What a shitty new year!!

[GettinBigR]

The wife and I were at my buddys house haveing a good time, she was pretty intoxicated, me not so much, not a big drinker. We got in a little dispute nothing serious, very dumb actually. I apologized for my behavoir told her that I loved her, but she refused to apologize says im an asshole. Now its 330am and she is balling in the bedroom and refuses to talk to me. When ever we fight we are very good on working it out but when she drinks its like a hit or miss. We either get along great or we fight. She is not an alcholic by any means. Has anyone ever encountered this? This is just not like her and Im apologizeing for shit that dosent make any sense just to get her to calm down. Im sure if we sleep on it and let the booze wear off it will be eaiser to talk but tomarrow is gonna be a fight (she was like pres. of debate club in highschool) and Im tired of being wrong when I firmly believe that was not wrong in any way. Help me out, im about to lose my mind! Thanks to all!!

 

[halflife]

The wife and I were at my buddys house haveing a good time, she was pretty intoxicated, me not so much, not a big drinker. We got in a little dispute nothing serious, very dumb actually. I apologized for my behavoir told her that I loved her, but she refused to apologize says im an asshole. Now its 330am and she is balling in the bedroom and refuses to talk to me. When ever we fight we are very good on working it out but when she drinks its like a hit or miss. We either get along great or we fight. She is not an alcholic by any means. Has anyone ever encountered this? This is just not like her and Im apologizeing for shit that dosent make any sense just to get her to calm down. Im sure if we sleep on it and let the booze wear off it will be eaiser to talk but tomarrow is gonna be a fight (she was like pres. of debate club in highschool) and Im tired of being wrong when I firmly believe that was not wrong in any way. Help me out, im about to lose my mind! Thanks to all!!

"let the booze wear off" and don't appologize for anythign right now just to get her calm, just leave her be. But when she sober's up completley, and over the hangover like in a day I would talk to her. I'm not sure what to do from there other guys on here will be better on that advice.

I had an ex that when she would get drunk it would be a switch, she would argue about little tiny things (like you I'm not a drinker so I know I interpreted the situations correctly with her while she was drunk) and then she would either get madder or run off and cry. The next day after the hang over was over, she would come to me and apologize for X Y and Z.

For example we got in a fight at a friends and then she ran our of the apartment and went across the street to a grave yard bare foot. I chased her about five minutes later (delayed to give her some space) and found her on her balling her eyes out searching for her grandmothers grave... so focused on that as if the fight never happened just 100% focused like the grave was going to disappear if she didn't find it.

That's just one of many many. But I wish I would of sat her down sober and talked to her...

Listen to what some of the other guys advise on here, they helped me a lot.

Hope you get things worked out!

 

[njpooldude]

1) all females are f'n looney

2) anything that can bleed for a week straight and not die, is not human

3) im sure when u wake up this moring things will be better... ( hopfully)

 

[marilyn]

humm......

1) all females are f'n looney

2) anything that can bleed for a week straight and not die, is not human

3) im sure when u wake up this moring things will be better... ( hopfully)

Well.... in many cases some men behave this way....coming from a non-loone, who doesnt get drunk, hysterical,nor cries about things.....no drama!!, so, I would agree that the buzz must be gone in order to have any sensible conversation............now, if this is typical behavior, then obviously you guys shouldnt be around alcohol...not if this keeps happening...sounds like you are doing the right things, but yes, some women are dramatic, hysterical, and they act crazy when drunk......if nothing else is going on, just get her to stop drinking...period. noone wants to make an ass out of themselves on purpose, she will listen.

 

[GettinBigR]

After I got done posting early this morning (330am), she came out of the bedroom and went to watch tv, still crying, I walked past her and she looked up and I could tell she wanted to talk, we did. I pretty much apologized for everything and then some and finally she apologized. It all felt good last night but now I woke up this morning and I feel very angry, I feel like I have been walked on. Now if I were to tell her this im betting that she is gonna flip and tell me that I lied to her, that i did not mean I was sorry, that I was telling her what she wanted to hear. Im just stuck, I truly believe that she blew this way out of proportion and now Im tucking my tail between my legs and cleaning the mess up.

 

[VanR__]

If your wife is a drama drunk, then expect this kinda shit when you go to a place with drinking.

 

[muscledoc1]

1) all females are f'n looney

2) anything that can bleed for a week straight and not die, is not human

3) im sure when u wake up this moring things will be better... ( hopfully)

LMFAO.....

 

[Designbuilt]

I've been there, except that my wife was an acoholic, and thought that everthing was a laughing matter. I then started drinking after a while, mainly because I didn't care.

Not to go into so much detail, but I would let things go, and eventhough we've been sober for well over 3 years now, and we have our lives together, a lot of the things that she said and did bother me to this day. I bring them up and she gets defensive or tries to blame me, I regret not bringing them up while they were fresh, to get it off my chest.

Otherwise it wouldn't have built up so badly inside. I'm not try to tell you what to do, but If I had it to do over, I would have spoken up right then and there or a few days later. (which I did, but then we would drink and forget about it or do something else)

Since your wife is not a acoholic, than it shouldn't be that big of a deal to leave well enough alone. I just wanted to share my experience.

If you do decide to confront her, you should say something like this: "I know that you were drunk, etc. so I know that you didn't mean what you said/did. However, I want to let you know that you did upset me and I never want to see that side of you again. There is no justification for what happened other than you being drunk, so let's not debate the issue and never bring it up again."

Something to that effect.

Good luck.

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

You did your part and apologised, that's all you can do! BUT, did she apologise for drinking so much?