How do I get my wife to support my bodybuilding hobby?

[seven7seven]

but seriously.. I bolded the part of your OP that I found to be the most telling.


funny how that works huh?

swapped the rings now time to pull the ripcord and inflate into a life raft.




she is shit-testing you, and by reducing the amount of time you're spending in the gym, you're failing. you should not have to ask your woman for her permission for anything, much less for her approval for something that makes you better as a person.

id go back to lifting 4 days a week. you're allowed to have 4 hours a week to do what you want.

women try to change their men, and once they've bended and molded them completely to their will, they leave (with 80% of his paycheck and sometimes lifetime alimony), saying "you're not the man I fell in love with".

well no shit, you were making the changes she said she wanted you to make.

women will want you to compromise, but will make absolutely no compromises themselves.


don't take the bait.

I hear you. Someone telling me how I should spend my own personal time really rubs me the wrong way. It's a precious resource.

 

[NEMSZ]

but seriously.. I bolded the part of your OP that I found to be the most telling.


funny how that works huh?

swapped the rings now time to pull the ripcord and inflate into a life raft.




she is shit-testing you, and by reducing the amount of time you're spending in the gym, you're failing. you should not have to ask your woman for her permission for anything, much less for her approval for something that makes you better as a person.

id go back to lifting 4 days a week. you're allowed to have 4 hours a week to do what you want.

women try to change their men, and once they've bended and molded them completely to their will, they leave (with 80% of his paycheck and sometimes lifetime alimony), saying "you're not the man I fell in love with".

well no shit, you were making the changes she said she wanted you to make.

women will want you to compromise, but will make absolutely no compromises themselves.


don't take the bait.

Are you and I related? Lol seriously couldn't have said it better...

 

[johnjuanb1]

but seriously.. I bolded the part of your OP that I found to be the most telling.


funny how that works huh?

swapped the rings now time to pull the ripcord and inflate into a life raft.




she is shit-testing you, and by reducing the amount of time you're spending in the gym, you're failing. you should not have to ask your woman for her permission for anything, much less for her approval for something that makes you better as a person.

id go back to lifting 4 days a week. you're allowed to have 4 hours a week to do what you want.

women try to change their men, and once they've bended and molded them completely to their will, they leave (with 80% of his paycheck and sometimes lifetime alimony), saying "you're not the man I fell in love with".

well no shit, you were making the changes she said she wanted you to make.

women will want you to compromise, but will make absolutely no compromises themselves.


don't take the bait.

Words of wisdom here. This is the truth. Never become her bitch!

 

[69cyclerider]

1.- they lose all interest in going to the gym/fitness center

2.- they put on 50 LBS

3.- worst of all...the blowjobs go away



you are doomed........

I've been married for 17 years.......what's a blowjob ??

In all seriousness, my wife loves the fact I go to the gym instead of what I used to do. Riding and racing bicycles ( road, time trial and cross )
During the week after work I would be gone 2-3 hours almost every night and on the weekends, I would be gone 6-9 hours each day getting the miles in or racing.
If she finds a couple of boxes in the house..........WW III might start

 

[machomadness22]

Just make sure you make time for her know? There is nothing wrong with taking a break everynow and again. I'd say have at least 1 maybe two date nights a month take her out wine and dine her and let her know how much you appreciate her putting up with the eating and time away from home. I say this because my wife was/is the same way and it has really worked for us. Happy wife happy life right?

 

[mytreefiddy]

but seriously.. I bolded the part of your OP that I found to be the most telling.


funny how that works huh?

swapped the rings now time to pull the ripcord and inflate into a life raft.




she is shit-testing you, and by reducing the amount of time you're spending in the gym, you're failing. you should not have to ask your woman for her permission for anything, much less for her approval for something that makes you better as a person.

id go back to lifting 4 days a week. you're allowed to have 4 hours a week to do what you want.

women try to change their men, and once they've bended and molded them completely to their will, they leave (with 80% of his paycheck and sometimes lifetime alimony), saying "you're not the man I fell in love with".

well no shit, you were making the changes she said she wanted you to make.

women will want you to compromise, but will make absolutely no compromises themselves.


don't take the bait.

I agree with LS 100%....lil by lil they try running shit more and more..... I thankfully am fortunate enough to be with someone who loves the BB LS as much as I do.... even compete together.... it's FANTASTIC!

 

[S2K05]

Why do you need her support? Do what you wanna do. If she doesn't let you fuck her, keep calm. Say that you will never go back to the gym, take a levitra-dapoxetine blend and send her to the hospital. And you will have the best week of your life.

Or stay like that for the rest of your life.

 

[raw33man]

fucking hate women like that... I have seen plenty.

Once they get married they stop taking care of themselves.....and their excuses are oh so you never loved me

 

[raw33man]

anyway, Put Anavar in her shakes....

 

[seven7seven]

Just make sure you make time for her know? There is nothing wrong with taking a break everynow and again. I'd say have at least 1 maybe two date nights a month take her out wine and dine her and let her know how much you appreciate her putting up with the eating and time away from home. I say this because my wife was/is the same way and it has really worked for us. Happy wife happy life right?

We do do date nights more like once a week (usually Saturday). I do try to show I appreciate her putting up with my hobby but I do think you have to walk the line between showing her appreciation but not giving into her demands 100%.

I really think the key here is to somehow show her it's OK to have a hobby or interest outside of her husband and cleaning the house.

 

[machomadness22]

We do do date nights more like once a week (usually Saturday). I do try to show I appreciate her putting up with my hobby but I do think you have to walk the line between showing her appreciation but not giving into her demands 100%.

I really think the key here is to somehow show her it's OK to have a hobby or interest outside of her husband and cleaning the house.

Yeah I agree with everyone else by not giving in I mean honestly its just going to be communication I send my wife off for a hot stone massage every now and again I mean come up with what you think or be like mytreefiddy and do a show together! That would be fun for the both of you

 

[seven7seven]

Why do you need her support? Do what you wanna do. If she doesn't let you fuck her, keep calm. Say that you will never go back to the gym, take a levitra-dapoxetine blend and send her to the hospital. And you will have the best week of your life.

Or stay like that for the rest of your life.

Outside of this part of our marriage, things are great and I'd like to keep her. I guess I don't need her "support" but I would like to be able to do my own thing and at least have her tolerate it rather than nag me about it.

 

[johnjuanb1]

My best relationships were when my girlfriend was also my workout partner.
Buy her a membership and convince her you want to train together for your physical and mental health, so you both live a long life together. My girlfriends didn't train with me saw the gym as a threat, and their jealousy wasn't healthy.

 

[jasong]

I got back into training shortly after meeting my wife. She used to bitch constantly how I was never home (exaggeration). Constantly asking how much this or that supplement costs and food prices (still bitches about this). Finally after a few years she realized she was fighting a losing battle and gave up the complaining and now supports me pretty well.

 

[little slice]

Outside of this part of our marriage, things are great and I'd like to keep her. I guess I don't need her "support" but I would like to be able to do my own thing and at least have her tolerate it rather than nag me about it.

i wonder what she would think if you obeyed her, quit the gym and diet, and became pasty, pale, and flabby.

wanna know something funny about most women? they actually believe that once you get all big and muscular, you stay that way.

i can't tell you how many times girls have asked me when "ill be big enough, so i can just stop lifting and do something else"


they truly are strange creatures.

 

[broncos62577]

3.- worst of all...the blowjobs go away



you are doomed........[/QUOTE]

Been married 8 years and they still keep on a comin

 

[broncos62577]

I feel for you bro. My wife is quite supportive up until last 6 weeks precontest but thats understandable. Even does all of my injects for me. Im not sure what u can do as my wife was supportive from day one. I think the idea of incorporating her into some gym activities sounds solid though. As u know from ur experience, once u catch that bug, youre in. Just need to find her bug to catch.

 

[seven7seven]

i wonder what she would think if you obeyed her, quit the gym and diet, and became pasty, pale, and flabby.

wanna know something funny about most women? they actually believe that once you get all big and muscular, you stay that way.

i can't tell you how many times girls have asked me when "ill be big enough, so i can just stop lifting and do something else"


they truly are strange creatures.

I hear ya! I remember when we were dating and at one point I was dieting, she asked me when I was going to be lean enough that I could stop and go back to eating like a normal person. I had to explain to her if I cut back on everything and ate like a regular person, I'd lose all the gains.

 

[SteveRogers]

I'm only 24 so take my sage advice with a grain of salt but I think the biggest personality distinction you can make about someone who is passionate about the gym and someone who sees is as a waste of time in one believes in constant self improvement and the latter complacency.

Now it doesn't have to be the gym per se but usually a woman/man who cares about academics, work, whatever can at the very least respect WHY you love the gym and not necessarily the act itself.

The other just lives for the weekend and wants to spend their life on a barstool.

It's their choice so while I'll never understand how someone can be some sedimentary, I at least know that's someone I can never spend a life with.

Find someone who in 30 years is going to be behind you pushing you to improve yourself and giving you the motivation to do so, and you them. You aren't going to change someone so don't waste your time

 

[bighank]

Not being a dick.but just don't care what she thinks.I've been married for 8years and we get along great.she's my best freind. But I have my things I like,and she has her things.she's not into bb or gym at all.but she doesn't mind I go.if she did ,that's just too bad.at least I don't sit in a bar,or pop percs like a lot of people I know. Lol.shell get over it