So me and my wife have finally about had enough of each other, we tried avoiding it but it was inevitable, it must end.
To all the divorced guys out there, how much trouble did you have getting split custody of your children? Im away from home 6 months out of the year and I'd really like.to be able to spend my time off with my son. I doubt she will be very civil about the matter though
sorry to hear this. I have joint legal custody of my daughter because my ex agreed to it. but to be honest it doesn't mean shit, she never consults me and just does whatever she wants, lol. I have learned to live with it.
I have my daughter every weekend- getting joint physical custody is hard. in the end one of you will have to be custodial parent and the other one will be non-custodial parent unless you agree otherwise. from your schedule you will most likely be non-custodial parent- which basically means you are a nothing.
My ex was very easy to get along with before she met her current husband. So I would be as nice to your ex as possible and try and get her to consent to as much time as possible. If your ex gets remarried to some insecure shithead (like my ex did) things will get worse and it will be even harder to deal with her.
I've read that courts are awarding joint custody more but I think it's bullshit, I know guys that have gone through a custody battle and ended up with less visitation than before.
The "standard" visitation is one dinner night a week and every other weekend. Dinner nights are a hassle especially if you live far away.
My advice-
1-try and get your ex to agree to joint custody- it will make it easier and once it's signed off on by the courts its very hard to change.
2- Never give your ex an opportunity to get a restraining order against you.this will really fuck up your chances to have joint custody- always stay calm.
3-always stay calm- remember when you get angry or upset about anything find someone and talk it out. never argue or yell at your ex.