MY X-MAS RANT.....A MUST READ FOR ALL!

[MattyFSU]

Ok im sure this has happened to everyone here on this board at somepoint in there lifting career.

im at my christmas eve dinner with the family tonight and i have probably gained about 5 to7 more pounds of lean mass since thanksgiving. im doing so because i want to do a show for the first time the middle of next year. ( i'll post some pics in the pic forum later....will need some feedback )

so my family is italian...and big ( we deep fry 4 turkeys just to feed everyone ) and everyone knows that i enjoy lifting and bodybuilding etc. almost everyone in my family has come to me asking for advice in one shape or another either about diet, training, or supplements. i love helping my fam because its my fam.

but tonight was different. a friend of the family has had dinner with my family for the last 3 or 4 years. hes a college buddy of my uncle. now this guy loves to dog people or make fun of people at there expense just to make himself look good. i really cant stand the guy or that type of person for that matter.

so we all were sitting around talking and he says to me " so looks like you've lost some weight " and i said yeah " im only in the gym once a week and rolled my eyes ". then this guy has the nerve to say " so i guess all those steroids must be working " i couldnt believe he had the balls to say that!!! so i said to him " about as good as that fat drunk beer belly is working for you "!!! and of course some people laughed but come on.....serious.....did he really need to say all of that??? it made everyone feel soooo uncomfortable. my family is smart they know how this sport works and they respect that its understood at a certain level as long as you do shit right.

i guess what im trying to say is how do you guys here combat against questions or comments like this in front of family and friends????


P.S.
AND I WANTED TO LEVEL THIS GUY SOOOO BAD.....

 

[mikeyt869]

if it was me id laugh and just bull shit about it, i think if you take it seriously people start to really think more in depth about it. people have said things similar to me and i make stupid remarks like "yea i put them in my cereal every morning" lol

 

[bigman1]

Bro every year I hear the same cracks, and all it does is make me laugh. It always comes from the most out of shape guy and the reason they do it is because they are to fucking lazy to get to the gym and so the easy way it is to say " hell I could do it to if I took steroids, blah, blah, blah" Just get your fat ass in the gym. Anyways I just laugh, no need to even respond to that kind of shit, they just try to get a rise from you so they can then say "see, roid rage" you can never win with assholes

 

[7_Deadly_Sins]

Shut the fuck up and mind your own fucking business.
That always works well.

 

[MattyFSU]

mikeyt869: thanks for the response.....and thats why i made the beer belly comment as to lighten things up alittle bit. and if you dont mind im gonna for sure use the cereal line!!! that was just perfect!!!


bigman1: your absolutely right. " well if i took steroids i could look like you to " yeah right ass clown....thats only after you let go of the beer, stop eating garbage 3 times a day, and actually go to the gym.....but you still wouldnt look this good!!!



oh forgot to mention this: this was the first time he brought a girlfriend over. so maybe that had something to do with it to. you know.....trying to show off!!

 

[MattyFSU]

Shut the fuck up and mind your own fucking business.
That always works well.

yup that would work to......

 

[mikeyt869]

Shut the fuck up and mind your own fucking business.
That always works well.

lol that prolly works great but it causes a bad silence for a few seconds and they(the people saying the bs) will take that as " roid rage". lol roidrage is a word made up by people who cant understand the frusteration of someone who lives there life in an organized, scheduled fashon, when they cant even remember if or what they had for breakfast

 

[VanR__]

If you take any steroid pop-shot seriously, it shows guilt.
Try to keep it in the bounds of humor, but never retaliate with any serious insults or innuendos.

 

[alecaf]

Ok im sure this has happened to everyone here on this board at somepoint in there lifting career.

im at my christmas eve dinner with the family tonight and i have probably gained about 5 to7 more pounds of lean mass since thanksgiving. im doing so because i want to do a show for the first time the middle of next year. ( i'll post some pics in the pic forum later....will need some feedback )

so my family is italian...and big ( we deep fry 4 turkeys just to feed everyone ) and everyone knows that i enjoy lifting and bodybuilding etc. almost everyone in my family has come to me asking for advice in one shape or another either about diet, training, or supplements. i love helping my fam because its my fam.

but tonight was different. a friend of the family has had dinner with my family for the last 3 or 4 years. hes a college buddy of my uncle. now this guy loves to dog people or make fun of people at there expense just to make himself look good. i really cant stand the guy or that type of person for that matter.

so we all were sitting around talking and he says to me " so looks like you've lost some weight " and i said yeah " im only in the gym once a week and rolled my eyes ". then this guy has the nerve to say " so i guess all those steroids must be working " i couldnt believe he had the balls to say that!!! so i said to him " about as good as that fat drunk beer belly is working for you "!!! and of course some people laughed but come on.....serious.....did he really need to say all of that??? it made everyone feel soooo uncomfortable. my family is smart they know how this sport works and they respect that its understood at a certain level as long as you do shit right.

i guess what im trying to say is how do you guys here combat against questions or comments like this in front of family and friends????


P.S.
AND I WANTED TO LEVEL THIS GUY SOOOO BAD.....

your answer was the best possible answer to that comment lol. I've had similar situations and all i can say is that the person saying that is always envious of your accomplishment. No one that will accuse you of using steroids, besides your family, is really worrying about your health... its really just envy.

 

[nosnmiveins]

im not huge but clearly bigger and in better shape than all my college buddies. they crack on me all the time and i just go along with them and laugh. yes, it is definitely frustrating at times because ppl just DONT understand....but taking a comment like that seriously is just going to make things worse and more uncomfortable for everyone. u handled it well

 

[Big_Truck]

Sounds like you need to lighten up & learn how to take a joke lol.
He might have honestly thought you've slimmed up some considering the fact you are preparing for a show... Then you make a joke to him, then he made one back. That's how it sounded to me.

He has been a part of your Xmas dinners for 3 years you said... It's not like a stranger saying that to you, maybe he thinks he knows you good enough to joke around?

 

[RONJON]

gotta agree with Mikey's answer here

 

[FRKNHUGE]

bro, i hope u take the time to read this
in 2004, summer, my 5yr old cousin, was having a mid july bday party, in which the ENTIRE fam showd up for, my 3rd cousin whom i call uncle, came from DC to PGH to partake, showed up at. he( say his name is jeff), in his hay-day used to use supps(admittedly- sustanon preloads, norma deca, and the old school syntex anapolon) -and whom was a "big dude as well as a Bad MOFO, lol" unquote. he had the nerve to say to me, that the juice i was using was so advanced and powerful, that it made me who i was, NEGATING my hard work, time, energy and dedication. to him i responded in a soft sweet tone(a tone that commanded my entire families attention) i put a hand on his shoulder, and said,--- jeffro,just because you did something in your day that today you may not be proud of, does not give you the right to TRY, and try to persuade people, to make my physical attributes less than what they are, genetics were on my side, and i strived, but you, you got the short leg of the gene pool, so SHUT THE F*(& up. lol
rant- thanks for reading
frk

 

[T TOTAL]

When its happened to me, ive just laughed the comments off and thank them for the complement... They then tend to ask what i mean and i just reply that my training etc must be working or something along those lines....

 

[Big_Truck]

bro, i hope u take the time to read this
in 2004, summer, my 5yr old cousin, was having a mid july bday party, in which the ENTIRE fam showd up for, my 3rd cousin whom i call uncle, came from DC to PGH to partake, showed up at. he( say his name is jeff), in his hay-day used to use supps(admittedly- sustanon preloads, norma deca, and the old school syntex anapolon) -and whom was a "big dude as well as a Bad MOFO, lol" unquote. he had the nerve to say to me, that the juice i was using was so advanced and powerful, that it made me who i was, NEGATING my hard work, time, energy and dedication. to him i responded in a soft sweet tone(a tone that commanded my entire families attention) i put a hand on his shoulder, and said,--- jeffro,just because you did something in your day that today you may not be proud of, does not give you the right to TRY, and try to persuade people, to make my physical attributes less than what they are, genetics were on my side, and i strived, but you, you got the short leg of the gene pool, so SHUT THE F*(& up. lol
rant- thanks for reading
frk

Now that's pretty insulting.

 

[Thor]

GOOD REPLIES

One summer a few years back I had to go to Buffalo, NY to visit some family and I hadn't seen my brother in law in a few years, well it was summer and of course I was quite jacked at the time and when he saw me and everyone was there and heard him, he said to me " Wow, look at you ! Those steroids must really be working." So I just said right back to him with no pause, "yea, better than I thought they would" and acted like it was nothing, then went on to try to explain to him and the rest of the family about how diet and exercise can make a huge difference. Well I must have inspired him because the next year my sister said he was exercising daily and eating right and had lost weight and was looking and feeling great.
You have to sort of shrug it off like these guys said, I was surprised when I heard that though and had to think quick, cause noone in my family has EVER ( in almost 20 years of lifting) said anything like that.

 

[Incoldestblood]

Ugh, I'm dreading seeing my whole family next time, the last time they saw me I was only a few months into bodybuilding and teased me endlessly about how I allegedly was flexing all the time. God knows how they'll take me being more muscular now, a few years later.

 

[tkav1980]

I get comments like this at work all the time. i usually respond with something rediculous like " steroids?!?!?! baby this is pure unadulterated muscle building badger milk!" 9 out of 10 times theyre jealous or inscure, the other 1 time theyre just a dick.

 

[MattyFSU]

thanks for the advice....

thanks everyone for reading and for the advice....

i guess last nite for some reason that comment bothered me where as usually stuff like that i dont even flinch at. i think there was some envy behind what he was saying. and he could only dream about the lifestyle we all live day in and day out.

 

[particleacc]

My brother (a 5'10", 255lb. former competitive powerlifter) has decided that, instead of getting upset and insulted, to embrace this sort of stupidity. He wears a shirt with a big yellow smiley face that says "Steroids are Yummy" to family functions.

At my recent family gatherings, I was the only one not loading up on the mash potatoes, noodles, stuffing, etc., and instead had a heaping plate of turkey with no gravy. My girlfriend's brother got me a big tub of IsoPure protein and I told him it was the perfect gift. Later on, my girlfriend's mom was talking to me about my diet. I mentioned eating 7 times a day and getting at least 40 to 50 grams of protein per meal. I got her standard "your kidneys are going to shut down" speech that she has been giving me for a year now and just kept smiling.

My girlfriend kept mentioning how I am 300 lbs. (odd how she seemed to work that into every conversation) and everyone, including the 5'7" uncle who weighs 300 lbs. (I believe at 75 to 85% bodyfat) told me how unhealthy that was for me.

I have learned to just deal with it and realize that I am simply something that they have never seen before and they simply do not understand.