O/T - Boob Job (serious)

[Che]

Before I come across sounding like, well...a normal guy, I guess - I am looking for a little advice (and maybe the gals can chime in with this one I hope).

My wife is BEAUTIFUL - both inside and out. Since day one she was never a big-chested gal, but that wasn't a big deal. She has always been in great shape. After having four children in our 8 year marriage, she still looks FANTASTIC. While she's been having kids, I've been working out, so now she's on the wagon with me trying to get back into her best shape now that we're finished having kids.

Here's my issue: since she's not breast feeding, my previously small-chested wife now has NO breasts. I know that it has caused her a little frustration because she's made "jokes" about getting a boob job. Up until recently I just laughed it off with her. Now, however, I'm starting to think it's not a bad idea. In fact, if she's trying to get into her best shape ever, why not add something you've never had? My question is this: how do I bring up that I think she should get a boob job without coming across like an ass or making her feel like her physical attractivenss has diminished (and I'll be honest - no breasts is not fun)?

 

[eroc613]

I wouldn't bring it up. If she wants them, she may joke with you to see what your reaction maybe. Just let her know your o.k. with the idea. You bring it up she may get insecure.

 

[buselmo]

"i'm seriously thinking of getting some of this fat lipo'd off... i just hate it..."
"I need some calf implants... i wonder if i should save up to get some"

say that... if she laughs around and jokes with you, say "i'm serious... i wanna change my look a bit. i know you like me the way i am, but i think big calves are cool. you'd like'em on me too"

and if she brings up the boob issue.. just say "if you're serious, i have no problem with it... hell, i want lipo and calf implants and i'm serious about saving up... get it if you want honey"

most people want surgery to look the way they want... even if they know other people like them the way they are... but they are afraid that they'll get laughed at or people would think they're shallow. if you show that you are in the same boat, and you want surgery to, she'll be open to the idea...

but women are tricky ... sometimes they just wanna hear comforting words like "no! you're beautiful and that's the way i like you!" or things like that, and they only bring up the boob job to hear those words...

so take my advice at your own risk

 

[deadandgone]

My wife has no tits either and what brought it out in the open was her picking out a bathing suit. She was looking thru a magazine and said "i like that one but i wouldnt look like that in it". I leaned over to take a look and said, "shit you look way better than that girl. Throw some C cups on ya and you would be in that magazine." That made her feel good and opened up the door for discussion.

Order a Victoria Secret swimsuit catalog in her name. Hell most women get them in the mail anyway.

Just an idea.

 

[Bigluice]

Get them bro. I just told my girl she has to get them. when she had my son they just got ugly, small, saggy. And she doesnt work out or do shit, so the whole package needs improvement, but i need me some fake boobies. lol

 

[pesty4077]

Before I come across sounding like, well...a normal guy, I guess - I am looking for a little advice (and maybe the gals can chime in with this one I hope).

My wife is BEAUTIFUL - both inside and out. Since day one she was never a big-chested gal, but that wasn't a big deal. She has always been in great shape. After having four children in our 8 year marriage, she still looks FANTASTIC. While she's been having kids, I've been working out, so now she's on the wagon with me trying to get back into her best shape now that we're finished having kids.

Here's my issue: since she's not breast feeding, my previously small-chested wife now has NO breasts. I know that it has caused her a little frustration because she's made "jokes" about getting a boob job. Up until recently I just laughed it off with her. Now, however, I'm starting to think it's not a bad idea. In fact, if she's trying to get into her best shape ever, why not add something you've never had? My question is this: how do I bring up that I think she should get a boob job without coming across like an ass or making her feel like her physical attractivenss has diminished (and I'll be honest - no breasts is not fun)?

Funny, my wife wanted a boob job for the longest time and I was dead set against it. I would not bring that up with your wife, she has to want it. Maybe it does not bother her, like you. Oh, my wife got them a couple of years ago and now I am strickly for them.

 

[Steve123]

Dude - You can't tell a Woman that you think her Rack needs improvement and not hurt her self esteem; and, if you live with her, you will regret such a statement....it's a "when" not an "If".

I've taken time to provide you with sample language in the event that the topic is raised again.

Sample Language:

"Baby, I really do love your breasts! However, I understand first hand what it's like to feel self concious about a body part and your happiness is very important to me. If it would make you feel better to get them done, I'll support you 100%".

 

[sadie]

next time she "jokes" about it subtly encourage it.. it sounds like she brings it up for you so i say go with it next time she does

 

[deadandgone]

next time she "jokes" about it subtly encourage it.. it sounds like she brings it up for you so i say go with it next time she does

Spoken like a true woman!

Perfect answer

 

[Newman]

While she's been having kids, I've been working out, so now she's on the wagon with me trying to get back into her best shape now that we're finished having kids.

If BOTH of you are ABSOLUTELY SURE you aren't having any more kids, then a boob job is worth considering.

To avoid Mastitus caused by breast tissue swelling against a breast insert, it's probably best to get her tubes tied before the boob job. Don't let the doc talk you guys into giving her a hysterectomy, it is essentially femal castration & causes serious hormonal complications. My family doc convinced my mom to get a hysterectomy & I'm sorely tempted to take a bat to his knees. She still has to take Premarin & thyroid meds today, decades later.

Also, saline implants are safer than silicone. A silicone leak can cause lymphatic cancer...

 

[Stewie Griffon]

Before I come across sounding like, well...a normal guy, I guess - I am looking for a little advice (and maybe the gals can chime in with this one I hope).

My wife is BEAUTIFUL - both inside and out. Since day one she was never a big-chested gal, but that wasn't a big deal. She has always been in great shape. After having four children in our 8 year marriage, she still looks FANTASTIC. While she's been having kids, I've been working out, so now she's on the wagon with me trying to get back into her best shape now that we're finished having kids.

Here's my issue: since she's not breast feeding, my previously small-chested wife now has NO breasts. I know that it has caused her a little frustration because she's made "jokes" about getting a boob job. Up until recently I just laughed it off with her. Now, however, I'm starting to think it's not a bad idea. In fact, if she's trying to get into her best shape ever, why not add something you've never had? My question is this: how do I bring up that I think she should get a boob job without coming across like an ass or making her feel like her physical attractivenss has diminished (and I'll be honest - no breasts is not fun)?

there is no possible way you can bring it up without drama. wait for her to bring it up, even if she is joking. thats the time to agree. make sure you tell her you are fine with the way she is now, but say if she would feel batter then do it. make it sound like its all about her, make it sound like you dont care either way other than her happiness. if boobs would make her hapy, then tell her go for it. if you push the issue nothing but crap will come.

 

[Sesshomaru]

Honestly, its not your decision and if you bring it up,its going to make her feel like crap no matter how many paragraphs you spend saying shes beautiful. Just think if she says 'Che, you are beautiful inside and out, but youve never had big calves and now I think its not a bad idea if you considered calf implants.'


If she jokes about it and brings it up, just say that its her decision and youre fine with whatever she chooses, but dont lie about it. You have to truly be comfortable with whatever she chooses, or else youre gonna have problems.

 

[Ironraider]

My wife who is absolutely beautiful and I feel very blessed to have her as my wife, is ending breast feeding our 11 month old. Prior to the pregnancy she has a "nice" pair, not small, but not anywhere big either. She believes that after walking around with a nice set...she would like to get a augmentation.

My reaction was simply...you know, I love you just the way you are...but if you feel that could make you feel more confident or sexy, I'll support you. It was very cool...and if she feels that way in the next few months...Papa's gonna have a new set of toys!

The key is...she should bring it up and then respond in love...not like some pervert. Just my 0.02 worth.

 

[MightyJohn]

It is really tough to bring it up...I understand where You are coming from...My past 2gfs had them & the one I have been with for a while now doesn't....& as bad as it sounds it is truly something I miss & wish were "there"

 

[aeliop]

If the shoe were on the other foot

Get them bro. I just told my girl she has to get them. when she had my son they just got ugly, small, saggy. And she doesnt work out or do shit, so the whole package needs improvement, but i need me some fake boobies. lol

I hope Bigluice is kidding but seriously

Put yourself in her shoes. If there was a procedure to give males a larger penis how would you feel if your wife came up to you and said she really wanted you to have the "Dick Enlarger Surgery"

 

[sadie]

Get them bro. I just told my girl she has to get them. when she had my son they just got ugly, small, saggy. And she doesnt work out or do shit, so the whole package needs improvement, but i need me some fake boobies. lol

yikes.. i sure hope you didnt say ANY of that to her remotely the way you typed it here...

 

[triathloncoach]

Augmentation - my personal experience

She's your life partner. She has expressed an interest. You are a heterosexual guy who would like the results. (No need to apologize - all those who like larger, perfectly shaped breasts please raise your hand) Bring it up with her.

If there is not a significant financial burden why not? My wife was always 100% against plastic surgery - she won't even wear make up. But she was always very self conscious of her breasts. My wife got them for my birthday present. She loves them. And so do I.

Aeliop PS - If there was an operation to enlarge my penis, and my wife expressed an interest - I'd be known as John Holmes. Instead of the Wee-Irishman.

 

[Trenman]

After reading this, I am now so glad I'm not a breast man. I feel nothing for breasts, large, small, I probably wouldn't even notice if a woman had none at all.

 

[marilyn]

Do not bring it up....like it was already stated, if she really wants them she will...if asked again, say, baby what ever you want is ok with me as long as it makes you happy

 

[Stewie Griffon]

I hope Bigluice is kidding but seriously

Put yourself in her shoes. If there was a procedure to give males a larger penis how would you feel if your wife came up to you and said she really wanted you to have the "Dick Enlarger Surgery"

i would totally be working 3 jobs to save up for that!!!!!