I made the leap....

[zephyr22]

I got a good lawyer. Im now leaving my house so that my son and my exwife can be in piece. However I have had a contract drawn up so that it is not viewed as abandonement. I still feel shitty but I know it will get better with time. Thanks again Phil hernon for the advice of ending the relationship all together. Im hopefully going to be able to have my son every other weekend. It will be tough at first but overall it will be good in the end. I still feel my ex is a piece of shit but hey thats my opinion. Ive decided to change my cell number and only give it to friends, family, and my son. I dont want the ex to call anymore. I doubt she will but Im done with this hurting each other back and forth. Easier just to not speak to one another unless absoleutely necessary. Only thing that will be tough is seeing her out and about with guys etc...but Ill prob be out with women too so whatever. I feel free at last. Still feel loss because we were together for so long but one cant dwell on things that cant be changed. Im trying to view this as a new begining. I can now place more emphasis on my diet, training, my son and my job. I so appreciate everyone on this board. Thank you all so much.

 

[pesty4077]

Hang it there Brother, Things will get better with time!

 

[hawkmoon]

I am with you brother. August would have been my 14 year anniversary, but the last two years have been hell.

It was incredibly hard to move on, but I have, and life is good in so many ways now.

 

[PHIL HERNON]

Well

I tell you what Z......you are a tough dude.........that was a FIRST CLASS MOVE on your part..........but it took GUTS...pat yourself on the back my man......I look up to you more than any Mr Olympia winner......look up winner and thats you..........let me tell you that millions of single men in your position wether not able to or just cant get out need to look to you for inspiration.

 

[EVERLAST]

time to switch...

switch focus to you now. your health, your attitude, your well being.
Moving on is tough, very tough.
All things pass in time...this too shall pass.

hang tough.

 

[zephyr22]

Well went to take my son to lunch and now im pissed....

I take my son to lunch and I pick him up after practice. I stop by my house to pick a few items up like some clothes etc...Bam the ex starts in on me. I tell her I mean no harm and im only there to pick up some items. She states she wants me to start paying for half of everything again if im going to be here all the time and if im going to leave the dogs here. Anyways I didnt yell or anything I simply stated that I was trying to get my stuff out but it cant be done overnight. I said I dont understand why this has to be screwed up like this??? I mean cmon shes the bastard who ended this now Im the bad guy??? WTF???? I guess Ill never figure people out. Sheesh, you would have thought I brought a hooker to the house the way she acted. I really want to get my stuff out asap. The thing is I have a few freinds with trucks and they were going to help me put some stuff in storage next monday. I guess thats not quick enough??? I mean come on....I just rose above it and appalogized but it is still half mine and she wants me to give her the key. I told her once all my belongings are out It will be in her hand. Not even being a dick just stating Im not losing anymore shit over this. No more lost sleep, no more lost hopes, etc.....Man Some people are just pieces of shit in my opinion.

 

[EVERLAST]

check it...

Make sure everything on your end is all legal.
Maybe take the cops over with you to get your stuff to make sure no shit gets started. Sounds like overkill...but if she is unbalanced...you do not want her to be the one with the cops over there waiting on you. Women often feel the walls crash in after you leave and they realize it is for real. Some will do some underhanded dirty trick shit like say you threatened her or even fake any injury that you supposedly did to them.
Yes. Some people are so vindictive that they would send the father of their children to jail for no cause other than they are heartbroken over a relationship coming to an end.
Set up the child support to go through the courthouse...not you sending it over to her and you guys handling your business.Why? so you have no contact with her about money and so you have a record that "yes, you did pay on time everytime"
Put a "FIREWALL" up so she can do no harm to you.
Later you can take it down if you want to.
Got a lawyer yet? Get an up and coming female with judiciary ambition...best investment I ever made.

It is sad, but come on? Jail is not the next address you want to have.

E