gcherry87
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You are getting a lot of solid advice. Listen to it. When I went through mine, a bunch of my friends said, "just wait, things will get better over time." It didn't seem possible then, but now 8 years later, things are great. IT WILL GET BETTER. You are far from the first. You will come out of this stronger, a better Dad, and a better husband for the next one -- if you listen to the guys here telling you the way it is.
Do not do anything that looks petty, and do not waste your money on your lawyer arguing over who gets the material stuff. You will pay your attorney way more than any furniture.
Also remember that just because the Court issues an order does not mean that she will live up to it. But if you go back to Court every time she doesn't comply, guess who gets made out to be the dickhead?
You must accept reality, do not think in terms of ought. There is no justice in the justice system, especially when it comes to this.
All the judge wants to do is get the case over and done with so that he can meet both your lawyer and your wife's lawyer for dinner and drinks at the country club. There is no one in this process other than you and we hope your parents who gives a shit about you. You will have to stop thinking about your brother in terms of additional hurt. Just think of him as an anonymous asshole she met at a bar. That is because you cannot get distracted. Put him on the list for later.
Your goal is to get in and out Court with a reasonable agreement. Even if it is shared custody the little whore sounds like she will giving them to you a lot so she can go do her thing. You will not win the war in Court, you will win it afterwards by being a the best Dad you can be.
Stay calm, stay clear. My heart is with you. I ended up with three of four of my sons -- over time. You are 1 year older than my oldest. I know I don't really know you, or you me, but I am telling you that I am with you. And obviously a lot of other bros here, too. You will be ok.
Thanks bro. i am going to do just that! one thing i am worried about is the house. its all in my name though. if she tried to get it do you think she would be able to? Yeah and her loss im a good guy great provider and i think a great dad. eventually like you said i know i will come out on top.