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He's an old freind in 2 ways, I have been best buddies with him since 1988 and he is 67 years old. He's a grouchy loner that I go on vacation with do his books for his business,give him back rubs, cook him home cooked meals, run the crane or tugboat if I am in town and he needs help at work & have a room in his house when ever I go to his town. He makes up for being a cold unemotional person by being finacially extravigant with me.
He has a million quirks and I know them all. I know how to keep him calm and serene so he can enjoy my company (the only person in the world he is close too) He talks non stop when I get around him since he talks to no one else. I hate talking as I live alone because I prefer quite a bit of silence.
When he does talk he sucks at it and says stuff that really pisses me off, like comments on my mistake or life choices. I just smile and say "yes dear" One time a kid ran me off the road and then got out of his vehicle and ran up to me and called me a "white bitch" and spit in my face. I sat there and took it because I knew there was.t danger & felt no need to esculate it. I told my friend about it and he replyed "your big mouth is going to get you killed one day" i never said a word to the punk but was in a very zen like state to keep myself from pulling out a gun from under the seat.
He talks in circles avoiding saying anything outright and never is ever confrontational.
So 2 weeks ago he called and left a mesage that said "How are you, how is Rover, how is Fluffy, Mimi's dead"
I was like "holy shit...and tried to call him back, no answer, I told him to call me asap. We knew 3 Mimi's, one was a girl that at one time was hui gf and also a close friend after they broke up, the next was married to his fellow employee that lived down the street, the other was a woman that ran the dive shop we use. I was sure it wasn't the last because we didn't know her that well, but the other 2 would be very difficult to bear.
As I waited by the phone, my mind raced as to what could possibley happened.
When he finally called I tried to stay calm and ask him which Mimi it was. He told me and I asked what happened!!!
He told me............I pushed he off a cliff. I asked if it was one of his dreams and he said yes and my blood boiled and I hung up on him.
Normally I would have called back in a few days and acted like nothing happend and it would be gone (we do not talk about stuff, just ignore it & it goes away) but I am over it!!!
To many years of putting up with his immature shit! I just can't call. He's my closest & best friend and the only "family" I got.
I could make it all go away with one phone call, but I can't bring myself to pick up the phone...........and no dammit I don't need a hug, I'm still to pissed off.
Last time I got mad I stayed away for 2 years. I don't want to hurt him because the last time he was crushed, but I am so tired of this dysfunctional friendship and he is never going to change.
He has a million quirks and I know them all. I know how to keep him calm and serene so he can enjoy my company (the only person in the world he is close too) He talks non stop when I get around him since he talks to no one else. I hate talking as I live alone because I prefer quite a bit of silence.
When he does talk he sucks at it and says stuff that really pisses me off, like comments on my mistake or life choices. I just smile and say "yes dear" One time a kid ran me off the road and then got out of his vehicle and ran up to me and called me a "white bitch" and spit in my face. I sat there and took it because I knew there was.t danger & felt no need to esculate it. I told my friend about it and he replyed "your big mouth is going to get you killed one day" i never said a word to the punk but was in a very zen like state to keep myself from pulling out a gun from under the seat.
He talks in circles avoiding saying anything outright and never is ever confrontational.
So 2 weeks ago he called and left a mesage that said "How are you, how is Rover, how is Fluffy, Mimi's dead"
I was like "holy shit...and tried to call him back, no answer, I told him to call me asap. We knew 3 Mimi's, one was a girl that at one time was hui gf and also a close friend after they broke up, the next was married to his fellow employee that lived down the street, the other was a woman that ran the dive shop we use. I was sure it wasn't the last because we didn't know her that well, but the other 2 would be very difficult to bear.
As I waited by the phone, my mind raced as to what could possibley happened.
When he finally called I tried to stay calm and ask him which Mimi it was. He told me and I asked what happened!!!
He told me............I pushed he off a cliff. I asked if it was one of his dreams and he said yes and my blood boiled and I hung up on him.
Normally I would have called back in a few days and acted like nothing happend and it would be gone (we do not talk about stuff, just ignore it & it goes away) but I am over it!!!
To many years of putting up with his immature shit! I just can't call. He's my closest & best friend and the only "family" I got.
I could make it all go away with one phone call, but I can't bring myself to pick up the phone...........and no dammit I don't need a hug, I'm still to pissed off.
Last time I got mad I stayed away for 2 years. I don't want to hurt him because the last time he was crushed, but I am so tired of this dysfunctional friendship and he is never going to change.