My Father Died Today

[nosmas]

My father was found dead in his bedroom this afternoon, apparently of natural causes. He was in his early seventies.
He is survived by my two older brothers, me (the youngest of his children at 28) and seven wonderful grandchildren.
As some of my good friends from the board may remember, my father stopped speaking to me fourteen months ago when I was forced into the emergency room to have an abscess removed from my left arm. The abscess was the result of an addiction to heroin. He was never able to forgive me for the addiction and never spoke to me again.

 

[thebrick]

Nosmas, I am very sorry to hear this. I wish things could have been better between you and your father. You didn't deserve that. You seem like a good person. Nobody is perfect. I wish he had been there to support your recovery.

 

[JETHRO TULL]

AH, MAN.........THAT'S TERRIBLE NEWS, NOSMAS.

SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU AND HE DIDN'T GET A CHANCE TO WORK THINGS OUT BEFORE HE PASSED ON.

YOU MUST BE HURTING. DON'T GIVE IN .....PROVE HIM WRONG...BUILD A LIFE OF HONOR AND CLEAN LIVING. I'LL BE HERE TO ENCOURAGE YOU....IT MAKES ME STRONGER IN MY LIFE.

SORRY FOR THE LOSS, CHRIS.

 

[STEVO 47]

My father was found dead in his bedroom this afternoon, apparently of natural causes. He was in his early seventies.
He is survived by my two older brothers, me (the youngest of his children at 28) and seven wonderful grandchildren.
As some of my good friends from the board may remember, my father stopped speaking to me fourteen months ago when I was forced into the emergency room to have an abscess removed from my left arm. The abscess was the result of an addiction to heroin. He was never able to forgive me for the addiction and never spoke to me again.

I can't even find the wards to say. This is one of the sadest things
I ever heard. I'm soo sorry for your loss at this bad time between
you and your dad. Keep him in your heart, I'm sure he loved you
or he wouldn't of been so upset. I have demons too brother so your
not alone.

 

[liftin4life]

So sorry to hear about your loss, Nosmas. That's really sad. This is a reminder that all things are temporary, including life...and we never know when exactly our time is up. I can relate to the pain you are feeling right now...I know it's hard. Keep your head up, and know that you will see him before too long.'

check your PM

L4L

 

[SVFootball]

wow. nosmas you know you've been one of my best friends on these boards and i really feel your pain. im so sorry for your loss, especially under the circumstances. its not exactly the same, but my father and my family was dis-owned by his family about 8 years ago, so ive been without grandparents since then. i know how much it hurts and im so sorry for you. despite that span without talking to him, im 100% positive that he loved you more than anything. his reaction was more out of fear of you hurting yourself than anger...no matter what he said. he loved you, and you love him. im so sorry.

if you ever need to talk let me know man...ill be more than happy to give you my number. you can call anytime. you have a PM man.

 

[debo22]

sorry to hear bro. your father loved you and never forget it!

 

[Pushinw8s]

I am very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with your family.

 

[Krom]

He was never able to forgive me for the addiction and never spoke to me again.

Thats messed up I went threw the same thing 9 years ago with a heroin addiction but my father was very helpful and supportive in my recovery twice. If it was a 3rd time I would of been SOL. I'd go to a meeting if I were you.

Is it just me or are a lot of people dying lately? I just got back from my grandmother's funeral this past monday. My boss just got back from his mothers funeral and I read a few similar posts lately.

 

[nosmas]

SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU AND HE DIDN'T GET A CHANCE TO WORK THINGS OUT BEFORE HE PASSED ON.

YOU MUST BE HURTING. DON'T GIVE IN .....PROVE HIM WRONG...BUILD A LIFE OF HONOR AND CLEAN LIVING. I'LL BE HERE TO ENCOURAGE YOU....IT MAKES ME STRONGER IN MY LIFE.

SORRY FOR THE LOSS, CHRIS.

For you new members... consider this... a man... a complete stranger who I had NEVER met or seen face to face contacting me every day of my recovery and multiple surgeries. Then following up with me during my home hospis care after being only twelve hours away from loosing my entire left arm from the elbow down. Every other day I had my bandages from my arm which was conected to a machine (pictures are avail. if you do a search) changed which more than once caused me to go into a siezure from the pain )(I could not be given pain killers due to my addiction) and during all this I would get E-mails from JT of funny pictures or just some stupid funny joke...anything to take my mind off of everything happening to me. When everyone else except my wife wrote me up as a loss, including members of my very own family...Jethro saw me through the hardest times of my life and has never asked for anything in return.

I thank you ALL for being the family that stepped up and took over for others in my life who for whatever reason could not and would not give me the opportunity at another chance.

 

[GeeNo]

My father was found dead in his bedroom this afternoon, apparently of natural causes. He was in his early seventies.
He is survived by my two older brothers, me (the youngest of his children at 28) and seven wonderful grandchildren.
As some of my good friends from the board may remember, my father stopped speaking to me fourteen months ago when I was forced into the emergency room to have an abscess removed from my left arm. The abscess was the result of an addiction to heroin. He was never able to forgive me for the addiction and never spoke to me again.

I don't even know what to say brother. I know I don't know you, and you don't know me, but let me tell you that I feel for you. I lost my mom last year, and while not under the same circumstances necessarily there were definitely regrets on my part and things I felt I should have done but now will never, ever have the chance to do again. And had to deal with the guilt of that on a daily basis.

Bottom line is, don't feel any guilt! He is watching over you, so do what you can to make him proud even in this very difficult time for you. That is the best thing you could do for him and for yourself right now. And he loves you and always will, and any decision he made was BECAUSE of that - right or wrong from your perspective, or his for that matter. Stay strong.

 

[oswlsj]

I am sorry........

i am sorry to hear that and i will pray for you!

 

[nosmas]

Thank you all so much for all the uplifting personal messages. A topic has been commonly expressed in many of them and I would like to address it now with my last post of the night before I turn in to get some sleep. I have absolutely NO negative feelings or anger toward my father for his decision to not speak to me. I fully accept the things in which I have no control over.
Thank you all again and goodnight (for those in the U.S)

-Nosmas

 

[BALDNAZI]

My brother...

I am here for you old friend in this difficult time. Jethro put it best, just live your life clean and with honor. That will do more then anything else for you to get through this time and make up for past wrongs. Please do not hesitate to contact me if I am needed. And Jethro is one of the best people to lean on right now if you need him, so please we are all here for you....

 

[mrsoul]

i am so sorry to hear about your father bro, and also about your addiction. it explains why you are on the methadone. i have some experience with this and would love to share it with you. pm me if you wpould like to talk and i will give you my number. recovery has given me an incredible life and it can for you too. again so sorry to hear about the loss of your father.

 

[PHIL HERNON]

NOSMAS

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.

 

[GoneForever]

very sorry bro.

 

[alecaf]

Im really sorry for your loss. all i can say is keep your head up as time will heal.

 

[Sesshomaru]

Regardless, take what you can out of this and leave the past behind. Be good.

 

[MAINEVENT]

Sorry for your loss Nosmas. Like JT said, prove him wrong. Build the life you want and show him you can do it while he's looking down at you. Im sure he'd be more than happy to see how well you've been doing lately.