girl I’m dating despite me being very attracted to her and the moments before (kissing, touching etc) all being amazing and the mood being right etc..
I’m 31 years old on 200mg prescribed Test and never needed an AI at this dose so don’t think it’s hormonal, besides, when I’m by myself I can get and maintain and rock hard erection and get it on command, whether with my imagination or with porn...
But I started dating this girl a couple weeks ago, super cool personality, love being around her, find her super attractive and fun etc, it’s all there.. I thought the issue stemmed from some joking around we did days prior to first having sex, she joked about me getting nervous and not being able to perform..
So the first time comes and I start thinking about it, I LOVE pleasing a woman and it’s actually what turns me on the most (for the other person to get off) so I do the whole kissing and foreplay, go down on her etc, first time she has an orgasm from a guy going down on her, I’m feeling great, we get to it and in the middle of it I start losing my erection, I’m still kinda in my head about the jokes and also she was very vocal/borderline trying to have a conversation during sex.. I stop, we kinda talked about the awkwardness and after a little while we get back to it and I’m able to get off...
2nd time comes around and similar situation, I’m in my head about the awkwardness of the first time and can barely get hard, I manage to do so and again things get kinda awkward, she wants me to be more vocal, but it’s just not my thing to be talking dirty the entire time, I’m more of a go with the passion/intensity/ecstasy of the moment with a sprinkle of talk here and there, so we had stopped because I full blown couldn’t keep my erection and explained that to her (she felt insecure because I wasn’t vocal and she thought that I wasn’t enjoying myself/her sex) after reassuring her we got back to it and it was successful for both of us..
3rd time comes around, now I’m really nervous and in my head about even making a move, the first 2 times were awkward and I felt bad about losing my erections in the middle of sex.. I go to the bathroom and I take 1/2 of a 5mg Cialis (2.5mg) which I know isn’t a lot but it’s helped me in the past (I feel too much cialis makes erections too hard for too long and makes it almost IMPOSSIBLE to cum lol)... Anyway, it did NOTHING.. We started kissing etc and my dick didn’t even move, I started going down on her and when she orgasmed I was able to get hard, I start having sex and about 2 minutes in I start losing my erection again, I just couldn’t... She felt so bad, thought it was her and started crying (tearing up is more like it, she wasn’t sobbing) and I just reassured her and told her it was me that I was nervous and intimidated etc... After a while, we got into it again and I was able to hold the erection with minor bouts of it going slightly weaker and then I’d somehow get it to get harder again and was able to finish..
So now, I’m super paranoid, we like each other a lot and I am attracted to her but I don’t know what’s going on or how to fix this..
I don’t want to make a habit about using Cialis because the moment I don’t have any I feel like it won’t be the same...
Does anyone have any experience with this and what I can do??
I always make sure to eat and be hydrated too, so I know it wasn’t those things... Any help is appreciated... She’s coming over tonight!!! Lol
So pretty much as the title says; for whatever reason I’m having issues with getting/maintaining a hard erection with this girl I’m dating despite me being very attracted to her and the moments before (kissing, touching etc) all being amazing and the mood being right etc..
I’m 31 years old on 200mg prescribed Test and never needed an AI at this dose so don’t think it’s hormonal, besides, when I’m by myself I can get and maintain and rock hard erection and get it on command, whether with my imagination or with porn...
But I started dating this girl a couple weeks ago, super cool personality, love being around her, find her super attractive and fun etc, it’s all there.. I thought the issue stemmed from some joking around we did days prior to first having sex, she joked about me getting nervous and not being able to perform..
So the first time comes and I start thinking about it, I LOVE pleasing a woman and it’s actually what turns me on the most (for the other person to get off) so I do the whole kissing and foreplay, go down on her etc, first time she has an orgasm from a guy going down on her, I’m feeling great, we get to it and in the middle of it I start losing my erection, I’m still kinda in my head about the jokes and also she was very vocal/borderline trying to have a conversation during sex.. I stop, we kinda talked about the awkwardness and after a little while we get back to it and I’m able to get off...
2nd time comes around and similar situation, I’m in my head about the awkwardness of the first time and can barely get hard, I manage to do so and again things get kinda awkward, she wants me to be more vocal, but it’s just not my thing to be talking dirty the entire time, I’m more of a go with the passion/intensity/ecstasy of the moment with a sprinkle of talk here and there, so we had stopped because I full blown couldn’t keep my erection and explained that to her (she felt insecure because I wasn’t vocal and she thought that I wasn’t enjoying myself/her sex) after reassuring her we got back to it and it was successful for both of us..
3rd time comes around, now I’m really nervous and in my head about even making a move, the first 2 times were awkward and I felt bad about losing my erections in the middle of sex.. I go to the bathroom and I take 1/2 of a 5mg Cialis (2.5mg) which I know isn’t a lot but it’s helped me in the past (I feel too much cialis makes erections too hard for too long and makes it almost IMPOSSIBLE to cum lol)... Anyway, it did NOTHING.. We started kissing etc and my dick didn’t even move, I started going down on her and when she orgasmed I was able to get hard, I start having sex and about 2 minutes in I start losing my erection again, I just couldn’t... She felt so bad, thought it was her and started crying (tearing up is more like it, she wasn’t sobbing) and I just reassured her and told her it was me that I was nervous and intimidated etc... After a while, we got into it again and I was able to hold the erection with minor bouts of it going slightly weaker and then I’d somehow get it to get harder again and was able to finish..
So now, I’m super paranoid, we like each other a lot and I am attracted to her but I don’t know what’s going on or how to fix this..
I don’t want to make a habit about using Cialis because the moment I don’t have any I feel like it won’t be the same...
Does anyone have any experience with this and what I can do??
I always make sure to eat and be hydrated too, so I know it wasn’t those things... Any help is appreciated... She’s coming over tonight!!! Lol