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Little update on this… I found out 2 months after we broke up and I moved out that she had been talking to another guy before we broke up and got into a relationship with the guy less than a week after I moved out. They’ve been together ever since.
It was a guy she’s been friends with for 25 years. I knew about the guy of course. The back story I always got was that they were really good friends in their teens. Her family knows and loves him and his family knows and loves her. He had a huge crush on her and everyone knew it but she never wanted to be any more than just friends. So they remained just friends and have remained in touch all these years.
He’s a barber here in town and has been cutting her sons hair for the past few years. I never really gave the guy a second thought until the last year her and I were together and started having problems. Whenever she would take her son to get his haircut she would always just dress plain Jane. Sweats, hair in a bun, no make up. Then all of a sudden that last year of our relationship she started getting all dolled up before taking him to get his hair cut. Tight ass jeans, ankle boots, hair all styled and curled and full make up. It caught my attention and I asked a couple times why she was getting all dressed up to take her son to get his hair cut. She just blew it off and made excuses.
She claims that while they were talking while we were still together that nothing inappropriate was discussed. I called bullshit. I said that you don’t just go from a 5 year relationship into a new relationship less than a week later without setting the fucking scene beforehand and anyone with half a fucking brain can connect the dots and figure it out.
I honestly didn’t think anything like this was going on. She came to me bawling her eyes out one day shortly before I moved out and said that she had been thinking about how we were both going to be with other people eventually and she said it was killing her. She asked me how long I thought it would be before I started dating someone. I said that I was so broken and sad that it would probably be a few months at the very least before I even entertained the idea. I turned around and asked her… “Well, what about you? How long do you think it will be before you start dating again?” She said that she was hurting so much that it would be quite sometime before she had another man in her life. That dating someone else was the last thing on her mind.
So she then goes and monkey branches me into a rebound relationship. Who knows if she did anything even worse with this guy before we broke up. I know that rebounds rarely last, but I’m wondering if them being friends for so long will make it more likely that they make it.
I should’ve known sooner than two months after the break up that she was with someone else cause she went from crying everyday about us coming to an end and telling me she didn’t wanna go through with it and even going as far as going into the room I was sleeping in (We slept in different rooms the last month we were together) to snuggle my pillow and cry after I had left for work… to treating me like total shit the day after I moved out. Telling me she didn’t miss me. Telling me she felt like a big weight had been lifted off her shoulders. Telling me she wasn’t taking the break up all that hard at all. Telling me she was doing a lot better with me gone. Just a total fucking flip flop from how she was acting before the break up.
Once I found out everything, we would talk and she would tell me how happy she is with this guy, how much the kids love and adore him, she even said she wouldn’t be surprised if they got married. But all that being said, she would still contact me about once a week just to catch up and stay in touch. She would always have some obvious piddly bullshit excuse as to why she was contacting me to try and make it seem like she wasn’t calling me just because she missed me, but then she would always end up wanting to shoot the shit for the next hour. It would usually start out good and then by the end we’d be fighting over what she did.
She would tell me that she didn’t plan on this new relationship happening and that sometimes life just happens.
Eventually I had enough and told her she wasn’t going to have her cake and eat it too by being with this guy but getting me to talk to her whenever she wanted to hear from me. I said she was a lying, selfish, self serving, back stabbing piece of shit and she shit on me and the 5 years we spent together by doing what she did and that it makes it seem like our relationship never even happened and I never even fucking existed. I told her to not contact me again and then I blocked her number and all her social media accounts. That was on Halloween and we haven’t talked since.
It was a guy she’s been friends with for 25 years. I knew about the guy of course. The back story I always got was that they were really good friends in their teens. Her family knows and loves him and his family knows and loves her. He had a huge crush on her and everyone knew it but she never wanted to be any more than just friends. So they remained just friends and have remained in touch all these years.
He’s a barber here in town and has been cutting her sons hair for the past few years. I never really gave the guy a second thought until the last year her and I were together and started having problems. Whenever she would take her son to get his haircut she would always just dress plain Jane. Sweats, hair in a bun, no make up. Then all of a sudden that last year of our relationship she started getting all dolled up before taking him to get his hair cut. Tight ass jeans, ankle boots, hair all styled and curled and full make up. It caught my attention and I asked a couple times why she was getting all dressed up to take her son to get his hair cut. She just blew it off and made excuses.
She claims that while they were talking while we were still together that nothing inappropriate was discussed. I called bullshit. I said that you don’t just go from a 5 year relationship into a new relationship less than a week later without setting the fucking scene beforehand and anyone with half a fucking brain can connect the dots and figure it out.
I honestly didn’t think anything like this was going on. She came to me bawling her eyes out one day shortly before I moved out and said that she had been thinking about how we were both going to be with other people eventually and she said it was killing her. She asked me how long I thought it would be before I started dating someone. I said that I was so broken and sad that it would probably be a few months at the very least before I even entertained the idea. I turned around and asked her… “Well, what about you? How long do you think it will be before you start dating again?” She said that she was hurting so much that it would be quite sometime before she had another man in her life. That dating someone else was the last thing on her mind.
So she then goes and monkey branches me into a rebound relationship. Who knows if she did anything even worse with this guy before we broke up. I know that rebounds rarely last, but I’m wondering if them being friends for so long will make it more likely that they make it.
I should’ve known sooner than two months after the break up that she was with someone else cause she went from crying everyday about us coming to an end and telling me she didn’t wanna go through with it and even going as far as going into the room I was sleeping in (We slept in different rooms the last month we were together) to snuggle my pillow and cry after I had left for work… to treating me like total shit the day after I moved out. Telling me she didn’t miss me. Telling me she felt like a big weight had been lifted off her shoulders. Telling me she wasn’t taking the break up all that hard at all. Telling me she was doing a lot better with me gone. Just a total fucking flip flop from how she was acting before the break up.
Once I found out everything, we would talk and she would tell me how happy she is with this guy, how much the kids love and adore him, she even said she wouldn’t be surprised if they got married. But all that being said, she would still contact me about once a week just to catch up and stay in touch. She would always have some obvious piddly bullshit excuse as to why she was contacting me to try and make it seem like she wasn’t calling me just because she missed me, but then she would always end up wanting to shoot the shit for the next hour. It would usually start out good and then by the end we’d be fighting over what she did.
She would tell me that she didn’t plan on this new relationship happening and that sometimes life just happens.
Eventually I had enough and told her she wasn’t going to have her cake and eat it too by being with this guy but getting me to talk to her whenever she wanted to hear from me. I said she was a lying, selfish, self serving, back stabbing piece of shit and she shit on me and the 5 years we spent together by doing what she did and that it makes it seem like our relationship never even happened and I never even fucking existed. I told her to not contact me again and then I blocked her number and all her social media accounts. That was on Halloween and we haven’t talked since.
