some personal issues, could use a little help

[Got Juice]

alright fellas, first ill start off by saying that me and my girl have been having some problems the past few months. normally i would say she is a dumb bitch and get rid of here.. but the problem is, i believe it is mainly my fault.

im just wondering if you guys are the same as me, or if something might actually be wrong with me.

her complaints, im not affectionate. honestly, im not AT ALL. i have basically no feeling, like im numb. i dont wanna sit by her, hold hands, really even kiss, just nail her and im ok. i know all you other hard headed meatheads arent going to fess up, but im sure some of you have to be affectionate. otherwise im fine..lol, however we used to be great, and all lovey dovey etc. for a little over a year. i know that wears off, but its worn off big time.

also, it seems the only time i have a good time is when im out with my buddies at a club talking to some fine pussy. thats when my life is great. so im thinking deep into this, she's a psych. major so she has rubbed off on me a little. im thinking either the alcohol makes me feel good, the pussy makes me feel good, or sometimes rec. drugs which i know i should be uisng make me feel good. i cant actually pinpoint when the problems started or i could pinpoint better whats causing it. i know extasy does fuck with your seratonin levels, but i dont think thats the cause. i THINK it started before that.

i think my main problem is that i just love fine pieces of ass walking around, and thats all i can think about.

oh one last major thing i forgot to mention, i get some pretty nice women and im like man im gonna fuckin tear that ass up.. then when it comes time i cant get it hard.. BUT with my GF its never a problem, i can fuck 4 times straight... whats the deal with thtat?

whats your guys' thoughts on this?

thanks for any response,

Todd

 

[jawbreakerkid]

I think you need to reach between your legs and pull your head out of your ass. Knock off the rec drugs. Including your love life , rec drugs will not help you be successful in any walk of life. Also, stop thinking you're Don Juan, if you really want to be with her, going out to clubs and doing rec drugs doesn't really go well with a relationship, not a healthy one anyway. Make a choice. It's that simple.

 

[UMD73]

Well, this sounds like a good one, I went through that w/ one of my ex's towards the end of our relationship, I just got sick of her I guess, I didn't want to be affectionate or anything, same thing just nail her and that's it. That's pretty normal I'd say, just means its about time to move on....

Chicks, well everyone loves lots of hotties, now problems getting it up, either you're doing too much deca/tren, or you're nervous, that happens to me sometimes when I'm off cycle and hook up w/ a new chick, no matter how many chicks you've been w/ the first time you hook up is always nerve racking. I gotta agree w/ you on the fact that booze and drugs help... I dunno about the rest of everyone else, but I'm all sorts of cocky w/ girls until I take them to bed... pretty sad.... my solution: I take the advice of slipknot from people=shit... "Stop your bitching and fight your way through it!!!!!!"

Good luck w/ the woman, ending it is never easy but probably is the best thing to do

 

[Got Juice]

I think you need to reach between your legs and pull your head out of your ass. Knock off the rec drugs. Including your love life , rec drugs will not help you be successful in any walk of life. Also, stop thinking you're Don Juan, if you really want to be with her, going out to clubs and doing rec drugs doesn't really go well with a relationship, not a healthy one anyway. Make a choice. It's that simple.

HEY BOY, drop your fuckin attitude. and i think im don juan? how bout you shave off that fuckin wanna by mustache thats on your lip.


I never said i wanted to be with her for sure, im saying im having doubts cause i have no real feelings about ANYTHING. read the post if you are going to respond.

yeah and as i said, i know the rec. drugs arent good, however i dont abuse them, or use them every weekend..

all that said, thanks for the response.

Later,


Todd

 

[Got Juice]

hey UMD thanks for the response. it seems like i am going through the same thing that happened to you. maybe its just we are growing apart.

she used to be real into working out when we met, i actually met her at the gym. now she is busy with school and focused on other things. i guess at this point in my life, maybe im just a little too focused on looks, cause honestly thats what i really want right now. also she is about an hour away and we see eachother once a week usually.

Thanks bro,


Todd

 

[UMD73]

Definately sounds like what I went through, same shit, the chick used to work out, and was probably the most athletic and jacked girl I had ever met when I first started dating her, then she let herself go, i mean she was still cute but it wasn't that important to her, and she started to get on my case about going to the gym all the time... jneedless to say it just goes downhill once you reach the point you're at bro, I gotta say again, get out before shit really hits the fan, much better that way...

Good luck w/ this,

UMD73

 

[Got Juice]

yeah dude thats the SAME SHIT. she just dosent have the 6 pack like b4 or whatever, she dosent tan. she dosent dosent try as much to make herself look good. i feel like when i see her im all fixed up and she is in PJ's or something like tha, with her hair not fixed.

then she complains i worry about my apperance too much. i workout too much, i tan, i get my hair highlighted, i but too expensive of clothes, etc. etc. well fuck its my god damn money, she dont complain when i but her a 150$ outfit at express. maybe i do care too much, but who else here dosent?

its just hard man, we have been together for 1 1/2 years, im the first guy she has ever been with and she always used to tell me she was going to marry the guy she had sex with, so now i feel bad about that too. plus i know she is a great girlfriend, she would NEVER cheat on me, she dont drink, 4.0 student. but right now im my life, i guess its just not what im looking for. im scared of regretting it i think.

Later,

Todd

 

[Mr Pickels]

Todd,

if she loves you that much and you broke up with her and regretted it a month or two later, i'm sure she'd take you back.....

after you beg and grovel first

the whole thing is normal for guys.... stop being affectionate... usually happens when your feelings change....

and you can probably get it up with you girl cuz you're comfortable with... new girls = nerves.... reg drugs/alcohol wont help in that dept either.... fucks up the boner bro...

sounds like you two need a little break... time to think things over...

good luck

 

[crackerjack414]

i can relate to what u are saying bro honestly it stops being fun after a while with some girls but u dont know why u are are staying. I dont know i recently cut loose the grils i was seeing to get back with the girl who I know is the one for me. After a year apart we both realized that we belonged together. So all i can say is that whatever happens if its realy ment to be see if u end up together. Maybe u just need to go out there and be single get with alot of random girls and then u might later deciede that u want only her. Thats what happened to me but best of luck either way

 

[Got Juice]

hey i cant say how much i appreciate all the replies. i guess i knew in the back of my head but i didnt want to believe it. maybe we do need a little time apart, and i can see what i really wanna do IN my life right now.. serious GF or not. btw, she has been mentioning marriage for a couple months now. like getting engaged, etc. that dosent help matters much.

thanks again,

Todd

 

[xcelbeyond]

I think most of this has to do with your personalty-type.

When I'm "courting" a gal, I seem to do all the right things. After I settle in with one, it's llike I don't need to that stuff. It's not that I (you) don't need to, it's just the we need to work at being affectionate.

Just do those things that you know you're not doing - holding hands, snuggling, etc. I know it's work but something to work at and if you do it enough it'll be more like second-nature.

xcel

 

[Got Juice]

yeah xcel, i was kind of wondering if other guys have the same affection problem that i have.

its like such a pain in the ass to be affectionate, i hate laying by here because i get hot. i hate holding hands because its uncomfortable most of the time. then i just hate her always rubbing me, she really dosent run be she kind of scratches me and after a while i get irritated.. lol

maybe im just a fuckin grumpy ass, i dont know..haah

also, if she would maybe just let me go out and have fun w/out giving me so much shit i think i would be better. most of the time, i can go out and just dance, but flirt with girls, and thats usually enough satisfaction for me. it dosent always require sex to be happy. like i said, sex is better with her and i know im comfortable with her.

like crackerjack said, ill just see how things go, if we are meant to be together then so be it. i guess im just losing interest. maybe she could help by switching things up a bit, or doing something off the wall.

hell i do all kinds of cool shit for her, but basically then she just says i am taking the easy way out by spending money instead of just showing affection, and she is 100% right.

now i realize why i always want to go on vacation with her, its because we get along when we are on vacation. we have gone on 4 vacations in a year and a half we have been together. and we are going on spring break next month..

Thanks again,

Todd

 

[jawbreakerkid]

hey boy...lol...that's funny coming from a 200lber....kind of cute

You're talking about hitting all this nice ass etc...It blows my mind how many people on here talk about the ass they can get or how it's difficult getting women because they so big and ripped. It must be nice...lol

Also, as far as your bedroom troubles with the other women, are you hooking up with them after the clubs when you've been drinking and popping pills? Either that's the problem or you really do care about your woman and subconciously you can't cheat on her.

 

[MDRThom]

How old are the both of you?

 

[Got Juice]

its not always girls from a club, actually i have only taken a few women home from clubs. i met a girl at kriegers last month, went on a few dates and she came over a couple times. she was sucking my dick and it just went plain ass limp. couldnt do shit for the life of me. and this was no alcohol or tabs involved. BTW, tabs actually help me out in that department.

Todd

 

[Got Juice]

How old are the both of you?

im 21 and she just turned 21 this month. we are both young i know that. im not ready to get married until im atleast 25 or 26. i just wanna have fun while im young and not regret it when im older and married with kids. i regret shit that i havent done in the past and i dont wanna do that anymore.

Thanks,

Todd

 

[jawbreakerkid]

LOL...I've never even been on that site. I'm 5'9" 255, been as heavy as 270. I haven't been 198 in 4-5 years. I also find it interesting to call someone 4 years older than you "boy." I'm done with this, but know your subject before you try to tear them apart...and I'd kill myself before I grow a mustache...lol

that pic you posted leads me to a question (I didn't see it, I'm not a member). Is there another person on the boards with the name jawbreakerkid? If so I find that kind of funny, I got the name from a t-shirt I was wearing when I was on the front page of the sports section here in the Chicago suburbs. I don't think anyone else has that t-shirt, it was from the never ending gobstoppers and my dad's company was printing the labels...I think I'm the only one who would wear one in public...lol

 

[Got Juice]

dude i have to give you a pat on the back for not having that mustache..lol

thats why i wasnt sure if it was you, the dudes name was jawbreaker..lol

at any rate, yeah your definetly bigger than me.. just dont kick my ass.

let me reiterate since you ar older, "HEY MAN"

Later bro,

Todd

 

[C_Horse]

Boner problems

The reason you can't get a boner with another chick is guilt. Guilt is God's way of telling you that what you are doing is wrong. If you dump your girl, you will be able to bang other chicks. Whether you should or not, beats me. She sounds like a good one. Plus, no matter who you are with, other females look good. You'll have that issue forever. - CH

 

[Koevoet]

I can relate, once the 'honeymoon' period is over and you're both a little too comfortable on each others company things change. Personally I only enjoy affection at the beginning, after the novelty wears off I have no interest in anything except sex. Perfectly normal in my opinion. Since you're only 21 I'd say move on to the next piece of ass.

I'm not gonna preach to you about the rec. drugs, but if you want my advice PM me.