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Not sure what happened to my TJ thread ...I take maybe that I was getting bashed ....lol ...and my boy was looking out for me ...ha ha ...but this was a post that I thought should go out to BIG Whimp and my married friends here ....not looking for drama or to fight the world here .....maybe chef pm what happened ....
Hella of a post big wimp .....[ kind of like your screen name .....mine was a joke as well ......mine screen name was a joke that me and a former girlfriend made up after reading the boards for awhile ....it is totally meant to be sarcastic ...if Big A and the mods would let me change it ....I so would do it in a min ......My name is Jason .....glad to meet you .....I liked your post a lot ]
As far as my married friends go .....I envy you all .....relationships are never easy ......but real love .....where you do for each other ....put each other first ....and make each other bette, is something that I thought I found , but lost recently . Cherish what you have my friends .....the grass is never greener ...relationships and love take understanding and work .[ I was willing , my partner was not unfortunately ] Think about this .....you want to build your body so you research things and put lots of effort into it right ?....Why would you not want to do the same when it comes to love and relationships ? What will be more worth it as the yrs pass by .....? Cherish your wives and families guys ....put in time to learn ,grow , and be a better partner everyday .....if you can't spend 15 min learning a day about how to be a better friend . lover , and partner you are really doing yourself a disservice . Focus and endurance is what is takes to realize your talent .....and that is what it takes to keep a relationship great . If you think good enough or that things are fine you may want to think again .....70 - 80 % of relationships fail with in 8 -10 % and 25% of women cheat ......value what you have guys ....don't be lazy ...fight everyday for love ......it takes a real man to see this and understand how amazing sharing your life with someone can be.....
Also , please note in my world you see it all ....open marriages , swingers , guys that cheat ect......the one thing I will say having been witness to this for many yrs ........it is all empty bs that makes people unhappy in the end .....people just trying to numb themselves and justifying themselves for doing so ....[ when I was younger and single .....I was a bull in the swinger scene for a few couples and quite a few parties ....for those that don't know ...a bull, is hot guy .....usually younger and well endowed that fucks the wives of guys that get off and that shit.....all these couples claimed how happy they were ......yeah rt ....I saw tons of drugs use ...cheating outside their arrangements ....so much crazy bs I can't even tell you ....I tried to be open minded and see if it was a lifestyle that I could get into .many top 90s bbers were in the scene too ...I was young ...liked fucking lots of women at the time ect.......but after awhile it repulsed me ....the denial was insane ..and it just wasn't for me .....don't get me wrong ,there are nice people in all level of that scene as well as other adult endeavors ......they just aren't seeing the deeper picture and how they are really just hurting themselves or others .....]
Most of the richest people I know have the emptiest lives [ this goes for many professional athletes I have known as well ] ...instead of looking for real human connection and value .....they are constantly looking for empty pleasures or new conquests .....
Life is about love , connection , appreciation and feeling like you matter ......if you think busting a nut in some stranger is going to help you with any of that ......I beg to different .....just like rec drugs or alcohol .....it will never be enough .....if you can't look at you wife when she is 70 and find beauty as well as amazing pleasure, then you truly are missing out .....I love young women ....I am very attracted to them ....the love of my love was way younger ....I have been with more women than any one man I know that isn't famous or that is into hookers .....yet, I would kill just to make love to make ex for the rest of my life ......4 yrs was not nearly enough ......I understand with life and kids it is tough to stay connected and keep the passion alive ...but work at it guys ....keep learning all the time ...and fight for what you got ......take it from the 42 yr old guy that has been around and lived on the dark side of life ,not the opinion /judgment side...when I give advice it is real talk .from mistakes I have made , things I have leanred , or personally observed time and time again [ as I have got older the less that I realize that I know ..and the more I want to save people from from making my mistakes or the mistakes I seen others make ]....I am a bright guy ...and try be a better man every day ....yet ,here I am alone because I couldn't make things work with the one great love of my life despite my effort and knowledge ....
So married guys .....I envy you ....I respect what you have ....value it ......stay connected and fight to better everyday .....the odds are against you ....people quit and don't value each other like they once did ....so stay sharp ....and remember there is nothing pretty about the emptiness [even it seems like it ]......stay beautiful and loving ......my best to you all and I hope you all beat the odds ......it can be done .....so work hard to beat them til your last breath........
Hella of a post big wimp .....[ kind of like your screen name .....mine was a joke as well ......mine screen name was a joke that me and a former girlfriend made up after reading the boards for awhile ....it is totally meant to be sarcastic ...if Big A and the mods would let me change it ....I so would do it in a min ......My name is Jason .....glad to meet you .....I liked your post a lot ]
As far as my married friends go .....I envy you all .....relationships are never easy ......but real love .....where you do for each other ....put each other first ....and make each other bette, is something that I thought I found , but lost recently . Cherish what you have my friends .....the grass is never greener ...relationships and love take understanding and work .[ I was willing , my partner was not unfortunately ] Think about this .....you want to build your body so you research things and put lots of effort into it right ?....Why would you not want to do the same when it comes to love and relationships ? What will be more worth it as the yrs pass by .....? Cherish your wives and families guys ....put in time to learn ,grow , and be a better partner everyday .....if you can't spend 15 min learning a day about how to be a better friend . lover , and partner you are really doing yourself a disservice . Focus and endurance is what is takes to realize your talent .....and that is what it takes to keep a relationship great . If you think good enough or that things are fine you may want to think again .....70 - 80 % of relationships fail with in 8 -10 % and 25% of women cheat ......value what you have guys ....don't be lazy ...fight everyday for love ......it takes a real man to see this and understand how amazing sharing your life with someone can be.....
Also , please note in my world you see it all ....open marriages , swingers , guys that cheat ect......the one thing I will say having been witness to this for many yrs ........it is all empty bs that makes people unhappy in the end .....people just trying to numb themselves and justifying themselves for doing so ....[ when I was younger and single .....I was a bull in the swinger scene for a few couples and quite a few parties ....for those that don't know ...a bull, is hot guy .....usually younger and well endowed that fucks the wives of guys that get off and that shit.....all these couples claimed how happy they were ......yeah rt ....I saw tons of drugs use ...cheating outside their arrangements ....so much crazy bs I can't even tell you ....I tried to be open minded and see if it was a lifestyle that I could get into .many top 90s bbers were in the scene too ...I was young ...liked fucking lots of women at the time ect.......but after awhile it repulsed me ....the denial was insane ..and it just wasn't for me .....don't get me wrong ,there are nice people in all level of that scene as well as other adult endeavors ......they just aren't seeing the deeper picture and how they are really just hurting themselves or others .....]
Most of the richest people I know have the emptiest lives [ this goes for many professional athletes I have known as well ] ...instead of looking for real human connection and value .....they are constantly looking for empty pleasures or new conquests .....
Life is about love , connection , appreciation and feeling like you matter ......if you think busting a nut in some stranger is going to help you with any of that ......I beg to different .....just like rec drugs or alcohol .....it will never be enough .....if you can't look at you wife when she is 70 and find beauty as well as amazing pleasure, then you truly are missing out .....I love young women ....I am very attracted to them ....the love of my love was way younger ....I have been with more women than any one man I know that isn't famous or that is into hookers .....yet, I would kill just to make love to make ex for the rest of my life ......4 yrs was not nearly enough ......I understand with life and kids it is tough to stay connected and keep the passion alive ...but work at it guys ....keep learning all the time ...and fight for what you got ......take it from the 42 yr old guy that has been around and lived on the dark side of life ,not the opinion /judgment side...when I give advice it is real talk .from mistakes I have made , things I have leanred , or personally observed time and time again [ as I have got older the less that I realize that I know ..and the more I want to save people from from making my mistakes or the mistakes I seen others make ]....I am a bright guy ...and try be a better man every day ....yet ,here I am alone because I couldn't make things work with the one great love of my life despite my effort and knowledge ....
So married guys .....I envy you ....I respect what you have ....value it ......stay connected and fight to better everyday .....the odds are against you ....people quit and don't value each other like they once did ....so stay sharp ....and remember there is nothing pretty about the emptiness [even it seems like it ]......stay beautiful and loving ......my best to you all and I hope you all beat the odds ......it can be done .....so work hard to beat them til your last breath........